the weather people all were making a big deal out of snow supposedly coming to the area....riiiiight...even if it did snow the ground is too warm (which of course the make sure to say) for it to stick...all we got was a bit of ice on the windshield and the street are a little slick...nothing substantial.. this morning the front and rear windshields on my fiancees car are iced over.
i went out and warmed the car up for her.
the car door and the wipers were frozen.
$188 for the car repair.... $40 bucks in parts...and $136 for the labor...for pressure testing for leaks in the system, replacing the thermostat and radiator cap.... why are Hondas so expensive to work on? I presume because everything is packed in there.
So my credit card does not get in any lower...at least the heat works...
Crapola:
I don't think I like winter time very much.
No, I don't either...I want to move south...maybe Atlanta area...closer to family.
Snakes (Rich )
i haven't posted much here but i feel like i need some support right now.
i did post my story, but basically i'm 27, married for 7 years and i was df'd in july.
i always knew i didn't want to be a jw but went along with everything because of fear.
jen...
very sorry to hear that you are going through the emotional roller coaster that comes along with being DF. I am not DF but have been inactive for 3 years now. My mom is a JW and she struggles with my decisions, both with leaving the religion she raised me in, and my decisions in life since. As a former elder, I have had my hand in DFing others...and I have struggled with what I did to those people. In reality, I gave them their freedom, but in most cases they were not ready for that freedom.
Since you are DF, and based on your OP, you personally seem ready for the freedom. What you are having a tough time dealing with is some of the fallout from being DF. Give your parents every opportunity to do the right thing, but don't set yourself up for disappointment. More often than not, the "religion" (ok, book publishing cult) will win out most of the time. Don't give up hope. There are many on this board that waited years for their family to come around. I have met some of them personally. It is what the JWs hope for in reverse....instead of waiting for loved ones to come into the Truth Lie, we are waiting for our loved ones to wake up and leave the cult.
Meanwhile...good for you having the strength to leave and show the kids there is freedom in life. You will not regret it.
Snakes (Rich )
another time & place.
20-25 years ago in a conservative "god's country" us state.
a look around the kingdom hall could easily identify the theocratic pecking order.. .
It's a wonder there weren't more dislocated shoulders, from the elders lugging those 50 pound cases around.
that is why I had one with the retractable handle and wheels. I put it out in the garage just the other day with the other suitcases. If I ever get a job requiring it I will break it out. If I havent by the time we move in a year or so, I will yard sale it.
what a flashback...I once went to the Stoops' "factory" in Missouri. That stuff really wasn't that great to be honest. Overpriced. Then they started branching out selling other crap...vitamins...computers...coloring books...it got to be stupid. I think the place to go now is Madzay for field circus supplies..
...I wonder how much money I wasted buying service bags and such...
Snakes (Rich )
the weather people all were making a big deal out of snow supposedly coming to the area....riiiiight...even if it did snow the ground is too warm (which of course the make sure to say) for it to stick...all we got was a bit of ice on the windshield and the street are a little slick...nothing substantial.. this morning the front and rear windshields on my fiancees car are iced over.
i went out and warmed the car up for her.
the car door and the wipers were frozen.
The weather people all were making a big deal out of snow supposedly coming to the area....riiiiight...even if it did snow the ground is too warm (which of course the make sure to say) for it to stick...all we got was a bit of ice on the windshield and the street are a little slick...nothing substantial.
This morning the front and rear windshields on my fiancees car are iced over. I went out and warmed the car up for her. The car door and the wipers were frozen. Got that taken care of. I got back inside and she asks me if I locked the car back up since it is warming up. I told her to hand me her other set of keys...and I went into the bathroom......opened the window...pointed the keychain at the car...and locked it from inside....I am in my robe and it is cold outside.....she wondered what the hell I was doing...lol.
Yes, my car is in the garage. No, that is not wrong... I would have her put her car in the garage but I would still have to start my car up and warm it up and de-ice it...we have to park behind each other not side by side in the drive. Either way her car is warmed up. She said she is getting spoiled... I get up and pour her coffee (from the coffeemaker I set up the night before) and make her peanut butter toast for breakfast...so, yeah, I do spoil her...lol.
I know that toast is not a big deal of course. I make a full breakfast, including omelets, on the weekend (Sun/Mon). Before we met, she didnt even eat toast during the week..with diabetes she needs to eat more regularly and she needs proteins. I want her to be healthy and I know its a bummer getting up at 5 am (or sometimes earlier) with her when I dont have to get up until 7 with her son....but I want to do that for her...and I know the cynics will say its romantic but it won't last ...yeah...I think it will....anyone willing to put up with me gets treated well. Sometimes I go back to bed, or as is the case this morning, I stay up and surf the net or watch something on the DVR I have recorded.
