I hear you Sylvia, from your post I guess we're around the same shade, there will never be a color palate in the world that can represent all the different shades of African-Americans.
Even Oprah made a documentary of "the race within the race", some of us need to get over this "color" thing.
The old school thinking of black men marrying the lighter skinned women some how still holds true, ask some teenage guys what kind of black women they're attracted to and the answer would be the same as it was in 1937 and before that.
I have to honestly say that the Black Power civil rights movement did help, but then some black men have the same thinking like I"ve quoted above