Posts by fifi40

22

Letters from readers - National Post

by Toronto_Guy in

jw
friends

its been a while since i posted here...hope everyone is well.. some in canada may read the national post newspaper...friday they had an editorial entitled "halfway between religion and cult", discussing the blood issue as it relates to the the surviving sextuplets in british columbia, canada.

i decided to respond, and to my suprise it become the "letter of the day", published in this weekend's edition of the post.

below is what i wrote.

fifi40

I take my life in my hands posting about this but here goes.............

When I was 24, and a baptised and fairly devout JW, I had life threatening complications during my first pregnancy. This led to my consultants deciding that I needed to have a Caesarean section at about 28 weeks into the pregnancy, thus my baby would be born prematurely. For the first 24 hours after my son James was delivered I was on an intensive care unit, dosed out of my mind on morphine and James, who had not cried on delivery was in the neo-natal unit. Several hours after his birth they came to me (bearing in mind I am quite drugged up) and told me that they needed to move him 50 miles away to another hospital, because this other hospital had better resources to care for him and they asked me about the blood situation. I have to say I couldnt cope, my heart was broken (I am crying now writing this). Even though in England I knew he would be made a 'ward of court', which means basically that they took mine and my then husbands right away to make decisions for him regarding blood transfusions, I didnt want to commit to saying give him blood. My heart was crying give him whatever it takes, my mind was saying something else. The PO from our congregation came in to advise on this matter, but fortunately as stated previously the decision was taken from us. And in my heart I was grateful, beyond belief.

The outcome was that he was given whatever was felt necessary; I was moved to be with him the following day but tragically he died in my arms two days after he was born. I know this is a very sad and disturbing story and perhaps one I should have kept to myself but in light of the thread I thought I would share it with you. There is a part of me that feels shame at even considering saying no to his receiving blood.

Fifi

32

Law Enforcement Connections, Im puzzled

by Junction-Guy in

jw
friends

well i have been working in law enforcement for many years now as a sheriff's corrections officer, in the process i have worked in housing, i have been a cto (correctional training officer) i have worked the medical division, i have worked in booking and intake.

i have done facility security, perimeter security.

one thing that kinda bothers me is that nowadays seems like there is no personal connection in law enforcement.

fifi40

Hi Junction Guy

Just wanted to add my ten penneth. I have been out of the org for about 7 years now and despite having worldly friends, for a long while I felt as though I didnt really belong anywhere. I am remarried to a 'worldly' who was raised with no belief in God or religion and as such, can be very critical and dismissive of the impact of leaving the JWs and the effect that can have on you. I have some great worldly mates but for so long I would just keep them at arms length, as a result of the echoes of the indoctrination I was living with. Or in otherwords, in my head I was still to some extent thinking like a JW. Coming on here has helped me a lot. I started reading and posting in October and my eyes were opened. And now I have let those shackles go, I have also let go of that barrier I had constructed between myself and my 'worldly' friends.

Personally speaking, and I hope it is of help to you but am not assuming such, I think the brainwashing of years of life led within the JWs, can leave you with the feeling that you can only be unhappy if you leave them and if you have contact with any JWs, as I do, they will try to reinforce this. But the mind is a wonderful thing and it can be re-trained. Perhaps it may be of help to you to look up articles of happiness and happy people, to focus on good things and set yourselves goals which will result in you feeling happier. As for friends, I never have a closed mind as to who may become one now. Some of the people I thought least likely are now good friends, as well as the ones you just click with from the start.

You obviously are having a tough time right now, but dont give up, you have a lot to offer as an interesting and thoughtful person and you will turn that corner.

Fifi

167

Songs to make an '80's Guy (or girl) cry.....

by avishai in

jw
friends

another thread inspired this one, and i'm making myself a lil' compilation.... i'll start.

"just like heaven" the cure.

"please, please let me get what i want" the smiths....

fifi40

tijkmo

Aaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

36

100 things to do before you die

by fifi40 in

jw
friends

what would you put on the list, here is a starter.

1. arrive late in the evening to venice's st marks square (this has to be your first visit).

2. be present at the birth of a child.

fifi40

What would you put on the list, here is a starter

1. Arrive late in the evening to Venice's St Marks Square (this has to be your first visit)

2. Be present at the birth of a child

167

Songs to make an '80's Guy (or girl) cry.....

by avishai in

jw
friends

another thread inspired this one, and i'm making myself a lil' compilation.... i'll start.

"just like heaven" the cure.

"please, please let me get what i want" the smiths....

fifi40

In reverse order

If this is it - Huey Lewis

Just died in your arms tonight - Cutting Crew

Keep on Loving you - REO Speedwagon (so cool)

And the top spot

Vienna - Ultravox

20

Were you religious BEFORE becoming a JW?

by LittleToe in

jw
friends

on another thread by restrangled i posted the following:.

i'm really interested by the stories of those who were seduced into the jws.

to what extent they were religious before they became jws?

fifi40

Hi Little Toe (do you have any snow)

Anyway not me I was born and dazed a JW, but my ex husband was a RC before his conversion. He went to a RC school, was taught by nuns and then opted for JWism. He is still one today and a total believer. Occasionally he tries to get me into a conversation about it, but I resist because experience has told me I am banging my head on a brick wall.

Fifi

36

Sexual Predators/Opportunists on JWD

by onacruse in

jw
friends

do you think there are any?.

how would you "know" them if they were predators?.

if you were suspicious, what would you do to protect yourself?.

fifi40

Yes, and I would recognise them by their SPOTS, STRIPES,BIG HAIRY MANE or anything else that made them look out of the ordinary. Protection - if they want to argue with my Kalashnikov..................they can go ahead.....................oops were you serious

Sorry

3

And who are you........

by fifi40 in

jw
friends

this is a poem i wrote today because of how i am feeling.

and who are you to challenge me.

do not respond if you dont agree.

fifi40

This is a poem I wrote today because of how I am feeling

AND WHO ARE YOU

And who are you to challenge me

Do not respond if you dont agree

I wish not to dwell with idiots or fools

So know your place and know the rules

I have studied hard to be this wise

And now the ignorant I despise

Those I deem less learned than myself

I cut down with expert stealth

I took a cause that was not mine

And wasted on it years of time

But though I left its rigid ways

The mindset, that was mine, still stays

In black and white I like to see

No grey areas please for me

Because I'm right and you are wrong

Voice your opinion and my silence will be strong

And so the writer of this poem asks

Please, occasionally stop with your strong views, thoughts and borrowed lines and look inside yourself; deep within your fragile human frame. Do you see what you are and what you do, time and time again? Do you know why sometimes you feel pain and what it is trying desperately to tell you? Do you ever consider the other person and all that makes them what they are? Are you familiar with humility, compassion and not always having to be right? I hope you do, and in doing so, sleep well tonight.

Fifi

25