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  I'm new here

  by mind my own in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm so glad to be a member, i have been reading this site for a while now and finally joined.

  i just love reading all your comments, how enlightening!

  this site has been a source of great comfort for me in the past few months.

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  FreeGirl2006

  Welcome! Can't wait to read your story! Those are my favorite threads.
  
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  Have you ever researched your family history, any tips?

  by restrangled in

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  i have been researching on and off and just started up again for my dad.

  i've gotten back to 1869 and could get further, but all i run into is adds to pay on line companies.

  has anyone ever subscribed or used one of these out fits.

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  FreeGirl2006

  My favorite website, in addition to the ones mentioned, is onegreatfamily.com. It is subscription based. The census records are a great place to gather information. Also, the ellisisland.org if your family immigrated to the US.
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  Bad Dream

  by PoppyR in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  4am in the uk, and i was jolted awake by a dream about my mother dying, she is not in good health.

  i felt overwhelmingly sad that if this happens, she will die in sadness over me.

  and also very upset because she is my mum and i want her to love me and be interested in my life and that just isn't the case any longer.. i realise i am 'luckier' than some on here because at least she speaks to me.

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  FreeGirl2006

  Poppy--I feel your pain. Last year when I was booted, I lost all my sibs except one, all my lifelong friends and I left hubby. It was lonely at first, but I very determinedly went out and made a new life for myself. You have a huge support system here so you are not alone!
  
  *hugs*
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  oh my darn (new) kitty

  by orbison11 in

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  so ihear her meowing.

  so harley(my shih tzu) and i go looking.

  no not in pantry, nor low cupboards.

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  FreeGirl2006

  That is funny! Did she learn to open the door or did she sneak in when you weren't looking? My cat likes to hide too, but she has never made it into the fridge.
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  What Positive Things Have You Achieved Since Leaving?

  by sweet pea in

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  2. experiences

  purps' wonderful thread about love made me wonder about something else.

  what have you achieved/become since leaving the organisation that proves there is a happy, successful life outside being a jehovah's witness?

  for me, although it's only been a very short time, too short to achieve much, i count becoming: non-judgemental of my fellow man; a mum that can give her kids all the room to grow and blossom without fear of 'sinning' or being kicked out for bad behaviour; a person that can feel comfortable worshipping in a church or not, depending on whatever i feel like doing; someone who can love and give freely and celebrate life in all it's glory (i just love birthdays!

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  A life, a BBA, dating some interesting men, a small group of genuine friends who care about me no matter what & vice versa. The list could go on. I enjoy life each day rather than looking into a tunnel into a future in Stepford Paradise.
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  Photuris Female / Photinus Male and the Watchtower

  by Blueblades in

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  something i read about.

  photuris is a killer female of one genus of firefly.

  she plays a deadly trick on the males of another firefly genus, photinus.. understandably, the photinus males scrupulously avoid contact with the bloodthirsty photuris females.. but through the centuries of experience, the female hunters have located a weakness in their prey, a special blinking courtship code by which members of the victims' species tell one another they are ready to mate.. somehow, the photuris female has cracked the photinus courtship code.

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  FreeGirl2006

  Interesting analogy!
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  I finally took my stand.

  by Orgull in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just missed two meetings for the first time in five years.. this past week i went "on vacation", housesitting for relatives nearby.

  i told my bookstudy overseer i'd be "away", even though i was only a twenty minute drive from the kingdom hall.

  i spent the entire week away from my insane family, away from the meetings and away from my "brothers and sisters".. it felt great.. coming home felt... not so great.. but the first brick in my fade has been laid.

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  FreeGirl2006

  What ever pace you choose, it is important to build a support system completely outside the borg realm. This is a great place to start--you can blow steam here & keep the facade up in the dublife.
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  Pssst--You Hear the Latest About Sister Kicked Out???

  by FreeGirl2006 in

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  i spoke with one of my dub siblings this morning (this sib has been talking to me recently).

  this is how the conversation went: .

  sib: do you know about the rumors circulating about you?

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  FreeGirl2006

  I completely concur, Dave!
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  Pssst--You Hear the Latest About Sister Kicked Out???

  by FreeGirl2006 in

  1. jw
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  i spoke with one of my dub siblings this morning (this sib has been talking to me recently).

  this is how the conversation went: .

  sib: do you know about the rumors circulating about you?

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  FreeGirl2006

  I spoke with one of my dub siblings this morning (this sib has been talking to me recently). This is how the conversation went:
  
  Sib: Do you know about the rumors circulating about you?
  
  Me: Nope
  
  Sib: Could your ex be starting them?
  
  Me: Tell me what is being said and I might have a clue.
  
  Sib: You are going to be furious! I was furious and I went off on the person who told me.
  
  Me: I doubt I will get furious.
  
  Sib: It is going around that you are hanging with known apostates and you have been protesting against the [dubs].
  
  Me: *laughing* Really? That is pretty interesting...I moved away from that congregation and town, I never see anyone from there, I live a quiet life and I am too busy to preach for or against the [dubs]. *more laughing* Don't these people have better things to discuss? I have been df'd for a little over a year now & I was inactive years before that happened. Anyway, I don't think the ex is spreading that, but the couple who was spreading rumors about my marriage right before and immediately after the d'fing is probably behind it. Who cares? I don't. Sorry you guys were needlessly upset, but I can't remember the last time I picketed anything much less a KH.
  
  So, my guess is that perhaps these fine outstanding dubs are lurking on this forbidden site and stumbled across one of my posts and guessed who I was. (So if you are reading this you gossipmongers...according to the strict guidelines of the GB you are hanging out with known apostates too AND you are a couple of hypocrites to boot). I just think it is so childish to spread rumors when they have more serious things to discuss like the end of the world and mass destruction of non-dubs and then there is that whole "true- Christian-brotherhood-we-are-better-than-anyone-else" concept to preach about.
  
  Can you feel the "Christian" love radiating from the dubs when you hear crap like this? What about you? Ever had a similar situation?
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  Weird Feelings

  by FreeGirl2006 in

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  2. friends

  i had lunch with my stepson today.

  this is not a regular or typical occurrence as he is pretty well indoctrinated into the dubs.

  i am separated (& close to divorce) from his father.

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  FreeGirl2006

  Thanks for all your support. I think Brunn that you are right....I just need to feel it and move on. Thanks for the support! You guys are the best!