They assured her that no DF'ing would take place unless I "shout from the roof tops my disagreements and recruit others to follow me".
Please ask your wife what part of this reassurance she doesn't understand. Once you make your objections clear about the "truth" to the elders, you'll be df'd. And you'll be considerd a spiritual endangerment to her and your kids. This type of talk with the elders is exactly what got SD-7 df'd, and his wife remains a jw despite knowing his reasons for leaving the "truth".
Take the advice of most here, and charm your family into becoming part of the real world. Good luck