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  How much have you changed since you left the JWs..........

  by fifi40 in

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  the reason that i ask this question is for two reasons mainly.. firstly, my experience as a jw and within the various congregations i was part of, was that they were a very mixed bag.

  there were those who were very devout, studious and appeared to be very humble and placid in nature.

  there were those that were very judgemental of others.

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  Thanks Mouthy, I await with eager anticipation....................... (I am never sure how to refer to you, Mouthy, Gracie or adopted Gran???)
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  How much have you changed since you left the JWs..........

  by fifi40 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the reason that i ask this question is for two reasons mainly.. firstly, my experience as a jw and within the various congregations i was part of, was that they were a very mixed bag.

  there were those who were very devout, studious and appeared to be very humble and placid in nature.

  there were those that were very judgemental of others.

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  Crumpet my first reaction to your mention of Melton Mowbray was 'they make dog food there as well' but I think sticking to the pork Pie (which I am not to keen on) and Stilton (yum) is probably better..............how long ago were you there.............I am Leicestershire born and bred, although I have lived in various other places.

  Fi
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  How much have you changed since you left the JWs..........

  by fifi40 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the reason that i ask this question is for two reasons mainly.. firstly, my experience as a jw and within the various congregations i was part of, was that they were a very mixed bag.

  there were those who were very devout, studious and appeared to be very humble and placid in nature.

  there were those that were very judgemental of others.

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  Unconfused - It doesnt show on your avatar (the facial hair)
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  How much have you changed since you left the JWs..........

  by fifi40 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the reason that i ask this question is for two reasons mainly.. firstly, my experience as a jw and within the various congregations i was part of, was that they were a very mixed bag.

  there were those who were very devout, studious and appeared to be very humble and placid in nature.

  there were those that were very judgemental of others.

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  Richie Rich - you always strike me as 'a right nice bloke', I loved your thread about your memorial visit, it touched the heart.

  Undecided and Done4good - You sound like you got it sussed.

  Crumpet - You are the babe
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  How much have you changed since you left the JWs..........

  by fifi40 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the reason that i ask this question is for two reasons mainly.. firstly, my experience as a jw and within the various congregations i was part of, was that they were a very mixed bag.

  there were those who were very devout, studious and appeared to be very humble and placid in nature.

  there were those that were very judgemental of others.

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  Mouthy or Dear adopted Gran - I love reading your posts, they are entertaining and humorous, forgive me if you already have done so but dont you think its is time we had a bit of your life story and experiences.

  Fi
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  How much have you changed since you left the JWs..........

  by fifi40 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the reason that i ask this question is for two reasons mainly.. firstly, my experience as a jw and within the various congregations i was part of, was that they were a very mixed bag.

  there were those who were very devout, studious and appeared to be very humble and placid in nature.

  there were those that were very judgemental of others.

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  The reason that I ask this question is for two reasons mainly.

  Firstly, my experience as a JW and within the various congregations I was part of, was that they were a very mixed bag. There were those who were very devout, studious and appeared to be very humble and placid in nature. There were those that were very judgemental of others. And there were those that seemed to sail very close to the line, who lived on the edge and as such could be considered not serious JWs. Since I was d/fed I have been blatantly ignored, lost regular contact with one of my flesh and blood brothers who serves as an elder, and yet other witnesses quite happily talk to me, have even visited me (I am not talking about the Elders visiting me) and I even had one elder tell me that he thought the society had not got the disfellowshipping thing right yet. What I am saying is that my experience of the JWs as individuals was that they are a dont all approach life in the same way and all have different ways of viewing things.

  Secondly, my short experience of this forum has led me to have the opinion that we also are a right mixed bag. There appears to be those that are very studious, those that are very kind in their manner of approach, those that are very hard and judgemental and those that are just plain up for a party.

  I have always been quite laid back in my approach to people and life, both as a JW and as a non JW. I always had worldly friends. I hate judging people to a large extent but like things to be fair. Sometimes I find that posters are very hard on JWs and their beliefs and it strikes me that they have forgotten what it is like being part of that religion and how your thinking and life is manipulated by the teachings.

  What I am asking is this - Do you feel you have changed, grown as a person, become more understanding and forgiving since your departure from the JWs or are you the same personality type as you were before, but just on the other side of the fence?

  Fi
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  Manchester UK to Oxford (Assistance Please)

  by JW_Researcher in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  if you have knowledge about travel in the uk, i'd appreciate your assistance.. i need to get from the manchester airport to oxford.

  when i look at the train website (http://www.nationalrail.co.uk/index.html) i see there are trains that run frequently and seem to be inexpensive enough.. is that the best way to travel?

  i don't want to rent a car.

