"dammit my jw wife just walked in and asked what i was doing??? lmao this can hardly get any better!!!!..........."
How did you respond to that? She and the rest of your family who are in probably hope that the move of disfellowshipping you will move you to repentance and cause you to come back to the fold. Now your wife is going to check up on you. She wants to make sure you have no support from any other quarter. I have great sympathy for the situation you are in. I know this has you in a lot of emotional turmoil. Kicking you when you are down, so typical of that religion.
I'm not sure what to say that would help you, so I will just keep you in my prayers and ask God to take on your load. Take care.
Mimi