This is what I ended up doing, though I didn't know it at the time. I mean, when I was going through the reinstatement process I was just planning on staying in for good. The only problem was that I hated it, all of it, so much, especially the way all elders and pioneers treated me (making comments constantly that it was basically a matter of time before I slipped up again). Then when they decided to disfellowship other immediate family members, I had had enough.
At first I thought I had wasted years spent writing long heartfelt reinstatement request letters, sitting in judicial committee meetings to report on every minute detail so as to hopefully be deemed worthy of being one of them again, and all of the other stupid hoops they make you jump through in order to be reinstated, especially if you are a "repeat offender" like me. But then I came here, and realized that it would work in my favor to be technically a Witness, according to their logic, but inactive (I do NOT consider myself a Jehovah's Witness in any way). I do believe my mom would feel too guilty to even accept my phone calls if I were disfellowshipped, so it does work to my benefit to simply have faded after being reinstated (it wasn't right after the reinstatement announcement was made, but about a year later).
Anyway, hope my personal experience is helpful information, R.F. I have heard people make comments about people getting baptized so that they could get married, and in fact I am pretty sure that's what my former friends did...
Maybe this should be a thread of its own but I always found it funny/odd that so many people I knew married "worldy" people, and then their "unbelieving mate" converted to JWism later, but yet they would all say to me that I should NOT do that. How hypocritical! Anyone else notice this? (They would say that because there was a major shortage of decent guys my age to marry, and it sucked, because that's about the only thing for a JW woman to do when she's 20, you know?)