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  Alternative is coach travel with National express. Had a rough check for you and think trip time is about five and half hours (this may include a change) and is costing about £27 for one way travel. The website is http://www.nationalexpress.com

  Hope this helps

  Fi
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  IT IS TIME FOR A___CONFESSION!

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  there is an old-fashioned definition of the word "confession" which is the public expression of one's deepest faith and belief.. take a deep breath and give a one or two paragraph summary of your deepest belief.. i'll go first.. from the time i was a small child i had a deep and abiding reverence for god as a father.

  (my own father i never even met until i searched and found him when i was 25 years old.

  ) my grandmother had been raised in a catholic convent.

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  As you seem obsessed with being a feline should we start referring to you as Terry the Tiger, Terry the Tabby or Terry the Tom??

  And do you have a soft meow or are you a yeowler?

  Are you a tail thumper or a leg rubber?

  Fi-line
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  IT IS TIME FOR A___CONFESSION!

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  there is an old-fashioned definition of the word "confession" which is the public expression of one's deepest faith and belief.. take a deep breath and give a one or two paragraph summary of your deepest belief.. i'll go first.. from the time i was a small child i had a deep and abiding reverence for god as a father.

  (my own father i never even met until i searched and found him when i was 25 years old.

  ) my grandmother had been raised in a catholic convent.

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  I was raised in the JW religion along with my four siblings. My dad was a racehorse trainer which is a strange and questionable occupation for a JW but was great fun in a lot of ways for us kids. We mixed with every sort of person there is from the incredibly wealthy, grooms that tended the horses and a mixed bag of religious zealots. At about 13 my mum left my dad and as a result was disfellowshipped. I stayed with my dad and continued to go to the meetings until I rebelled at 16 and told my dad I would no longer be going. At about 24, three years after the death of my dad, I started studying, got baptised, married my then boyfriend, became pregnant and lost my first child when he was delivered prematurely at 28 weeks. I clung to the JW faith with all my might because of the hope for my son James and the comfort it gave me. I became a good little JW with many JW friends, a great social life within the organisation and a great comfort in my hopes for the future. In my early thirtys I started to have doubts, was unhappy in my marriage and disillusioned with some of the goings on in the congregation. By 1999 I was disfellowshipped, seperated and going through divorce proceedings, raising my son, in a new relationship and developing my business.

  I am now 40, remarried to somebody I met 5 years ago, have a reasonable relationship with my ex and his new wife who are both JWs and continue to run my own business.

  I could not answer whether I believe in a God or not. I would like to think there is a being out there that cares for mankind and will sort out the problems we face but I am not convinced. The things I am convinced of are

  1. That our children are the most important thing we are ever given responsibility for and deserve the best of ourselves that we are capable of giving. And yet I know that I fail sometimes as a parent.

  2. That humans are all at different stages in their emotional intelligence, their reasoning capabilities and are often limited by the enviroment they are raised in. We are all fallible and as such, unless someone is committing heinous acts we should try to be forgiving and patient of each other.

  3. That we should take care of our own emotional and physical well being as a priority.

  4. That the earth is a beautiful place and we should make time to appreciate it.

  5. Life is very short and we should embrace it with all the enthusiasm and eagerness we can muster.

  6. We should show our love and consideration toward those who are sharing our journey and who are important to us.

  7. And finally not to take it to seriously, in a short while we are all history and we are just not that important.

  As for faith, I have faith in myself. This may sound arrogant but I do. I know that I am far from perfect but I also know that at the heart of me that I am good, kind and fair and that I am a survivor. And I have trust in some of the people I have around me but I have learnt that it can be incredibly foolish to rely on people too much.

  Being truthful I sometimes miss the false comfort that being a JW gave me, as they say 'ignorance is bliss'.

  Fi
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  Men's intuition....please read the womens intuition post first..thanks

  by ninja in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have always said as men we down play our intuition, when we should rely on it more.

  words i should have lived by........i was dating a woman one time....i was getting bad vibes...something was amiss....i should have known something was up when there was another man in her bed and 2 children watching telly in the living room...the subtle signs...also the wedding ring on her finger and photos of the family on the mantle piece were telling me something was not quite right...but what?

  ..i couldnt quite put my finger on it...but!!!

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  Ninja do you think it was the blow to the head with crow bar that started to sort your head out?