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  The life they stole from me

  by sipho in

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  i have just come across this website and was amazed to read to many similar experiences to what i went through with the 'loving' congregations of jehovah's witnesses.

  i have now been gone 4 years but after reading some experiences i realise that the pain they caused still remains.

  i am now quite angry at the way they control your life and brainwash you - i am so glad i finally saw what was happening and got out.

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  Since leaving I have gone to University and graduated last year with a degree and I have been with a wonderful man for 3 years

  Good for you Sipho! What did you study? Im graduating this year (BSc and will continue from premed to med school), and also have found a wonderful boyfriend, someone indeed with an opinion and more respect for women ever found in a JW. He is very anti-religious though, first I defended it but now start to see his point.

  WELCOME!!!!!

  I hope to see you around to post the rest of your story,

  Eppie
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  Do babies go to heaven?

  by Eppie in

  1. watchtower
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  dear all,.

  i would like to ask you a question.

  when i was 17 i got pregnant by my worldly boyfriend.

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  Dear all,

  I would like to ask you a question.

  When I was 17 I got pregnant by my worldly boyfriend. I was baptised when 16. I won't go into details over the fact that that as a JW was of course a problem. When i was 7 months pregnant I got a beautiful baby girl. Unfortunately she died the next day. I recently found out that the JWs I was living with at that moment (I had lots of problems with my parents) knew from the beginning onwards that she was ill and was going to die very soon. They did however not inform me and as I didn't know I could not be there and could not have her in my arms when she died. After I quit the JWs I wanted to kick their a$$es for that but I passed that stage now and only try to remember her. I am wondering however whether you in your post-JW belief-systems think that babies who were just born go to heaven? Or do you think that their spirits will get another chance in another family?

  Eppie
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  What is YOUR life like?

  by MrMoe in

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  do you generally have things made for you, things set and life generally go your way?

  or is everything is a battle and a major fight for survival?

  just curious.

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  First of all mouthy: i feel for you, i just studied rheumatoid arthritis again in class today (Im a med student) and it doesn't sound very nice...i'm happy you still have the strength to post here regularly.

  As to the question: in general things go the way I want them to go, except of course for the whole JW thing, but I must say that is getting better as well. Of course not all goes my way, people die, friends move, my boyfriend lives in another country , but overall I cannot complain, Im living the happy student life and i just regularly remind myself what my life would be like when i was still a JW: probably a 21-yr-old-mom with two babies, running around to go to the meetings in time, without a career and true friends. So everything is great compared to that!

  Eppie
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  Do You Still Feel Obliged To Answer To The Elders?

  by minimus in

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  for some, there is real fear that they must speak to the elders if they decide to stop by your house .some don't know what they will do if the elders begin questioning them.

  what will you do if they want to talk to you?

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  Hm interesting question again minimus! It's very applicable for me now as I yesterday ran into a JW in town while walking hand in hand with my worldly boyfriend and while smoking a cigarette.. She came up to me and said 'hey don't i know you?' And I just said 'no, I don't think so, maybe we just go to the same stores or so'. She seemed convinced but if not.....she of course will go to an elder to hand me in. And what would I do then? Seriously I would just ignore them! Then they probably would just df me but then they cannot do that on another ground than my unwillingness, I don't want to answer any more questions, don't want to talk to them, to put any energy in convincing them even though i know that's impossible. I don't feel like being afraid of getting Dfd anymore! They can do it if they really want to, no more fear, no more looking over my shoulder when lighting a cigarette, tough luck, this is me they can do whatever they want but can't hurt me anymore.

  Eppie
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  I am Going to Miss You All....Thank You for the Memories

  by Robdar in

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  dear friends,.

  the winds of change are blowing through my life right now.

  as some of you know, i am getting a divorce.

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  Hey Robyn,

  Even though I don't know you I would like to wish you strength and luck the coming time and will hope to see you on the board again!

  Eppie
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  Sins :D

  by Eppie in

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  i just realised that i have committed three 'wbts-sins', or did something at least very questionable in the eyes of the jws, in the past two days (besides the regular sex, drugs and rock&roll of course .

  i went to a groooooooooooooovy concert (and i got the signature of the lead-singer on my arm!!!!

  and the good thing is: i don't even feel guilty anymore!!!!!!

