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  Go Figure

  by redskymedic in

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  so, after browsing through this website and then taking the search for the real 'truth' about the wts into my own hands, i decided to confront my jw mother.

  i stuck with the date-changing (1914, 1975, 2000) and asked what the explanation was since i have been gone for over 10 years now.

  she was quiet for a minute, then told me there was an explanation but she would have to look it up.

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  My mother and I finally agreed a few months ago not to talk about it any more.

  When you think about it, ALL religions are WRONG about something. People just gotta pick and choose what they think is the worst thing to be wrong about.
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  Who wants to come to our TEN YEAR Anniversary party???

  by Eyebrow2 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  it is about 4 years away....but since i don't have a lot of friends i still keep in contact with....i want a lot of good peeps to come.. our wedding consisted of me, my husband and my son and the judge...so a party is a bit over due don't you think?.

  i figure that is plenty of time to get to know you peeps better so you can come!

  my husband wants to go to vegas for it, but i don't think that will work.

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  It is about 4 years away....BUT since I don't have a lot of friends I still keep in contact with....I want a lot of good peeps to come.

  Our wedding consisted of me, my husband and my son and the judge...so a party is a bit over due don't you think?

  I figure that is plenty of time to get to know you peeps better so you can come! My husband wants to go to Vegas for it, but I don't think that will work. So, it will probably either be in the Dallas area, or NH....or, if Hell freezes, pigs fly and the cowboys wins the superbowl again before then, in Vegas.

  I assure you all that despite my JW upbringing there WILL BE:

  1. Music

  2. Dancing

  3. good food

  4. If no alcohol there...at least within walking proximty to a bar for a an after party party.

  =) PARTY HARDY 2009!!!!!!! =)
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  Richard Scarry's Best Field Service Story--EVER

  by LDH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok so pardon me for the take off on richard scarry--he really is one of my favorite all time children's authors.. but i had to share this field service story with you--it's the gospel truth!

  hopefully, you can add some of yours.. while pioneering in upstate ny, my sister and i had frequent occasions to work in service with a married pioneer couple.

  yes, they were window washers, but that's not the real story here.. they had a return visit on an elderly gentleman who was kind enough to take the magazines every once in a while.

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  LDH,

  hahahah oh my god I am laughing SOOOO Hard hahaahah!!!

  I have a story...not from field service, but poor Helen in the 6 foot snow drift reminded me of it:

  (2 stories actually)

  My best friend and I were deadheads or neo-deadheads I guess you could say, it was the late 1980s after all not the 60s!

  ANYHOO!!! here we are, travelling up to see Jerry Garcia and his electric band in Maine....we are in a very long line of slowly moving cars. We had some garbarge...just apple cores and banana peels..organic stuff...I wanted to get rid of them. Since we were going about 5 miles an hour along one stretch, I decided to hop out and see if I could find a trash can. I didn't see any, but there was an open field and a dirt pile across the road. It looked like a composite heap, so I figured, why not? I ran across the road...and then, according to my friend, I disappeared! I didn't realize there was a ditch between me and the field...and fell straight down. I left the peels and core in the ditch and ran back to the car.

  Several years later: my then fiance and I are stranded in Independence, MO (long story ack!). We are walking to a mall about 2 miles away, along side a busy road. It is starting to get dark, it is cold, being early November. We are engrossed in conversation, and WHOOOOMMMPPED!!! I again disappear. My able right foot had found a gopher hole, and down I went, right up to my knee! Hubby laughs now and tells people, I was talking, I heard an AHHH! and turned and she was gone!

  It has been several years since that last incident...I am watching my steps very carefully...I think I am due!
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  How many here grew up JW but had worldly friends?

  by Jez in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my best friend was worldly all through elementary to high school.

  we are still good friends.

  i wonder if that led to our being a tad bit more open minded and aided in our exit???

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  I did have some worldly friends. My mom would let me hang out with the neighborhood kids, but always commented she wanted me to be with jw kids. The problem was that for most of the time growing up, there were only about 5 other JW kids in my school...I was somewhat friends with two (who left, and went wacko) and the other three were absolute snobs to me. They didn't stay in either.

  In high school I had friends, and did a lot in secret, but it really wore on my conscience big time ack! But I had some really good times hehehe.
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  Being a JW Woman - Was It Really That Bad?

  by eljefe in

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  2. friends

  i have seen quite a few posts from many ex-jw women about how unhappy they were about male domination in congregation.

  was it really that bad?

  when i was still a jw, no one ever told me anything to that effect.

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  The person that studied with me before I got baptised once told me that she knew that the bible was true, and the JWs had the true religion because of the way women were talked about in the bible.

  Apparantly, having the Book of Ruth and Esther in there meant something.

  I thought huh, interesting. At the time, I think she brought up the Muslim religion, and how women are not treated equally, etc...I thought to myself silently...hmmm, but we cannot be more than pioneers or missionaries, we cannot be like a nun in the catholic religion, we cannot be a priest or real minister like in many of the protestant religions....but I kept my mouth shut. I tried to buy that line for a while.

  Basically, after a few years, I realized that I would never get married, and that I had better not die before the New System or I would never be able to get married...because there was NO WAY I would be able to be a good submissive dub wife, unless I married Antonio Banderas. I would have made concessions for Antonio.

  This sister, I loved her dearly as much as my own fleshly sisters. Her husband, he, sigh, well he is a nice guy, but he would have frequent temper tantrums. So much of the responsibilities were left up to her. It took a drain. I don't know if they are still like that...I hope not.
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  Help needed with kids

  by jwNOT in

  1. social
  2. family

  i was raised in a very strict jw home.

  some of it was downright abusive.

  now i am a mother with 4 children.

