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  Exceptional Artists within our Midst.....

  by restrangled in

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  i have had extensive contact with a true artist who cannot expose himself.. he is one of our members and i am moved after receiving copies of his art work.

  he is also a pianist, and volunteers to inspire children.. i feel compelled to talk about his abilities.

  his art is exceptional and addresses so many of our feelings.

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  FreeGirl2006

  Will the talented artist please stand up? At least share some artwork! We would love to see it. Sounds like an exceptional person.
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  Dating--Then & Now

  by FreeGirl2006 in

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  i was the good little christian girl.

  except for one brief blip on the radar, i dated only "brothers" and only with the view to marriage.

  frankly, the attitude of the single brothers made me almost despise men.

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  FreeGirl2006

  I was the good little Christian girl. Except for one brief blip on the radar, I dated only "brothers" and only with the view to marriage. Frankly, the attitude of the single brothers made me almost despise men. But I kept slogging through just knowing one day I would be blessed for remaining a virgin, dating only "in the truth", etc. I turned down quite a few dates with very attractive, kind "worldly" men even though I could barely get a date in the truth because I was not a size 0, a pioneer, a dowdy dresser, a meek, quiet, personality-less "Christian". Well, I won the lottery at age 30 and married "in the truth"...to a man who disliked sex. Eight years of a bad, almost sexless marriage to a "loyal brother" almost did me in and I left. Btw--I never cheated on the man even though it was tempting.

  So, I am now separated (will be divorced later this year) and df'd. I decided to date. I was a bit uneasy at first because of all the brainwashing about how bad the "worldly" people are and that they can only be after one thing...blah blah blah...anyone who was in the Borg for long knows the spiel. I love dating! I have met some really nice and attractive men. And they don't all want just sex. Surprise, surprise, they are even looking for love, a partner, a friend. One gentleman that I dated for several months is probably the most spiritual person I have ever known. He is familiar with the witlesses so when I told him my whole family was shunning me, he wanted me to hop on his Harley with both of us decked in leather and pull up in their driveway and announce we needed a place to live...ah to see the looks on their faces would be priceless! Worldly men are much nicer and far more generous than any of the brothers I ever went out with. Dating has been a pleasure and it is so nice once it is freed from the constraint that YOU MUST MARRY if you are dating. What a crock!

  Anyone have any dating experiences they care to share? What has been the nicest and the worst thing about dating "in the truth" and "in the world"?

  Would you ever date a former Witness or do you want to just not go there? Would you feel more in the comfort zone to date someone who understands your background? I don't know if I would date a former witness because I think I would be afraid he might want to go back...not that that has been an issue for me yet. Of course, the benefit of dating a former Witness is the fact they understand completely the shunning thing...normal people can't quite wrap their mind around this "loving" procedure by a borganization that claims to follow in Christ's footsteps and be the epitomy of brotherly love.

  How have you met people? I have been doing the internet dating sites with success.
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  What was your greatest motivation......

  by onlycurious in

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  ....to get out of bed to do massive hrs of service each month?.

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  FreeGirl2006

  Growing up, we were beat by the super zealous pedofile step-creep elder if we resisted Saturday morning service.

  Later, as a single sister I wanted to do the "right" thing and be obedient and help people. I bought into the program. Plus, I really wanted to get married to someone "in the truth" (barfing and gagging here). What a freakin joke! Anyway, I strived to be the best Witness girl I could be because I just knew I would be blessed with a good Christian husband.
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  Ban on Jeans , T-Shirts & Shorts after the Convention

  by dozy in

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  apr km insert.

  "even during leisure time , such as when going out to eat after the programme , we should dress as befits ministers... and should not wear such clothing as jeans , shorts or t-shirts.

  what a witness this will give to the community.".

