I can relate to that experience you have.
While i was in the "whoreganization" LOL, ok ill try to be serious here. I had a girlfriend who I went out with for 1 year. How it lasted that long? I still don't have the answer to that question.
But anyways, her father (who was an elder) knew the elders in my congregation and they were all great friends. And the elders in my congregation would always tell her parents that I wasn't good enough spiritually.
So therefore, her parents listened to my elders of course. And they limited the amount of time me and my ex gf would see each other. We only saw each other about 3 times a month. And we lived in the same town.
After all that, it really opened my eyes about how everything is so conditonal being in that cult. You have to be performing in the congregation for people to show you love and for you to be well liked.
We broke up in the summer because I got sick of it all. And now, she's getting married to a ministerial servant. And he's working for her dad. Her parents must be happy now, bastards.
If theirs one thing I did learn being out of the cult, is that love isn't conditional. It's unconditional.
keith