I believe that because JW's don't really get into relationships before the one they end up marrying, they don't get to know what they want in a person and what they don't want. I knew of two people who were "dating" and when they broke it off, everyone judged them for it. You're supposed to marry the person you date!!! I think that's just silly, not to mention irresponsible!
These JW's get married soooooooooo young!! It's crazy! One theory I heard is that since JW's don't agree with higher education that when these young people in the org. graduate high school, there is nothing left for them to do but to pioneer and get married!! They never have time to be themselves and just LIVE for a while! If you're out of school, not pioneering, and not married you're looked at like a freak!! I know I was! Everyone was always asking me when I was going to get married, or they were trying to console me for still being single ... like it was depressing o something!!!! UGH!!!
While I personally don't believe in sex before marriage, I am VERY grateful that I have been able to date and have relationships with many different people so that I could find qualities that I liked or disliked! I am now with the man of my dreams!
I have also since changed my mind about divorce! Someone once asked me, "wouldn't you rather know that your husband was still with you after 20 years because he WANTED to still be with you? Instead of him still being with you because he had no other way out since divorce is not allowed?" That made me think!
As for dictating what happens between a husband and wife in the bedroom .... HELL NO!!!!!!
I guess I am trying to say that I think I still carry with me some of the WT teachings on marrage, but MANY of them have gone out the window!