Wow, I'm glad that everything went well for you with your mother. She seems to have a relatively open mind about it. If only everyone's relatives were so understanding... Good luck with your dad and the rest!
EnlightenedMind
JoinedPosts by EnlightenedMind
-
15
Had The Chat With My Mother
by sweet pea inspilled the beans yesterday.
told her i was never going to another meeting again.
knew it wouldn't be too hard going as she's always had a few doubts herself, what i didn't appreciate was just how many she had and how hard she was finding it as she is developing a great social life with 'wordly' friends!!
-
-
-
217
Don Imus Fired!
by minimus in....for saying "nappy headed hos".
he's off tv and radio.
personally, he's never been my favorite but i like him more than the reverend al sharpton!
-
-
EnlightenedMind
I am saying that if there is to be any criticism of such, it must be applied to all; not some.
Whose mandate is this?
We're not talking about governmental regulation here, because it HAS received blanket criticism and condemnation from the FCC. No one can say that type of stuff on the air, regardless of race, so there is no institutional disparity with regards to the word.
So what more do you want? You want to regulate the sensibilities of individual people? That's unrealistic. Who are we to tell anybody else what should or should not offend them?
If I have to criticize one person who uses the word, I have to criticize everybody who uses it? Well, what if only one person offends me? Are you saying that black people should be offended when other black people use the word as well? Well, that's your opinion. (and mine as well, btw). But just because we believe that doesn't mean that it's "right", or that we can force others to share that viewpoint. We don't all have to think collectively as a group about it.
And I'm not saying that if a white person uses the n-word, that automatically makes him a racist. (Hell, white kids refer to one another that way these days). All I'm saying is, more likely than not, that is how it is going to be perceived by a black person. (Or Hispanic, Asian, Jewish, white, etc, under the same circumstances). Knowing this, I choose not to use words that I know to be offensive, and it matters not to me whether whatever group is using that same word amongst themselves. I harbor no resentment.
To infer that the word has a blanket meaning and should be either totally embraced or totally discarded by everyone is the same as saying we should outlaw the word "fire" rather than outlawing the act of yelling "Fire!" in a crowded auditorium.
-
49
What preoccupied your mind today?
by greendawn inso what was one thing that significantly preoccupied your mind today or part of today something you thought a lot about?
for me it was handing over some work on a deadline which comes up next week.
i can't go over even by one day so i better be on time.
-
-
EnlightenedMind
I have final exams in less than two weeks, and I have to take the bar in a couple months, and I can't stop stressing about it all, but I haven't picked up a book yet because of this crippling and debilitating disease called PROCRASTINATION!!
-
13
When is a person's "race" not going to be the topic of conversation?
by booker-t ini think this don imus scandal just goes to show that no matter how hard a person works or how much he or she succeed in life their "race" or ethnicity or "gender" is always going to be the determining factor.
instead of don imus congradulating the "girls basketball team" for all of their hard work, he has to insult them.
i am glad he got fired and i hope it sends a message to anybody else that wants to publicly insult a group.
-
-
EnlightenedMind
They are not granted immunity BR25. I listen to Rush Limbaugh and believe me, they get their share of criticism.
Anyway, Sharpton and Jackson are not the moral compass of the black community. Trust me, no one is blindly following them. Sometimes I cringe at the issues they choose to get behind, and I certainly think they both should use more discretion.
As for the Duke lacrosse thing, I should hope that everyone would rally around someone who is claiming to be a rape victim, no matter the race of the victim or the accused. I don't think that we can afford not to.
And that is what infuriates me about this case. Any woman making false claims of rape makes it that much harder for actual rape victims to come forward for fear that their claims will be viewed with skepticism. I think she should be sued and prosecuted.
-
12
Professional Photos
by Es ina few weeks ago we had some professional photos done of the fam, just got them today they turned out really great.. enjoy .
es.
http://kelthorn.gallery.netspace.net.au/professional-photos.
-
-
EnlightenedMind
Beautiful family! Your kids are adorable!
-
217
Don Imus Fired!
by minimus in....for saying "nappy headed hos".
he's off tv and radio.
personally, he's never been my favorite but i like him more than the reverend al sharpton!
