You made the right decision to skip the jc. As painful as it may be to have your name announced as no longer being a jw, you will be totally free. No more random phone calls to try to change your sexuality, your goals, and your dreams. And any pain your family feels is self-inflicted. You had the intelligence and insight to see the Watch Tower cult for what it is, and it is NOT your fault that they can't do the same.
Any normal parents would be so proud of what you've accomplished at such a young age...how far you are in college, your full time job, and the fact that you pay your own bills and support yourself. You will NOT fail, my dear, because you don't have it in you....never did and never will.