GoTan----------- Welcome!! Glad you're getting clear about what you want. Good luck to you in carrying it out. Hope to hear more from you. We will be here for you.
Posts by J-ex-W
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40hello...i've had enough
by GoTan ini hope this finds everyone well.
i feel like i am doing something wrong but i really don't care anymore, i've had enough.
i am 4th generation, born 22 years ago and raised a witness and need out.
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What do women REALLY want?
by Abandoned inok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
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Now, this was funny!Unconditional love and open, honest communication.
available at all good beauty salons
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What do women REALLY want?
by Abandoned inok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
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i could have sworn i was implying they had dysfunction, not wanted dysfunction. i guess you'll read into it what you want, i wonder why that would be....
You're right. I don't get your--humor--on this thread. Not even your attempted joke, for which you high-five yourself, in your defensive response just now.
No...you didn't come across as portraying humor in any way. You could, if you made the point to use emoticons and also contrast it with the serious point [implying they have dysfunction as opposed to wanting it? --Nothing in your posts conveys that idea].
Seriously...you're sounding more and more pathetic by now.
'seriously'. yep, that word fits you all right. maybe one day you'll get my humour. maybe that'll be the day i come across a 'lady'.
Some subjects I am very serious about [no apologies]. Perpetuating the myth that women like abusive/ mean/ rude treatment is one of the the triggers that will turn me serious in a heartbeat. If you mean any of those statements of that kind in jest then, please, for the sake of those who are impressionable and reading this board--make the joke CLEAR as a bell and correct the myth.
As for not getting your humor in general, I'm sure there are some posts on other threads that have made me crack a smile (maybe even LOL). It's not you I'm 'picking on.' I have other readers in mind, some of whom NEED to have these things mapped out. --Not looking at this as opposing camps or mortal enemies...just saying hey--there's a context for brevity now and then, and this is it. I know you know how to respect that.
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What do women REALLY want?
by Abandoned inok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
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Pleasuredome------ Maybe you should have tried to find out what being treated like a lady meant to that particular woman. Have you not read Apostate Kate's thread?
Either you're extremely shallow--and, therefore, attracting nothing but extremely shallow--or you just need to let go of some your black and white ideas about women and dating. Seriously...you're sounding more and more pathetic by now.
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What do women REALLY want?
by Abandoned inok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
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Apostate Kate---------- I couldn't agree more with your ENTIRE post!!
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What do women REALLY want?
by Abandoned inok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
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FHN . really? i expect all women to say that. but then i expect the majority of young women to go for guys who will treat them like that. not because they conciously want to be treated like that, but because subconciously they want a guy who treats them badly because it offers them comfort in that they know what they are getting.
most young women cant stand the thought of forming a relationship with a guy who is gentle, intellegent, deep, sensitive, because it causes unpredictability, it creates uncertainty for the woman in her mind. the challenge is on an intellectual level rather than on an emotional level and most young women dont like that.
Pleasuredome---------- What you're describing is not what women 'want' vs. what women don't want. What you're describing is inexperience/ naivety vs. experience and knowledge gained. Also describing dysfunctional vs. functional social expectations. These things go across gender...male or female doesn't matter.
Either you want someone who can meet you on an emotionally/ psychologically healthy level or you don't. But don't make the sweeping generalisation that social dysfunction is what women WANT. That hits upon the DEFINITION of dysfunction: How far away are your actions/ lifestyle from your statedbeliefs/ value systems/ goals is what determines the degree of dysfunction.
DO NOT PRESUME THAT DYSFUNCTION IS WHAT WOMEN WANT.
--Not even women who demonstrate dysfunction. What they WANT is different from the level they are presently capable of operating on. That is all.
And how good a man are you--are you one who will give them the good and healthy, even though they have not yet had sufficienct experience in this realm to understand the 'rules' of that game and play at a practiced level? That's what it comes down to. Exposure, experience, and practice. Obviously, they've had enough exposure to the crappy stuff...have the decency to give the good stuff when it is in your power to do so.
DON'T EVER ASSUME THAT DYSFUNCTION IS WHAT WOMEN WANT!!!
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Do JWs qualify as Christ disciples based on John 13:34, 35?
by Sola Scriptura inim a long time lurker first time poster.
i am an open minded jw who believes in freeness of speech.
i love my faith and my worldwide brother and sisterhood (even though i see much room for improvement in how things are run).. i thought i would stir things up a bit with the following question:.
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Welcome, Sola Scriptura! Hope to hear more from ya.
--Do I think they qualify based on John 13:34, 35? Some individual JW's--yes, absolutely. The Org. as a whole--by the policies sent down and eforced by the higher-ups...no way. No way. No way.
No way.
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How Often Do You Come To JWD During A Day, Week or Month??? Hours or Mins?
by minimus ini used to be here a real lot.
now i make about 15 posts , if that,.
per day and read a few other threads that interest me.
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No comment...or rather, too many posted comments!
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What Naughty Things Did You Know Of That Went On In Your Hall?
by minimus inas an elder, i knew a lot of things that happened in the congregation, including "secret sins".
what i also knew was that some persons were quite good at being sneaky----especially the teens.
years after my daughter stopped hanging around certain friends and she was in her 20's, she told me little juicy tidbits of what some of her best friends regularly got away with.
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Me...being sexually abused by 2 "brothers"
((((((((((((((((( misguided ))))))))))))))))
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What Naughty Things Did You Know Of That Went On In Your Hall?
by minimus inas an elder, i knew a lot of things that happened in the congregation, including "secret sins".
what i also knew was that some persons were quite good at being sneaky----especially the teens.
years after my daughter stopped hanging around certain friends and she was in her 20's, she told me little juicy tidbits of what some of her best friends regularly got away with.
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A friend of mine used to pull his balls out of his pants and rest them on the shelf below the literature counter while he was doing sound to make us laugh while we were doing mics. He would even comment like nothing was going on.
LOL---the horror !!! Now, that sounds like something my ex-brother-in-law would do!