Posts by J-ex-W

And let's get one thing straight here: There is also a matter of LEARNING STYLES. Not any right or wrong way of taking in or assimilating/ sounding down new information--simply differing learning styles........ Some people learn best by reading or having things read to them--some people learn best by getting in there and DOING the project themselves, picking up and even adding new ideas as they go....

[Example: Someone can sit and show me how to operate a computer all day long...but until I sit down and start punching in keys on the keyboard *MYSELF*--it is not sinking in...!!]

What you are going through here is a LEARNING PROCESS, Honey.... If you are a hands-on learner in most things, it makes perfect sense for you to be a hands-on learner in relational dynamics too. Don't let anyone look down on you or make you feel bad about that...ABSOLUTELY N-O-T-H-I-N-G wrong about that !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So if you learn BEST by rolling up your sleeves and 'digging in' (or, as some call it...by doing things the 'hard' way)...............MORE POWER TO YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That type of learner has some unique gifts to offer as well.

You can and WILL learn from this process, too.

Hope I'm not being too presumptuous with this one. That phrase "learning things the 'hard' way" always makes me think of this. In my opinion, what it really amounts to is learning things hands-ON.... Give yourself permission to learn during this process withOUT beating yourself up for not having known this process before. LET yourself get familiarized...go in with EYES WIDE *OPEN*..........................

Here for you,

J-ex-W

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US fighting for the cause of Freedom and Democracy, is pure propaganda

by frankiespeakin in

they are not fighting for freedom, they are fighting for control and servatude to a certain political ideology.

they claim their form of government is the best and protects freedom.that is a lie and just a clique.

democracy as commonly used is not rulership by the people just because they have been indoctrinated to vote for polotician a or b. i don't vote because i don't want a or b, and we all know it is only a or b, and that is it.

J-ex-W

"The whole aim of practical politics is to keep the populace alarmed (and hence clamorous to be led to safety) by menacing it with an endless series of hobgoblins, all of them imaginary." [H. L. Mencken]

WOW. Doesn't that quote sound exactly like the Watchtower Society, too?

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Quick question!

by emilyblue in

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friends

hello, how long do judicial committees for possible disfellowship typically last?

J-ex-W

emilyblue----------- It is NOT YOU that is unstable here. It is DEFINITELY HIM...and it is his AIM to make you *BELIEVE* YOU ARE THE ONE whose judgment needs to be questioned, because it makes you all the more

c-o-n-t-r-o-l-l-a-b-l-e for him.

These are time-honored tactics he is using...whether he is fully aware of that fact or not. You being prey to this DOES NOT imply 'defect' in you!!! It implies trust, trustworthiness, and hope--which are being taken FULL ADVANTAGE OF BY A CON MAN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Once you become fully educated about the intents, tactics, and warning signs of these types of con men, you will GET OVER THIS ONE and will move on--and will AVOID THE NEXT ONE..........................like any other victim of a con game. Keep your plans for the counselling appt. Honestly, I would recommend doing anything it takes, between now and then, to keep you from talking to him as well. He is not an honest-hearted individual. You deserve--and can have...and WILL HAVE--so much BETTER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Keep plugging away at it...you WILL GET PAST THIS ONE>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Hugs,

J-ex-W

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Quick question!

by emilyblue in

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friends

hello, how long do judicial committees for possible disfellowship typically last?

J-ex-W

At first he was very angry

But he forgave me

and admitted that it was on his head, not mine.

Aimee...his perception of the situation/ YOU will vary dramatically with his MOOD and AIM at a given moment. Don't expect that his assessment of the circumstance will rest here. He's not done swinging/ blaming you--and/ or anyone else--for his actions...not by a long shot. Whatever is likely to get him his 'way' at a given moment...this is the position he will adopt--and expect YOU to do the same. The ride is far from over, Hon.

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Quick question!

by emilyblue in

jw
friends

hello, how long do judicial committees for possible disfellowship typically last?

J-ex-W

Both of his ex-wives were staunch Witnesses, so I'm a fool to think my converting to a JW would solve all of our problems.

emilyblue------- Borrowing from your own terminology, you'd 'be a fool to think' your doing A-N-Ything could solve [ANY] of your problems. YOU are a problem solver, emilyblue. HE is NOT. YOU are a win-win person. He is a win-lose person. YOU look for situations/ solutions that benefit/ satisfy BOTH people. HE looks for situations/ solutions that benefit HIM--so that he will 'win' and the other person will 'lose.' There is N-O-T-H-I-N-G you can do that will change this about him. It is a losing proposition for A-N-Y-O-N-E to have close relationship with him. You can never LOSE enough to satisfy him.

Good for you that you set up that counseling appt.!! Read as much as you can about abuse in general, and verbal abuse in particular, before you go. Copy these threads and any PM's and read them again before you go...and bring copies to leave with your therapist. And expect to go more than once. This is not a quick fix. But it's an absolutely worthwhile one!!! [As, in Y-O-U are worthwhile...!!!!] You go, Girl!!

J-ex-W

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I baked a cake today!!! :D

by Elsewhere in

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i thought, what the hell... i'll try to bake a cake today!

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i think it turned out just perfect!

J-ex-W

Icing hides everything, it's a like a muumuu for pastries,

Yeah...the crumbs he'd have to pick up and frost individually, though!

...My mom used to wear a muumuu--when we were stationed on Guam....

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I baked a cake today!!! :D

by Elsewhere in

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friends

i thought, what the hell... i'll try to bake a cake today!

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i think it turned out just perfect!

J-ex-W

Looks like CORNBREAD to me.

Exactly what I thought--and I wanted some!! The pan to the left, on first glance, looked like an accompanying raspberry streusel... I must be in one of my carb-craving moods or something....

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Sign the Petition Save our American Chocolate!

by kwr in

http://www.modbee.com/opinion/story/13508982p-14115295c.html.

the federal food and drug administration is proposing to redefine the very essence of chocolate and to allow big manufacturers such as hershey to sell a bar devoid of a key ingredient cocoa butter.

the butter's natural texture could be replaced with inferior alternatives, such as vegetable fats.

J-ex-W

Actually, some of us eat so much chocolate that we could actually tell the difference!

For some of us, it could even make a difference HEALTHwise...... ...unless they were to replace the cocoa butter with olive or canola oil...but it's most likely to be transfats (hydrogenated stuff). For me, this could have disastrous effects ............................... I avoid transfats in my diet in general, and dark chocolate--for me--is like a maintstay.................. This could offset the balance tremendously.......

Bad news--very bad news..............

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My Mom died yesterday

by skeptic1914 in

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my mom passed away yesterday.

she was a die-hard jw.

i tried to explain why i couldn't accept certain teachings but rather than rationally consider what i had to say she chose to believe i was just "confused".

J-ex-W

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