I am dating a gal that I met on Match.com - We saw each other first last summer, but she didn't think we were a 'match'. After the "pressure" was off we started hanging out quite a bit with all the benefits that go along with it. This went on for months.
I became smitten with her, but we weren't a couple, which she pointed out a couple of times. I would go online to match.com to see if she was still "searching" and she was, but she wasn't dating anyone else per our discussions. (I don't have a subscription to match.com, but you can see if someone is online if you have a profile
In Nov I mistook a message from her and thought she wanted to move on. To my surprise she not only didn't, but wanted to become a couple. She has never been married and is very guarded of her independence which suits me fine, but she didn't take her profile down off match.com. I would go on sporadically to see if she was 'looking' and she wasn't. And no, I wasn't 'looking' for a lack of a better term I was snooping.
Recently she's online fairly frequently and of course the reason would be obvious. She's far too ethical to be cheating, but it bothers me that she is looking.
My question to you, particularly the ladies, could this be innocent enough? Window shopping? Here is a quote from an article I found online...
" In a city of perpetual upgraders, leaving one’s profile online well into a romance has become the equivalent of flirting at an after-work bar. “My boyfriend found my old date ad up and got mad,” says one grad student: “But, I mean, it’s like window shopping. It’s like SimSex.” Or “antiquing,” as Rachel, a music exec with a long-term boyfriend—and a very active Craigslist.org profile—puts it."
Any thoughts to share? Sadly I very much like her and don't want to confront her, which embarrasses me.
~Confused & Hurt