Posts by UnConfused

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The gal I'm dating frequents match.com - advice?

by UnConfused in

i am dating a gal that i met on match.com - we saw each other first last summer, but she didn't think we were a 'match'.

after the "pressure" was off we started hanging out quite a bit with all the benefits that go along with it.

this went on for months.. i became smitten with her, but we weren't a couple, which she pointed out a couple of times.

UnConfused

Turns out she didn't know you could hide your profile, just delete your account - apparently that is how eHarmony works and she had tried that a couple of years ago. So she's just gone on to delete emails she's recently received etc. It was all very innocent, she was horrified for the angst it has caused.

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The gal I'm dating frequents match.com - advice?

by UnConfused in

i am dating a gal that i met on match.com - we saw each other first last summer, but she didn't think we were a 'match'.

after the "pressure" was off we started hanging out quite a bit with all the benefits that go along with it.

this went on for months.. i became smitten with her, but we weren't a couple, which she pointed out a couple of times.

UnConfused

Thanks for the thoughts and advice everyone.

Could I consider Nickleback rather than misogynist rap? I don't think I know where to find misogynist rap anyway.

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The gal I'm dating frequents match.com - advice?

by UnConfused in

i am dating a gal that i met on match.com - we saw each other first last summer, but she didn't think we were a 'match'.

after the "pressure" was off we started hanging out quite a bit with all the benefits that go along with it.

this went on for months.. i became smitten with her, but we weren't a couple, which she pointed out a couple of times.

UnConfused

Love is not for the weak or the insecure. I'm feeling a bit both right now.

She just called and asked if I'd like to join her and some friends for dinner.

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The gal I'm dating frequents match.com - advice?

by UnConfused in

i am dating a gal that i met on match.com - we saw each other first last summer, but she didn't think we were a 'match'.

after the "pressure" was off we started hanging out quite a bit with all the benefits that go along with it.

this went on for months.. i became smitten with her, but we weren't a couple, which she pointed out a couple of times.

UnConfused

Thank Sic - I think you are exactly right, but don't want to admit it to myself.

There is more on the positive side. She's told me that she's never felt so cared for and protected as she does with me and has never wanted to have a child, but actually asked me if I would consider it with her.

See, confusing messages, but I think the fact she's online looking is the current message.

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The gal I'm dating frequents match.com - advice?

by UnConfused in

i am dating a gal that i met on match.com - we saw each other first last summer, but she didn't think we were a 'match'.

after the "pressure" was off we started hanging out quite a bit with all the benefits that go along with it.

this went on for months.. i became smitten with her, but we weren't a couple, which she pointed out a couple of times.

UnConfused

@Mrs. Jones & Nomad - I think you are right, she's keeping her options open. It doesn't feel good as I'm all in.

@Painted - you and I think along the same lines, but sadly I guess I want to delay killing the relationship.

@Amelia - I know right.

Even if it is just 'window shopping' it's indicative of something lacking for her.

*sigh*

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The gal I'm dating frequents match.com - advice?

by UnConfused in

i am dating a gal that i met on match.com - we saw each other first last summer, but she didn't think we were a 'match'.

after the "pressure" was off we started hanging out quite a bit with all the benefits that go along with it.

this went on for months.. i became smitten with her, but we weren't a couple, which she pointed out a couple of times.

UnConfused

I am dating a gal that I met on Match.com - We saw each other first last summer, but she didn't think we were a 'match'. After the "pressure" was off we started hanging out quite a bit with all the benefits that go along with it. This went on for months.

I became smitten with her, but we weren't a couple, which she pointed out a couple of times. I would go online to match.com to see if she was still "searching" and she was, but she wasn't dating anyone else per our discussions. (I don't have a subscription to match.com, but you can see if someone is online if you have a profile

In Nov I mistook a message from her and thought she wanted to move on. To my surprise she not only didn't, but wanted to become a couple. She has never been married and is very guarded of her independence which suits me fine, but she didn't take her profile down off match.com. I would go on sporadically to see if she was 'looking' and she wasn't. And no, I wasn't 'looking' for a lack of a better term I was snooping.

Recently she's online fairly frequently and of course the reason would be obvious. She's far too ethical to be cheating, but it bothers me that she is looking.

My question to you, particularly the ladies, could this be innocent enough? Window shopping? Here is a quote from an article I found online...

" In a city of perpetual upgraders, leaving one’s profile online well into a romance has become the equivalent of flirting at an after-work bar. “My boyfriend found my old date ad up and got mad,” says one grad student: “But, I mean, it’s like window shopping. It’s like SimSex.” Or “antiquing,” as Rachel, a music exec with a long-term boyfriend—and a very active Craigslist.org profile—puts it."

Any thoughts to share? Sadly I very much like her and don't want to confront her, which embarrasses me.

~Confused & Hurt

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I can't remember the 'Most Important Date of My Life!' Can you?

by Diest in

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i honestly cant remember the exact date when i was baptized.

it does not bother me one bit.

i didnt have it stamped in that shitty reasoning book/babel that i got at the time, so i guess the only place i could find it would be my cards, which are far away..

UnConfused

I can. Some of you were baptized way too young

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Jehovah's Witnesses can donate blood

by Marvin Shilmer in

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jehovah’s witnesses can donate blood.

today i added a new article to my blog that answers the question of whether watchtower doctrine forbids jehovah’s witnesses from going to their community blood bank and donating some of their blood to help replace all the products from blood accepted on a daily basis by the community of jehovah’s witnesses.. .

my article is titled jehovah’s witnesses can donate blood and is available at: http://marvinshilmer.blogspot.com/2012/03/jehovahs-witnesses-can-donate-blood.html.