Wonderful post. I was actually thinking about this last night as I just watched "Gone, Baby Gone." For those who have seen it, they will understand when I say that life is definitely gray.
Coming from a religion in which you are trained to believe that everything is so clear cut, it is only natural that the parents would train their children to think in this fashion. For myself, having experienced that type of upbringing and now raising my own in a "divided" household, I have made it a point to go out of my way to teach my children to use critical thinking skills. I've purchased the "Maybe Right, Maybe Wrong" series of children's books so that I can help my children to trust their judgment in making decisions and to respect the rights of others to feel differently than they do. I am constantly asking my girls to look at things through different perspectives. I feel that I am seeing success in my efforts and am proud of their openmindness and willingness to not accept what others say as gospel just because they hold a place of authority over them.