I will get the boy up in about 45 minutes but for now I will enjoy the quiet of the house, sip my coffee, pet the cat who is sleeping on her perch next to my desk, and see what has transpired in the world today. Then off to the repair shop to see why my car is overheating..and hope its only a $20 thermostat or radiator cap or something...not something more ominous.... I need to work today. Seems like, as is the case with everyone else, I am struggling to keep the head financially above water....
Life is good.
Snakes (Rich )
Back to reality...I have to take my car into the shop...apparently something is wrong...if the car sits with the engine running for 15-20 minutes it overheats (the temp gauge jumps to H) but goes away if I turn on the heat...and the heater takes too long to get warm..... could be a thermostat....could be worse.... I can't seem to get ahead. Supposed to work today....may not happen if it takes too long...and it is cold this morning.. ...windshield wipers on Toni's car were frozen and her door was stuck....guess who went out to get it warmed up...(yes, my car is in the garage...I would put hers in there but then it still doesnt matter....my car would be behind hers and still have to warm up one car for her to get out.
well, today is my birthday and i will be getting a real cake with a real candle - my dear bride-to-be promised not to put 43 candles on the cake.
it is just going to be me, her, and her 8 year old (and soon to be my step) son.
nothing fancy.
it was a nice quite dinner... smoked pork chops, steamed corn, leftover stuffing (that I drug out of the fridge)... then chocolate cake and coffee...though I still ended up cleaning up the kitchen...lol
she gave me a saucy little card..which I got (understood)...she didnt let her son read the front of the card...even at 8 he might have gotten the inuendo...wouldnt put it past him.
she got me a gift card for Barnes & Noble, a Miles Davis CD ...she knows I love music, esp blues and jazz...
and a gadget (a keychain with a blue light and if you clap your hands it beeps...though that part I haven't gotten to work consistently)....she knows I like shiny gadgets... and I laughed out loud when she gave it to me...I am always losing that second set of keys in my car when I am working)......and a small box of Ferrara chocolate nuts..actually her son grabbed the whole pile out of a Target sack and threw them in my arms...so much for surprises...lol...
the camera comes later but I took a few pics with my old work camera...will post later when I am more wide awake...
more important than any of the gifts.....she is the greatest gift I could ever have. How damn lucky could I be?
Funny....I bet many people take their birthday, and the celebrating of it, for granted. Those who posted happy first are right in away...my first since starting on the road -- and gift -- of freedom.
Snakes (Rich )
well, today is my birthday and i will be getting a real cake with a real candle - my dear bride-to-be promised not to put 43 candles on the cake.
it is just going to be me, her, and her 8 year old (and soon to be my step) son.
nothing fancy.
Well, today is my birthday and I will be getting a real cake with a real candle - my dear bride-to-be promised not to put 43 candles on the cake.
It is just going to be me, her, and her 8 year old (and soon to be my step) son. Nothing fancy. She is getting me my "big" gift for Christmas. I told her I was happy just having the two of them. Gifts not necessary. So we went to Best Buy the other day. The only thing she will tell me is it is a digital camera . I had to know that because I am next to impossible to buy for and she knows nothing about gadgets and didnt want the salesman to sell her something I don't need and costs too much. See... I don't need or want much, that is unless I win the lottery, then I am getting some electronic toys, but I digress.
So ... we already did her birthday back in October...mine is today. She is taking me out to dinner Saturday night after work.
Anyway...will post more..she is getting home now from the store...
Snakes (Rich )
do you remember as a jw those pseudo-thanksgiving dinners we used to have?
you know the ones, where we ate turkey, dressing, and all the rest....but we did it on friday so we woudn't be celebrating thanksgiving like the "world"?
the excuse was that everyone in the family was off, the turkey was on sale, blah blah... well this year will be my first real thanksgiving dinner.
ok..that carving smiley GIF...that's kinda disturbing....lol...
day after..the house is cleaned up again... got my fiancee up and off to work this morning... they opened the cafe an hour early to accomodate early shoppers...unadvertised early opening...so she got there a little after 5 and found the place already busy...no break for her.
I got the 8YO off to his grandparents... he has a doc appt this afternoon to see why he is so lethargic.
and I am back home enjoying a very peaceful house...yaay...
