and him not to know who the real me is and that he should have the choice to continue as my b/f based on knowledge of all the facts
No no, that's a witness conditioned response. It's like saying if you know what I'm really like you won't want me. You're in effect replacing the org with your boyfriend. In other words, the need to be 100% pure and clean in order to survive armageddon etc is still there but because the org is no longer there to give you it's OK, your sublimating it's judgementalism and passing it on to your boyfriend. If you can't confess you can't feel good is quite a problem for many ex's.
Englishman.