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  FreeGirl2006

  For the first time since I've been out of the org (2 1/2 years now) I got a shiver and the heebie-jeebies from reading that stuff from the Kingdom Ministry. For a horrifying half-second, I was back in those awful Kingdom Hall chairs, listening to that tripe being read to me from the platform, and I was seeing myself saying, "yes, I'll obey". *shudder*

  Boy, I felt the same way, Dave.

  The zombie dress code. I always took my badge off...I hate to stand out.

  Sounds like they have some new stuff to start d'fing people with. Sister Freegirl, we think you are unrepentant in your sins toward the congregation. You wore jeans and a tank top in your hotel room after the convention. Barf & gag.
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  Can't you feel the love!!!!

  by kerj2leev in

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  got this poem sent to me and wanted to .

  since theres only one day, .

  and this is my day.

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  FreeGirl2006

  I agree with found-my-way's sentiment that the self-righteous faux-piety makes me want to puke!

  Don't miss any of that crap being passed around or vomited from the platform.

  Great poems guys! At least they are sincere.
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  Confused!!

  by KCM in

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  have only just started posting on here.

  read everyone elses though ... :-).

  as some of you may know, i've just got my divorce through.

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  FreeGirl2006

  KCM...girl you will find your life blossom if you let it. I was df'd and I am going through a divorce. The hubby is a poster child for all that is wrong with this crappy organization. He is not df'd even though he should be, but he also looks extremely unhappy! Tee hee hee...I am doing great and I have made some wonderful friends. I now have people in my life who actually stop in and check on me when I am ill, who call me, who care about me. What a refreshing change from the Borg!
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  Elders Visits

  by Jobees in

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  one thing that i hear regularly is that once an individual is d-effed they are visited once a year by elders to see where they stand.

  in 8 years i have not had one visit, and they know where i live.

  is this how the elders are supposed to be?

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  FreeGirl2006

  I think it depends on the elder body. Frankly, I am in hiding and in a gated community so I don't think they will ever find me and I am quite happy to be free of the Big Brother element.
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  Question about JC's...

  by Justice-One in

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  there are three cult leaders (opps, i mean elders) on the jc, right?

  does it take a majority or all three to agree to df you?.

  can anyone give the outline on the standard jc?

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  FreeGirl2006

  Just reading over the process makes me want to vomit. Justice, love, concern, and lastly holy spirit??? I love how they say they are judging because of sins against the congregation....my sin did not affect the congregation at all.

  I too had Elder Nicey-Nice, Elder Too Busy to Care About You, and Elder @%% hole. Df'ing me was the best thing they could have done for me...freedom tastes ever so sweet.
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  Okay, here's my story.

  by sundawn77 in

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  hey all.. first of all i want to say that i am really impressed by the warm atmosphere that this board provides.

  i remember when i was little and we learned about non-witnesses, and they were portrayed as children-eating, blood-drinking criminals.

  okay, i exaggerate, but the connotations were there!.

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  FreeGirl2006

  I don't know if the pain from family rejecting you ever goes away, but you will find people to bring into your life that will become your family. It sounds nightmarish with the elders, but I am not surprised. You should have heard the ridiculous grilling I got when I went before them at age 10 to tell them about the sexual abuse I was suffering at the hands of one of their own. I hate that whole arrangement.

  You have found a good place to come and be comfortable and to speak freely...something you are never encouraged or allowed to do with the JW's.

  Sounds like you have a solid life...enjoy it...and you are making a mockery of the dubs belief that apart from the organization you cannot possibly have a good life.
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  Help He has been reinstated and Iam lost!

  by smily in

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  he has been reinstated and only just told me because he felt i could not understand!

  he says he is living 2 lives, 1 with me and his non witness friends and 1 with his jw's.

  he says he loves me but i dont understand?

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  FreeGirl2006

  Poor girl! I played the fence when I was young & dumb...and I broke my guy's heart. I was just too deep into the doctrine to break free for anyone. It is a losing situation for you. Cut your losses and run, run, run far away from him and the witnesses.