Sounds like we have all had similar experiences. It is sickening the lack of love displayed toward the "lesser" members of the congregation. I remember when I asked the elders why not one of them came to see me the three years I was in bed, doped up on a bucket load of medications and in/out of the hospital for surgeries. The loving reply? "You can't expect to be shown love if you are on the fringe of the congregation." I said, "Excuse me, but I was not on the fringe of the congregation (ie--next to inactive/totally inactive by their definition)until I became seriously ill." The love just radiates off of them. I had more calls, cards and visits from "worldly" relatives and workmates than I did from the loving brotherhood. So glad I am out of the loveless borg. The friends in my life now call or email me every day to see how I am doing...don't think that ever happened the entire 30 years I was part of the borg.
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3 months, not even a phone call about my late mother from the Dubs.....
by WingCommander inso......it has been 3 months since my mother passed away and not one, not one witness has called, stopped by, or even sent a card to me!
it hit me today.
i mean, i must have gotten like 50 sympathy cards in the mail from her worldly relatives and co-workers, as well as numerous phone calls, but not one witness has done anything!
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Damaging property and driveways in Field Service. The good old days.
by Open mind injust got done reading b_deserter's partial life story and it sent me drifting down memory lane.
this is a long, rambly story, so if you're not in the mood, i'd recommend clicking on another thread.. did you happen to grow up in "god's country?
" you know, a rural or semi-rural part of the country that is far superior morally to the "sin den" i moved to, california?
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One time out in "God's Country", we pulled up to a trailer in the middle of nowhere. I was glad no one was home because I imagine they would have come out with a gun since they used marijuana as a nice border plant in their flower beds. Since I grew up in the middle of moonshine country....we had many a gun escorts off the premises with the recommendation to forget that we found that road. Nothing like the "good ole days" of door-to-door torture.
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FreeGirl2006
Laughing until I cry! Remember you should not hide your light beneath a basket so keep the comedy coming!
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Were You Ever Afraid That You Might've Made The Wrong Decision In Leaving??
by minimus inare you 100% sure that leaving the organization was the right decision?
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Hmmm...well, I went from 30+ years of unhappiness to happiness in a short period of time. I would much rather have some happiness and then take a dirt nap (if that is my outcome) than live life under a Nazi-Elder regime now and in a paradise/hell governed by same. So, no doubts!
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Very clever! Love the janitor reference.
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New Here, My Personal Story
by johannahw ini have thought off and on about the jws for years.
my little sister brenda converted about 30 years ago and raised two sons in the truth as she called it.
one boy, mason, is still being raised as a jw (he is 15) and my other nephew, aaron, left the organization on his 18th birthday.
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Welcome Johanna! Thank you for sharing your story.
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Were you or someone you know sexually molested by a Jehovah's Witness ?
by flipper indue to the fact there are about 27,000 members of this religion that are known pedophiles, and the information about it is kept in a secret database file, i wonder how many lurking jw's as well as others are aware of the severity of this problem?
remember, it's 27,000 pedophiles that they know about.
what about the thousands that don't get caught?
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Sadly, I was a victim by the step-creep. He was an elder. I think I may have told the tale in one of my very first posts. Frankly, what rivaled the repeated rapes was the emotional rape experienced at the hands of the committee at the tender age of 10. The committee decided that because he cried and I didn't and of course the silly rule of two witnesses, that no way could he be guilty. He went on to molest my two younger sisters, and a least one other girl (my babysitter) that I know of. The babysitter was in the same congregation...she was labeled a troublemaker....
Twenty years later this piece of sh*t was df'd for the molestations. That is a long story in itself. But he was reinstated within a year or two and of course does not come with a warning posted to his forehead. Once an abuser, always an abuser. He never got help. All but one of his brothers (all active Jdubs) are molesters as was their father. I think they were all elders at one time or another.
So I get df'd for having a breakdown and not being able to cope with meeting the nazi committee to confess my sins which were done under duress and about 40 different prescription drugs...but that man got a free lunch to rape an unknown quantity of little girls. Am I little bitter? Yes, but I have gotten therapy and I have gotten outta that borganization.
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District Conventions
by EAGLES ini hadnt been to a d.c. in about 10 years is it really true that congragations have to sit together now????
whats up with that is it so that the elders can see who's there and who isnt.
that would blow my scam from way back when i would maybe make one half of one day and tell people i made all 4 days.
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Ah, the memories...the marriage parade....well, I am ashamed to admit I participated in that. I never had covered mirrors though. I do remember the million seats being saved and having to sit in nosebleed, but I preferred nosebleed...good place for the afternoon nap and it was a little cooler. Of course, there was always that one strange fluorescent bulb up that emitted the strange buzzing sound that you could only hear up there in the clouds....Richmond, VA was really bad for the strange lighting.
Speaking of convention gestapo, I remember when we sold lunch tickets and I was being the good single sister with no life selling the tickets and this gestapo elder was in my line and he asked how I was doing. I replied I was doing so-so...I was having a rough day due to a migraine. He got up in my face and lectured me about how I should be doing awesome since I was in Jah's house and enjoying spiritual feast, blah blah blah. I mean, my god, get a life dude and move it along! I don't miss going to the conventions at all...same old crap presented same old way and people just pushy and unfriendly.
Slightly off-topic, but related....I was at a one-day assembly and this "uber-spiritual" family was doing a little dramatization of actual inspired events in their lives. The teen pioneer daughter was discussing how she wanted to move into the apartment of a sister in the congregation. The sister was single, but not a pioneer and the family encouraged the daughter to rethink the decision because "you know, she is not a pioneer, she works full-time so how spiritual can she be? She may encourage you to not pioneer." Now it was stated that the single sister was at every meeting and helped the pioneer sister out in the service every chance she got. I was, quite frankly, livid by the end of this little "faith building" charade. I went up to CO afterward and told him how upset I was about that whole thing and how dare they state that basicallly if you weren't a pioneer you were crap in the borg. I got the blank stare....everyone else spoke about how encouraging that segment was....I was like "did you listen to what they said?"
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One night stands
by Crumpet inhow do you stand on one night stands?
and why?
i was really against them and said i never would again.
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I have not had a one night stand per se. I had some mind-blowing, incredible sex all night long with a wonderful guy on our first date and we have been unable to connect since due to schedules and because his father took a turn for the worse with cancer. I am hoping this week will break that dry spell. I really am just interested in the sex to be honest....he is sweet & funny but our chemistry together is like a never-ending fireworks show and incredibly addictive...it could possibly evolve into something more. I think it is important for a woman to keep her equipment well-oiled and maintained...do what you must or invest in the Rabbit! The best condoms.............Elexa....keep a nice supply on hand. Just some random thoughts on one of my favorite topics.
And Crumpet....I love your comments....I think we would have a lot of fun hanging out together.
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How much have you changed since you left the JWs..........
by fifi40 inthe reason that i ask this question is for two reasons mainly.. firstly, my experience as a jw and within the various congregations i was part of, was that they were a very mixed bag.
there were those who were very devout, studious and appeared to be very humble and placid in nature.
there were those that were very judgemental of others.
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I am no longer 1)depressed 2)judgmental 3)unhappy.
I feel like I am in the sun after a long, cold, dark winter. Frankly, I wouldn't go back for a gazillion dollars. I love life now! It is a refreshing change to the first 34 years of my life. I replaced my "family" who dropped me when I needed them most with some friends who truly are closer than brothers (sisters). When my friends don't hear from me one day...I get a call or visit....I missed a year's worth of meeting due to serious illness with nary a word from the "true christian brotherhood"...definitely a marked contrast.