Hi LHG,
I actually do get it. ATM I think I was feeling a little sad for my brother and the delayed gratification etc. And his wife is very very ill, and it's very hard for them...their choice I know. Their life within the congregation is pretty good, I think. They are looked after more than most it sounds like. It works for them.
I left in 2001 also and never regretted it for one second. It was difficult, but it was the surest decision I have ever made.