Snakes (Rich )
snowbird:
I would ask that same question of men.
hey...my house is clean...I am the cleaning obsessed in our relationship. my house is lived in.... dustbunnies I can handle....tumbleweeds I cannot. I clean my kitchen sink obsessively. My fiancee always had dishes in the sink at her place. I would clean them up. Its not that I like to do dishes as she supposes.,....its that I like a clean sink. My compromise is that I might occasionally leave a couple of cups or glasses in the sink until the morning. Then they get cleaned. Drives my fiancee nuts. I will make her coffee for her, especially early in the morning...but then I take her spoon away and wash it and put it in the dish rack.... what? She doesn't need it, I already made and stirred the coffee...lol. The bathroom sink and toilet are cleaned every day. Sometimes the wall, cause I have an 8YO with bad aim. Whenever I see him go in, I say: "stand close, aim low." He is getting better. I even get the 8YO and fiancee to clean the sink (cause there is a cleaning sponge that sits on the sink and a spray bottle of cleaner under it...) Vacuuming gets done once a week...but the living room, which is the first and busiest room in the house, gets done two or three times...whenever it drives me crazy. Our bed is made daily..."made" is a variable definition...sometimes completely...sometimes covers thrown over if in a hurry. Beds are stripped on Saturday.... she does most of the laundry but I do it if I see a load... and often pull the stuff out of the dryer and fold it and put it up.....she does most of the grocery shopping and we share cooking. Yes, I may be a rare bird...a man that can cook and clean.... I lived by myself for 20 plus years... might be a good idea to learn along the way. I can't stand living like a slob and don't. Snakes (Rich )
do you remember as a jw those pseudo-thanksgiving dinners we used to have?
you know the ones, where we ate turkey, dressing, and all the rest....but we did it on friday so we woudn't be celebrating thanksgiving like the "world"?
the excuse was that everyone in the family was off, the turkey was on sale, blah blah... well this year will be my first real thanksgiving dinner.
well...it wasnt a disaster...fiancee got home at 1130...and promptly fell asleep... I got 20 minute nap then needed to get something else started. She got on my case about supposedly lumpy mashed potatoes.... fact was, I wasnt finished... and she was cranky from a) having worked b) having gotten up at 430am for work...c) having been very sick last weekend. No, I didnt make them the way she does... I looked on the back of the swansons chicken stock can and followed that recipe... she thought I was going to use all of the leftover chicken broth in the taters.... uh no... just 1/4 cup... then she said the taters werent cooked .... no.... they were.... I let her take over the taters.... and the green beans and the stuffing...turns out she used the leftover chicken/potato broth in the stuffing.... I told her there was a reason I saved it after I cooked the taters...
so her parents and her brother and his GF and the 3 of us...the kitchen is also the dining room ...so 6 of us sat at the kitchen table and the 8YO ate on a tray in his room (because he is addicted to tv and internet).... her dad cut the turkey up..... turns out....
that was the disaster...not the carving part....but he apparently poked a hole in the disposable roasting pan...and all the turkey goo dripped on the dishtowel, the cutting board....the rack below it and all of the trays.....and my fiancee....well...I love her...but my perfectly clean kitchen at 3? sh*t....
I clean as I go, she doesnt. Just a different way we do things. Her family had to leave because her brother can only be in a house with a cat for a couple of hours and then has to leave. So we finished the dishes...and went to her folks house for desert. We stayed over there for awhile.... and we came home and I finished sweeping and mopping.
The 8YO had his bath and is playing a game on the net.......I am drinking the last of the cinnamon coffee.... and typing stuff that JD says WGAS about..lol... fiancee is doing her evening workout.... then we will go take our bath and go to bed...she has to go to work at 5am tomorrow...damn. I have to go to the office to trade out work... then maybe I will collapse.
Next time, I will stick to the roast in the crock pot (I put a 3 # rump roast in for 4 hours on low...added carrots, onions and shrooms.... cooked another 4 hours... turned out real tender...her dad liked it alot...(I picked out all the shrooms before serving...he doesnt like em.)
Tell me...why is 10 hours worth of prep, cooking, baking worth 2-3 hours of dinner? We had tons of food left....her fam took most of it. We have leftovers for 2 nights.
I think I got lots of brownie points for cooking Turkey day dinner..... lets see if I can milk that for a bit...lol
happy turkey day everyone...
Snakes (Rich )
mimimim..are you working on turkey day? I presume that book is for your work? Otherwise pretty dull bedtime reading.
happy turkey day
Snakes (Rich )
