SweetPea: Not sure I understand exactly what you're saying, though I'm sorry it sounds like you had a tough time when you split with your spouse.
Did you mean sweetface?
I don't care how "amicable" a divorce and/or separation is, but they are all very difficult. You don't know how bad it is until you go through it. It doesn't get easier the closer you get to court dates, it gets harder. You never really know how vicious and spiteful that BOTH men and women can be until you divorce them.
It was my decision to leave, I packed up my shit, turned in my keys, and walked away from him. I bought him out of the house 6 months later and took over the possession, but until then, it wasn't my house. My point was that in the majority of divorce cases the agreement is for the guy to pay the entire mortgage and utilities, as well as alimony and child support (if there were kids involved.) What makes women think that they should be exempt from the same standards?