Man....this is super tough. I agree with Unique1....she has too much free time and not enough productive things to keep her busy. I think where-ever she is she needs things to do that will make her feel like she can make a difference. Maybe volenteering someplace. (A animal shelter-something with animals seems theraputic or something with disabled kids) Ask her what she would be interested in doing to feel good about herself and the good thing about being 14 is that she can blame her family for not having time to get involved with what the gang is doing. She needs the grown-ups to take charge and make her mad......secretly she wants it.
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Help needed with 14 year old teenager who has gang (Krips) ties.....
by skeeter1 inthis is long, sorry.
my 14 year old niece came to visit us this week.
she's being raised by her grandparents (ex-jws) and birth mother (ex-jw).
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Life sometimes can throw some curveballs
by Junction-Guy inamanda suggested i post this on here, i talked with her about it this morning.. .
things are getting strange, there is a woman who is a little older than me, who keeps dropping hints that she wants to go to myrtle beach with me.. .
i would feel funny taking her there as that is where we spent our honeymoon together.. .
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megsmomma
Dave.... I can fully understand what you mean about taking chances that can destroy you. Those are not really taking chances...that's being self-destructive. (In my case anyways....I took wreckless chances because I didn't care what happened to me) You have survived the "bad" chances you took and learned from them. Take good chances now.....armed with the knowledge and life experiences behind you.
Lyndi
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What do you think about disassociating?
by esw1966 ini have left my old congregation 2 years ago.
i have left jw teaching 1 1/2 years.
i like being true to my beliefs.
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megsmomma
I would leave it as is for your kids sake. Somedays I wish I had not DA'd for my daughters sake. ANd I agree that it is their terminology and your not under it anymore.
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What if the ex died......
by esw1966 inthis thought came up today.
i have 3 children.
i am hopeful for them to get out of jw someday.
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megsmomma
I don't know the answer on that one, but, I do wonder that myself. My 9 yr old is with her dad and step-mom. If he dies, will the step-mom have rights to raise MY daughter? I get to see my daughter and talk to her on the phone...when they choose to answer it. I feel the time may come when she deciedes to not talk to me. Then what? How can I force her to? I have made it clear to her that I will love her NO MATTER WHAT and I will always be there for her.....hopeing if the cult gets the best of her little mind right now, she'll never forget me.
It is so hard to go through this.....(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))
I feel like there is little chance of the ex's passing away though. (And I wouldn't wish that on most days...)
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megsmomma
Welcome to the boards! You'll be addicted in no time! LOL!
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Life sometimes can throw some curveballs
by Junction-Guy inamanda suggested i post this on here, i talked with her about it this morning.. .
things are getting strange, there is a woman who is a little older than me, who keeps dropping hints that she wants to go to myrtle beach with me.. .
i would feel funny taking her there as that is where we spent our honeymoon together.. .
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Hi Dave,
I don't usually ring in on your threads to give my advise....but, I wanted to tell you what I think about this situation.
You can't be scared of life or freeze in the spot you are in now. Take a chance....take MANY chances. That is the only way to start getting back to being YOU. Maybe you will have a great time, maybe you won't......but, it won't hurt. Don't overanalize things....and get out of the past. Make NEW memories in Myrtle beach! That doesn't mean you are putting less value on what you and Amanda went through......
It seems you are gun-shy about life now, and that is not how you want yourself to be, so CHANGE. Trust me, we all have pasts that can haunt us if we let them....Just try not to let them. ((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) Go have some fun!
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I am so mad right now, I am in a rage.
by Paralipomenon inthis is a vent.
i just showed up at work and am livid.
the reason?
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megsmomma
Wow....I am sorry you came into contact with such a unsavory person this morning. He must've had brown eyes, cause he sure was full of sh*t!
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Another actual chat dialouge with my Witness friend...
by deaconbluez inif you guys remember some of the previous conversations i have posted between us, she is heavily indoctrinated with every facet of watchtower world.
lately, we've been talking about her serious relationship with a non-witness.
he tried studying, but just couldn't agree to go along with the wackiness.
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megsmomma
Good job reasoning through things with her. Sounds like she is listening since she remembered you already quoted Russel!! COOOOOOL!
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Killadelphia - Murdered Cousin - Cancer
by Funchback inhey everybody.. as you may or may not know, i moved from philly to phoenix exactly one year ago because of a job transfer.
i really love it here in the phx.
it feels like home.. if you're in the usa, philadelphia has been getting a lot of negative press regarding the murders that are occurring lately.
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megsmomma
How tragic! I hope your dad beats the cancer and I am sorry about your cousin...hope they find the a$$holes that did it.
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Our son's JW wife.....
by lavendar inwas wondering something: if after all the prodding and urging from our jw daughter-in-law to convert our son (her husband).....what if he decides not to get baptized into the borg?
will our dil catch some "heat" because of this?.
lavendar .
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megsmomma
I have a step-dad who was never baptised. My mom married him before she bacame a JW. She gets all kinds of pity from the congregation since she has to be married to a man who is not baptised, which she thrives on.....and He LOVES the attention he gets at the KH and how people still try to kiss his rear. ALl he sees is the "good side" of the "friends". He doesn't (never has) go in service and people will even lie to him when he has a question just so they sound good. (Naw......they don't teach Jehovah will destroy babies in "A")
I would actually wish for him to be baptised on one hand...to open his eyes to the real world of the JW's. On the other hand, if he was smart enough to see through the sh*t, it could ruin his family.....so double edged sword there.