Hi Hambeak
nice to hear your good news. You are not a jerk.
All I can say is that if he is going to affect your stability and wholeness then keep him at a distance, but if you can remain intact and stable then have him back. Your stability and wholeness are more important than anything else - this is the conclusion I am coming to at present so my advice to you is from what I am applying in my own life.
love
bernadette