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  What has happened to your human decency?

  by multifarious in

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  i am new here and i have been reading a lot of stuff on this board.

  my parent's are both jws, i am still active and still believe i have the truth.

  i consider myself a moral person.

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  Welcome to JWD MF

  I too was raised JW, when I was 18 I packed up my 2 day old son and moved out. I moved into a home with a friend of mine and her family because I couldn't be sure that my JW family would be there for me. That if I chose not to go to the meetings and field service or if they found out I didn't want to be a JW that they wouldn't turn their backs on me, because I definately knew without a doubt that there was something wrong with this religion, it wasn't the "truth" and was far from just another religion and I wanted nothing to do with it and certainly didn't want my son being raised in it.

  I didn't feel nor do I feel now that I need an organization or elders or a congregation to tell me how to be a good person, mother, sister, daughter, etc...... I don't need a religion to tell me what is right from wrong and most of all I didn't want this religion telling me how to raise my child. I grew up in this religion and I wouldn't wish that on any child!

  This religion has taken away my mother (most of all) and to a point my 2 siblings and their wives. I love my extended family but we rarely talk. There are some here that haven't spoken to or seen their parents and siblings in years. Is that love? Is that human decency (sp?) Not in my book. You can't force people to be what you want them to be by cutting them off. The only thing JW's accomplish is making people miserable.

  Yes I hate this religion. I hate what this religion does to families. I hate what this religion turns people into. I hate the JW's that have the holier than thou attitude, who think they have the truth and because you choose not to be a part of this religion you will die are the big A, I hate the JW's with the judgemental attitude. I hate the JW's that feel they are better than everyone else when they are no different and some of the time worst than your average person.

  My hate for this religion has not made me into a coldhearted person.

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  January 27th 2008

  by zanex in

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  started out like any other normal day..with plans to go to taos with my girlfriend and a good buddy o mine (wlg) sorry mang...had to give u some recognition on this one...anyhow..we went out to a nice place for some breakfast..wandered around taos, went to the taos pueblos to get a chance to watch the native americans dance at the taos pueblo...then we went out to the taos gorge..which for those who dont know is a quite big hole in the ground bout a mile down...the bridge is somewhat a daunting look down for ones who have never seen it before.... anyhow...my girlfriend at first refused to step one foot out onto the bridge but with a little coaxing and a promise to make sure she wouldnt fall off i gradually brought her out to the middle of the bridge where there is a small outcropping where one can stand and look out over the gorge...we stood there staring over the side of the bridge for a few minutes then i slowly took her hand in mine and looked deep into her eyes.... ....and i dropped to one knee....(quite funny too cuz initially she was like what are you doing?

  )....i still had her hand in mine and she was staring down at me like i was doing something silly or humorous like is my usual personality trait...i stared at her for a minute or two and said a few sentances of which are too personal to bring up here and then i asked her to marry me..... she looked at me and said "what?!

  are you kidding me?!

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  Oh Z,

  I'm so happy for you. It sounds like you are doing ok now and you've come a long long way. It's about time things started looking up for you, good luck and keep us posted on wedding details!

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  Where do I stand?

  by 2112 in

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  i have been out for about14 years, and i honestly don't know where i stand.

  i was neve told i was df'ed, and i never da'ed.

  i remember my wife told mt 'they read your letter tonight.

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  Since it's all a bunch of BS, don't worry about it. Live, be happy and tell them to go screw themselves with all of there labels and titles.

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  ~Mmm. Tell us your healthy snack ideas/recipes~

  by FlyingHighNow in

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  i took a ruby red grapefruit just now and cut it in half and then fourthed the half.

  this started me thinking.

  i bet all of you have healthy snack ideas and recipes you could share with all of us.

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  For breakfast:

  1/2 to 1 cup of non-fat plain yogurt

  2 tsp of craisins

  1/3 cup of lo-fat granola

  1/3 cup of mandarin oranges

  1 tsp flax seed

  1/2 to whole kiwi cut up

  Makes a great breakfast, very filling and tasty!