-
-
EnlightenedMind
Repeat: Anytime you say, "It's okay for me because of my race--but not okay for you because of yours," you are validating racism and perpetuating racial tension.
As I previously stated, I never said it was okay either way. And I'm glad you gave that example. I don't use the n-word for just that reason - because I don't want my daughter using it. She doesn't listen to rap music for the same reason.
And I don't believe that it is the prevailing view in today's society that it is okay for anyone to use it. In rap songs, that word is bleeped out on radio stations, (at least the ones where I live), so there is certainly the sense that it needs to be censored.
We are all a part of the human race, and I certainly don't have an "us" vs. "them" mentality. Is Jeff Foxworthy perpetuating racial tension or displaying an us vs. them mentality when he jokes about rednecks, or Margaret Cho when she jokes about asians, or are they simply recognizing the humor in the differences between the cultures?
Is it a problem for me that I can't say some of the same things that they say without offending someone? No. big. deal.
-
217
Don Imus Fired!
by minimus in....for saying "nappy headed hos".
he's off tv and radio.
personally, he's never been my favorite but i like him more than the reverend al sharpton!
-
-
EnlightenedMind
It's this simple:
If you DON'T want race relations to improve, you will continue to abide double standards.
If you DO want race relations to improve, you will stop abiding double standards.
Don't get me wrong, I am not advocating the use of the n-word by anyone. Personally, I don't think that the n-word should be used by anyone because I think that it has negative connotations no matter what. But if every black person in the world stopped using it, do you SERIOUSLY believe that will stop the white people who use it from using it or viewing black people as such?
I wish it were that simple.
It will be duly noted the next time a double standard is used against you.
There are going to be double standards no matter what. They are used against me, and that is why I don't use certain terms to refer to people that other people of their same race might use. I just don't say those things, and that doesn't affect my life in the least. Why is this type of double standard such a big deal?
-
217
Don Imus Fired!
by minimus in....for saying "nappy headed hos".
he's off tv and radio.
personally, he's never been my favorite but i like him more than the reverend al sharpton!
-
-
EnlightenedMind
All hip hop stations knock on whites everday
Do you listen to hip hop stations? There is no end to the senseless drivel that you find in music these days, especially hip hop, but knocking whites? No, these days, the mainstream music is all about bling and money and other foolishness.
shows like the chapelle show that constantly knocked whites, but thats ok
Dave Chappelle knocks whites, blacks, mexicans, all kinds. And he's certainly not the only comedian that does that. The difference is that comedians make generalizations for the sake of comedy, while Imus specifically targeted these few women.
As for the Duke lacrosse players, they were wrongly accused and are now being exonerated. If white people want to "dance in the streets", they can dance to their hearts content. And there IS talk of the prosecutor losing his license, as well he should. As for the two white guys in your hypothetical getting fired... not hardly. Look up The Innocence Project. How many prosecutors have lost their license for putting innocent men in jail for years and years?
I have acknowledged that there is a double standard, and I don't think that anyone is claiming that there isn't. The point is, that's irrelevant. There are things that are offensive if said by certain people, and this cuts across all cultures and color lines. There are double standards everywhere, but that is not a license to intentionally use terms that are known to be offensive.
-
12
Congregational Meals on Wheels
by bronzefist inwhen i was an unbeliving husband my ex had a serious health issue (cervical cancer) and lots of "sisters" would bring my three kids and i lots of meals.
it was one of the things that really impressed me.
anyone know if things like that are still done?
-
-
EnlightenedMind
I agree with Hortensia. Some people got the special treatment, others didn't.
My brothers exwife, was disfellowshipped for adultery, and he filed for divorce. The sisters came out of the woodwork.
Soooooo true! lol
-
25
Google earth adds Crises in Darfur, you must check this out
by needproof inanybody not yet familiar with google earth should try it, www.earth.google.com - offers maps and satellite images for complex or pinpointed regional searches.
recently google have added satellite shots of sudan, where a mass genocide is taking place whilst we go to bed each night in our safe and sound environments (relatively).
up to 300,000 people dead so far - why the hell doesn't blair or bush do something about this seeing as though they are so beset with helping other people (bs)... .
-
-
EnlightenedMind
Thanks for posting this, needproof. I was aware of the Darfur crisis, but I was not fully aware of all of the politics behind it.