Posts by Mincan

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I cannot believe how brazen some people can be

by unbeliever in

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my bf and i have been together for about 2 years.

he has this ex gf from college who he stayed friends with.

i am not the jealous type so i never cared even though he had a problem with me being friendly with my exes.

Mincan

Don't email anything, this person obviously doesn't want to really hurt anyone, or she'd be doing more than writing a letter. Hopefully that is all she does.

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How Does a July 4th Lake Tahoe Apostafest Sound in California ?Let me Know

by flipper in

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friends

hello friends !

my wife, mrs. flipper and i were talking about getting an apostafest together for july 4th , 2008 weekend this summer.

this year the 4th falls on a friday, so it would at least be a 3 day holiday weekend when some may be able to get away !

Mincan

Hey, I'm going to be very anal about this...

...so who's coming!?

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ANY happy memories at all of growing up as a JW?

by myababes in

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does anyone have any good memories at all of beng raised a jw?

the cong i was brought up in was a different one to the ones we were in when we got married.

growing up the meetings were a great social event for all us kids.

I used to go out in service with my mom and her friends, which were my friends too, when I was just a little guy (when I was still completely happy in my bubble before age of 9). It was fun for me because it was weekend activity with mom when not at school and afterwards we would always go to Niagara Square (mall) to the food court and I was allowed to get some french fries.

I didn't have a father then either, and several really sincere nice MSs (some of them that liked my mother) would take me on trips and such and teach me stuff, always having nothing to do with JW doctrine.

If one is well adjusted socially while in the JWs, I think you do enjoy the association, especially a child that believes its the truth and these are ones "brothers and sisters" etc.

I lived in a geared-to-income complex then in which about 5 JW single mothers lived (how fitting in retrospect) and all the good association was right there for me to hang out with them.

I used to talk to other children about the fantasy elements of the bible that everyone wishes were true: all races getting along, unconditional love, etc, eternal life, not getting old, I made a lot of friends with people that had no other friends because I didn't judge based on socioeconomic status or race, and there response was great.

No doubt I would have enjoyed other things were I not raised by my mother in JWism. It wasn't all bad until about the age of 9/10, then being in it became a burden and very taxing on my personal vulnerabilities, causing depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation. From the ages of 7-9 though it was okay, before that no as I got beaten often for being a hyperactive kid in a hall. After that, as I said, no.

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~Pollyanna - Positive Attitude ~ Is there something wrong with me?

by AWAKE&WATCHING in

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i am, and always have been, a happy person.

i am known for having a positive attitude no matter what drama or trauma i am dealing with at the time.. i think a lot of that comes from my grandmother.

she taught me to love and appreciate nature.

Mincan

I think it is very possible to get over the exit of leaving a cult fairly quickly.

I am fairly confident that I am over the shell shock of leaving.

However, I notice that you have other experiences that led to the cult being a coping mechanism, and now you've lost that coping mechanism, and you've gotten over the fact that the coping mechanism is gone, but now you might be experiencing angst over what you used the cult for in the first place.

I was doing very good for about 2-3 weeks last month, but then I realised without the cult (or in it) I am back to the same problems I had before I left the cult. These problems need real solutions I suppose, and they have nothing to do with the cult.

So it's important to realise that yes once you mentally got over the cult its wonderful. I think many of the people here incorrectly believe all their problems came from the cult. I realise that perhaps very few of my problem actually may have came from the cult, rather, they were exacerbated by it, and now I have the freedom to deal with my problems in a constructive way outside of party lines handed out by the WT.

This is very much linked to the reason why I don't believe it's so crazy that the Watchtower still exists. Others are amazed, but I'm not. Some people truly need the Watchtower to protect their ego and mental sanity.

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