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  district convention side effects...

  by candidlynuts in

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  yes its convention time again.

  my kids who've been warming up to me more, have all the sudden stopped taking my calls.

  cancelling plans with me because of " other plans".

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  middlechild

  Even your sisters. Perhaps you could advise them to evaluate each other. It seems that on occasion they are less than the "ideal" witness. I suggest that each one of them consider the other "not spiritual" enough.

  I am sure that they will have less friends now because if they ever need help from anyone in the KHall, they will unfortunately show themselves as ones who are not at the ready to "upbuild spiritually," and risk losing them.

  Quandry, I agree. I told them, during the interrogation lunch I had to endure in order for them to decide my fate, that there were many times that I could have decided that they were not good association for me but instead I chose to support them as my sibling and not judge them. (Plus the mate swapping stories were really intriguing! :))

  Gopher, That's more like it. Not what can u do for me?

  CN, I'm sure some of those 5 are wordly so here's how they're making sure u get rid of them...
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  Saw an old JW friend at the bar last night ....ooops

  by troubled mind in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  last night my husband and i went to the local hole in the wall bar for supper .

  real small local bar .

  we sit at a table and my husband notices this guy behind me at the bar is a witness he knows from another town a few hours away from us .

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  Remember being afraid of being seen in the wrong place and always being worried because you know Witnesses are the spectacle of the world and God forbid you stumble someone

  Sucks that i'm out 5 years now and still worry what t-shirt i put on in the morning depending on who i'm seeing that day. i have an olive t-shirt that says ARMY in black letters across the front and a t-shirt that has a unicorn on it that i can't wear if i'm dropping my daughter off at my jw mom's or my jw mil's. so i figure it's safe to wear it camping last weekend. wouldn't u know i bump into a family of old jw friends wearing my ARMY t-shirt. how stupid is that. could i possibly get over what others think of me?
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  Did You Like Your Congregation?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the hall i was in the last few years was not a bad place.

  most of the people were middle class, some had college educations (like the po and his wife); they generally weren't over critical.

  of course there were a few elders and publishers that were pains but for the most part the people in that hall were pretty decent.

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  middlechild

  i was in 4. 1st - i was young and had lots of friends. but kids were dropping out left and right. and stupid issues.

  2nd - almost everyone in the hall was related and it was really annoying. pioneers were mean, a lot of gossipy women. pioneered right out of high school in that cong.

  3rd - very cliquish (sp?). u were either cool or u weren't. somehow my husband and i were "cool" so we were in. it was his cong. when he and his best friend (who wasn't cool) pioneered, my husband who petered out after like the first 2 months was always very encouraged and even though he missed his hours by a long shot he still got to go to pioneer school. his friend who worked his arse off and might have been slightly down on his hours one or 2 months was constantly berated. even though i was in the "in crowd" i couldn't stand it and hated to hear the things the "cool" elders would say about the "uncool" people in the cong. i felt so bad for them.

  4th - very, very nice cong. nice, down to earth people. sweet. caring. i felt so bad leaving them like i did. one day i was their best friend and the next day i was gone. (by the way, cong. #3 warned me about cong #4 saying that they were all old, boring, uncool...)
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  district convention side effects...

  by candidlynuts in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yes its convention time again.

  my kids who've been warming up to me more, have all the sudden stopped taking my calls.

  cancelling plans with me because of " other plans".

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  middlechild

  i understand and agree with u on all points. both of my fleshly sisters (granted, they are not my children) have stopped associating with me because of the recent info. they've been fed on associating with inactive ones. there was a talk at my sister's hall where they were told to write down their top 5 friends. then they were to see what those friends could do for them spiritually. well my sister said that she just couldn't see how i could fit into her friends' list because i couldn't do anything to upbuild her spiritually. hello, ur my freakin sister and i've been there for u for every little thing u've gone through with backstabbing (witness) friends, a cheating husband, college woes...

  and my other sister, where do i start? let's just say i helped her get through her most tenuous time of trying to keep her newborn baby alive when it wouldn't eat, and stayed with her while she was recovering from back surgery, listened and didn't judge her with her stories of mate swapping...

  i'm with u on the whole god thing too. all the jw's did was teach me that if there is a god, he doesn't care/and even if he does he's not doing anything about it.

  sorry for the rant. i know it doesn't compare to losing children but i feel ya.
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  Any Pioneer Letter Scans?

  by Island Bro in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi i was wondering if anyone had any scans of pioneer letters.

  you know those ones they send out when you first become a reg.

  pio.

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  middlechild

  I too recently purged!!! lol. Anyway, I did find my letter to all regular pioneers invited to attend pioneer service school from 4/93. Not sure if that will help you or not. It was still tucked in my Illuminators book.
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  At what point did you display a picture in your profile

  by Billzfan23 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am officially df'ed.. so here's my first post with a picture of me in it... of course, all of my old posts will probably populate with the pic now too...

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  middlechild

  since my jw parents are still talking to me and I'm just a fader I will not post my picture. my husband recently signed on and put up our family picture. i flipped out when i found out and made him take it off. he did and so far, crisis averted.
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  What Freedoms Do You Enjoy Now That You're Not A Witness?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  the watchtower scoffs at "apostates" because they want their "so-called freedom".

  not practicing this religion does give you a lot of freedom and normalcy.

  what freedoms do you cherish now?

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  middlechild

  no more slips, pantyhose, dresses and heels!!!!

  not judging all my "wordly" friends

  having all my "wordly" friends as my best friends and having a blast with them

  peace with my husband

  knowing that my daughter will not grow up with these "demons"
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  TWO DUMB QUESTIONS.......PLUS, ADD YOUR OWN DUMB QUESTIONS

  by Warlock in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when you eat crackers, do you lay them out salt side up, or salt side down?

  do you put them in your mouth salt side up, or salt side down?.

  are there any other dumb questions you can think of, to post on this thread?.

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  middlechild

  toilet paper - under

  paper towels - over

  contacs - left first/right handed
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  You know you're a JW if..

  by themonster123 in

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  hey i'll come back and do some, but does anyone want to kick start it?

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  middlechild

  ...you actually search everywhere for a cotton slip.
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  Crises of Conscience

  by ex-nj-jw in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just finished the book by ray franz, coc, and for some reason i'm madder than ever at this organization!!!

  i've been out for over 20 years and now i'm even more pissed off!!!!

  why am i so angry at things i already knew although i'm sure i've just repressed them over the years and got on with my life, anyone else have this anger problem after reading this book, or is it just me??.

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  I had made up my mind to keep all my thoughts about the organization to myself but when I read that book it made me want to try to expose everything to my family. I ended up saying a little too much because of how empowered I felt and now my sisters are shunning me. Oops!