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  My first panic attack

  by freedomfighter in

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  guess where my first panic attack occurred?

  at the kindom hall of course.

  i was 14yrs old and thought i was being "possessed by a demon".. panic attacks became more common, and at the age of 18 i was diagnosed with "panic disorder with depression".

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  Benzodiazepines may have their use to calm down an attack, but don't help overcome the disorder. I don't see the benefit of taking them on a daily basis.

  I agree, for acute panic attack Benzo's are great but should not be taken daily and most MD's will not prescribe this without some type of long term therapy. Definately therapy because it helps you deal with the deep issues causing the panic attacks.

  Benzo's can cause terrible withdrawal symptoms and even seizures if stopped suddenly after taking for long periods of time/daily. If anyone plans on discontinueing this type of med please do it under the MD's orders. Usually you have to tapper off and then you can use when needed without fear of the aweful side affects.

  There are a lot of people who don't believe in medication. If you need it use it and don't worry about what other people think. If you had diabetes you'd take medication to control that, if you had heart disease you take medication to control that, well mental conditions are no different. It is a health condition and if you need to take something for it, by all means do so.

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  Self Proclaimed Doctors within the Dubs

  by ShirleyW in

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  a previous post regarding herbal meds brings to mind two people, of course they're dubs, that swindled those in "da troof".

  back in the day, when my mother was first brainwashed and attended the edgecombe cong in harlem there were two teenagers, shirley and gladstone widdick, whose father was a jw but there mother was not (smart woman) they even relocated to queens around the same time we did in the early 1960's.

  many, many decades later, there seems to be some kind of buzz within the congregation that iridiologist (sp), i'll just call him the guy that looks in your eye and can diagnose every problem you've had since birth, is going to be in his hometown in new york and that he was "hangin' up the shingle" while he was here, needless to say this self-proclaimed dr/quack was dr. gladstone widdick and his book of appointments i'm sure was longer than the dr. that performed bill clinton's open heart surgery.. i believe he was/is located in the north carolina area, are somewhere in around there, any of you every had your eyes gazed into by this dr/quack ??.

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  My parents went to some quack in NC who looked into their eyes - had them doing garlic enemas twice a day Had them taking about 20 herbal pills a day each.

  He failed to tell them of the stroke they would both have and also the heart problems my dad would end up with

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  Are You Having A Tough Time Making Ends Meet?

  by minimus in

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  do you believe we're in a recession?

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  Yes, it's hard to make ends meet. 2 years ago we got rid of all our credit cards and paid off both cars. So if we don't have the cash for it we don't buy it! Our bill consist of monthly ongoing things such as mortgage, utlities and food. When we have it we go out to dinner or movie. If not we stay home.

  Right now we are doing ok financially but as we all know things can change overnight.

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  We Just Adopted A Son....

  by brinjen in

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  he's a year old, technically a male (he had the surgery yesterday) .

  any suggestions?

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  Yay Roscoe!

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  Sirona & DB74 are having a Baby!

  by diamondblue1974 in

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  for those that know us and that have been following our jwd love story...we cannot contain the news any longer, we have known now for over two weeks but wanted to wait until we had the last early pregnancy scan to confirm everything was ok. .

  today we witnessed a miracle in the making and the ultimate in creativity - the scan confirmed a strong heartbeat and considerable growth since the last scan a fortnight ago.. we are going to be parents .

  gary (db74) & dawn (sirona).

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  Congrats to you both!

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  Healing Reflections

  by coffee_black in

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  my son sent this to me... he and his wife are expecting a baby in march, their first...a girl, who will be named bailey .

  they are words that i think (no matter what you believe) will move you, as they did me....great thoughts to begin a new day.... it takes about 3 minutes... i assure you, it's worth it.. www.dashpoemmovie.com.

  coffee .

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  Damn Coffee that made me a little misty - thanks for sharing that.

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