Timmi
The organization is not perfect and yes they do make mistakes, things are by far more restrictive then they have ever been. Those that don't like can freely leave, berate and do what ever they wish, and those that wish to stay can, and abide by the organizational rules, which they believe are based on Gods word for protection in this System.
The problem are double standards, for the organisation (that is imperfect but imposes its rules that you cannot question) and for the members. If a close family member of yours had died for not accepting an organ transplant or a blood fraction when they were forbidden, how would you feel now that they are permitted?
The only thing I try to do is show love, respect others, and ignore those I find to be unchrist like, the worst thing I find rather than the doctrines, is lack of love, gossip, and back biting, smiters, and self righteousness, for me that is far worst than anything else.
What about if you find out that a trusted friend has been lying to you several times and hiding important information from you that would have made you take different decisions in life?
I also find that some stay in the congregations (especially young ones) not because they believe but because they want to do as their parents say because they don't want to be kicked out and have to fend for themselves, they have it to easy at home. I find that to be hypocricy.
It is hypocrisy but it is also survival. The organisation is full of hypocrisy.