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  I just realised that I have committed three 'WBTS-sins', or did something at least very questionable in the eyes of the JWS, in the past two days (besides the regular sex, drugs and rock&roll of course ):

  I went to a groooooooooooooovy concert (and I got the signature of the lead-singer on my arm!!!! ), I voted as a very good citizen, and I signed up to participate in the Youth model of the United Nations.

  And the good thing is: I don't even feel guilty anymore!!!!!! (I do look around though to see whether there are dubs around or not, but only cause then I can book 'em in as they are there too )

  Eppie
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  Starting my own congregation

  by Huxley in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  isn't it great to wake up on sunday morning and not go to the meeting!

  i love it.

  no hurried underlining of the wt study so it looks like i studied, no stifling ties and lame-ass suits.

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  Yup, Im especially happy not to have to go out into the field again and being so ashamed of yourself that you are doing that and praying that the doors won't open!

  Yup tons of new rituals....hanging out with my friends or just enjoying a ly-in with my boyfriend (who's also very happy im not a dub anymore...)

  Life is so much better without all the rituals! Awhile ago i went to my grandfathers funeral and of course an elder was giving a 'preach' and I unconsciously just slipped into my old-im-sitting-here-but-am-not-listening-when-the-hell-is-this-over-mindset of when i was still a dub.

  I love my life now! No more rituals or obliged meetings!

  Eppie
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  hello im new

  by nowisee in

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  im new to this board and new to computers so bear with me.

  i was raised jw.

  as soon as i could walk they put a bag of wts around my neck and pushed me out on the street.

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  Welcome!!!!

  Of course I was devestated when I heard of the 911 attack (I knew a girl in one of the planes), but im also very devistated about all the people that die every day in the developing countries, something that many people tend to forget nowadays. Every death counts, wherever and however done. And I am very afraid that the revenge of Bush will cause so many more deaths in a short time.

  I am sure you will enjoy this forum and will encounter many nice and interesting people here!

  Eppie
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  Abuse

  by Eppie in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so far i've had so many wonderful replies to my questions that i dare to venture one more here.. i will tell you a story about abuse in my family by a guy that has become an elder lately.

  i will however change some details as i am still afraid to be recognised and dfd (i faded away very happily).. about 10 years ago a member of my close family was raped by a guy.

  even though he was 'only 16' (this has been said as an excuse which really pisses me off), he was raping her when she was only 7 years old!!!

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  I'll think about it Uzzah,

  I did tell a mother whose children are always around his house and they are not allowed to go there anymore. They asked their children but they say that nothing ever happened.

  I can't say where I am sorry about that, i don't mind saying it in the chat but I don't want to be recognised here. Maybe i'll see you around in he chat one day and we can talk about it. I live in Europe, that's all i can say

  Thanks again for your posts, im sure everything will be ok,

  Eppie
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  Abuse

  by Eppie in

  1. jw
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  so far i've had so many wonderful replies to my questions that i dare to venture one more here.. i will tell you a story about abuse in my family by a guy that has become an elder lately.

  i will however change some details as i am still afraid to be recognised and dfd (i faded away very happily).. about 10 years ago a member of my close family was raped by a guy.

  even though he was 'only 16' (this has been said as an excuse which really pisses me off), he was raping her when she was only 7 years old!!!

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  Hey,

  Thank you for your posts but it is somewhat more complicated than that. First of all: the person in question has grown up and is an adult now, and she really doesn't want to report it and doesn't want to go through it again by reporting it. She also lives in the same town as him and doesn't want to have this all over her. Another problem is that in this country there is a certain amount of time in which you can report smth and that time has passed.

  My dad recently (as in a few months) contacted one of the elders that appointed him (he was the only one of the elders that didn't know about the rape as he only came to the cong years later) and he was in deep shock to hear that. He could recall that he asked him in the meeting when he was appointed: 'is there something on your conscience that could prevent you from becoming an elder' and he just simply shook his head and said 'no'. This elder contacted the others but I haven't heard anything since. Neither did my father, and the only slightly positive thing of this is that he knows now that smth is wrong with the WBTS org, he still believes in Jehovah and will never leave but recently he turned an offer to become an elder down and doesn't visit the lectures often anymore. He has written the WBTS org in our country but hasn't heard anything since.

  Just a bit of information before I am attacked again here , it's not as if i don't care, for the first time in my life i can think of me again without running around to help others, i am not egocentric but just happy with that! Seriously, im studying to become a doctor and will asap join some kind of charity org to start a clinic wherever necessary, i am not selfish....

  Eppie