Hi Doublelife
alanv: That was my point. I wasn't worried about turning in any time and I wasn't going to. My husband decided to do it for me and then told me after the fact.
I know this was a side point to your original question but have you spoken with him about this? What he did wasn't for your benefit but for his own, he was trying to save face in front of the Cong secretary and show that he's still in charge. Well, don't let him save face at your expense.
By doing this he crossed a line he shouldn't have and took control of a matter he had no right to. Definately take back that control. If I were in your shoes my hubby would be told straight never to do that again.
If he thought he was helping you, then tell him he wasn't. If he wants to help you, tell him to let you control your situation, not the rules, the elders or his pride.