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  Consistency is the key.

  Parenting is tough, no question about it. I think all of us remember something about our parents' discipline that we didn't like.

  My mom had a hard time being consistent...and we walked all over her. I never realized that until I saw my youngest siblings doing the same thing. She has been able to reign them in a bit better now.

  I have five kids, two of them step. The hardest thing for me was that I was too harsh sometimes. I don't mean with physical punishment. There have been some light spankings here and there, but rare, and never above (or below) a certain age. My biggest challenge was getting it through MY head that I need to make sure that my discipline was consistent.

  What works with my kids mostly is putting privillages and responsibilities in order. If they don't do their homework, they are not allowed certain privillages. If they bring home a bad report card, then they lose privillages that may be distracting them from school work. I have really REALLY been trying the last 4 or 5 months to be very consistent. So far, it seems to be working, My oldest is working hard in school, and his grades and attitude reflect it. My two stepdaughters give me the impression that they think I am being fair with them.

  Of course, my three year old is nuts and putting me through the wringer...I working on that one!

  Over all, we have pretty good kids, and we are lucky. I still have a LOT to work on. For example, I am having to remind them too much to do their chores. We talked about putting up a chore chart, and that they need to be do them with out being asked all the time.

  The biggest thing that has helped me is stepping back, taking a deep breath and reminding myself of two things:

  1. I am not perfect

  2. my kids are not perfect

  for a while I tried a real hard nose, hardliner tactics...and it just backfired. The kids were miserable, and felt picked on. When I realized that, it took me aback. I want them to be responsible, but not feel like they have to be little adults. I also would rather be the mom than the best friend. I have seen a few parents do that, especially ones that had a hard childhood. I think that is the biggest mistake. You should always be a mother first and friend second. Don't let them walk over you. Try to set some bounderies. You don't have to start with everything at once. Pick one, say maybe enforcing the bedtimes, and take it from there,

  Hang in there! you will make it. Just remember that if you love your child you will have to discipline them. Take it one step at a time.

  Don't be afraid to contact parenting groups for help. Sometimes you get into contact with these groups through your child's school.
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  What's Your Budget For Christmas Shopping???

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm new to this.

  i want some ideas.

  thank you.......

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  Well, this year, we are determined to stick to no more than $100 a child, including stocking stuffers.

  We have 5 kids, so it can get expensive. $100 a kid is right within our budget this year; however, it is just too easy to go over. Last year we went a bit over board, and the giving is just as good as receiving got lost in it all for the kids.

  This year we are doing something a bit different:

  We are focusing on the "spirit" of xmas...not the religious aspect, but just the thought that this is a time of year to care for ours, and to look at your own life and recognize the joy of being alive and being with family. We have been coloring pages that I printed off the internet, listenting to xmas music, and planning what the kids are going to make for gifts for certain people.

  It seems to be working so far. My two stepdaughters, 7 and 9 have decided they want to give up a toy so that they can pick one out to bring in for the toy drive at school. I am going to take them tomorrow to pick out something about $10 to bring for the drive. It is not a lot of money, but it means one less thing under the tree, and they don't mind at all. My son did this 2 years ago; he asked me to spend some money at Wal-mart so that we could buy supplies to give to his teacher to take to Belize. She goes down there about every year, and brings supplies to the schools down there.

  Next year may be less, it may be more. It depends on a lot of things. One thing we are doing less of this year is presents from Santa. Our tradition has been to exchange a few gifts from each other on Christmas Eve, and then all the presents under the tree to be from Santa. Well, I told my husband this year that I want some of the gifts under the tree to be from us, and one or two from Santa. This must be where I get greedy, because I really want them to know that people in their family are giving them some of these gifts. I know the 9 year old knows, but the 7 year old still thinks it is all Santa.
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  Cute but very disturbing... Send your kid a letter from Santa...

  by Elsewhere in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i love to get into the whole christmas spirit thing, but i never take it to the point of lying to or deceiving children about it.

  i try to teach kids that it is the spirit of christmas that matters... then i saw this thing.

  parents are actively trying to deceive their kids by offering them "proof" that santa is real.

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  I have none PLENTY of adults that believe in Santa, the Easter Bunny and even the Loc ness monster as kids.

  And they are all just fine, thank you. I don't think letting them have fun with the Santa fantasy is going to screw them up. I think maybe the kids that were lied to about more important things in life may be screwed up.

  Don't blame it on Santa or the Easter Bunny.
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  Another Elder Called My Mom To Find Out About Us.....

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  he called for her "time" and then began asking questions.

  he wanted to know where my daughter lived, what her married last name was now, how the family was doing, etc.

  he asked her if she thought my not attending anymore had to do with the fact that i had a business and now i'm "materialistic".

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  Good for your mom for standing up for you!
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  I need to pray, but this proves there's no one to pray to.

  by SixofNine in

  1. social
  2. current

  as do a hundred other images kicking my head from falluja and ramadi and cote de ivoire.

  what else can you say though, but "jesus christ!"?.

  http://www.chron.com/cs/cda/ssistory.mpl/front/2913542 .

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  You know, I have to say, since moving to Plano, I have been very pleased with how safe it feels. There are very few murders, BUT there seem to have been quite a few mothers that have killed or seriously harmed their kids here, actually in Texas...I don't know if it is a higher percent down here than other parts of the country, or just becuase Texas is so big....it is so very sad