this year i put a new ornament up on the tree.
what makes it special is that it is a picture frame ornament.
the picture inside the frame is a recent family photo of all the people i haven't seen in years standing in front of a hall.
This year I put a new ornament up on the tree. What makes it special is that it is a picture frame ornament. The picture inside the frame is a recent family photo of all the people I haven't seen in years standing in front of a hall. It makes me laugh when I think how mortified they would be if they knew their picture was hanging atop a Christmas tree!
Happy Holidaze!
it never failed, when someone got disfellowshipped or left the organization, their life became shambles.
if married, a divorce ensued.
if the person had a great job, the company would lay-off or close.
jacksonville, fl - the local newspaper had an article on the convention going on for the next two weekends.
while i could not find the article, i was able to find this slide show of this weekend's events.
the newspaper article was interesting as it discussed what a wonderful job they were doing cleaning the arena seats and bathrooms and everyone was enjoying their job.
Jacksonville, FL - the local newspaper had an article on the convention going on for the next two weekends. While I could not find the article, I was able to find this slide show of this weekend's events. The newspaper article was interesting as it discussed what a wonderful job they were doing cleaning the arena seats and bathrooms and everyone was enjoying their job. The article ended with can't you just feel all the love! You never see churches all coming together like this! It cemented the fact of just how disconnected they are to reality. My church comes together with other churches regularly and has numerous outreach programs, but they would never know this being so separate from this world. Enjoy the show
http://jacksonville.com/slideshow/2014-07-06/district-convention-jehovah-s-witnesses#slide-1
if they are this happy, why do they keep taking down this video?
:).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evulyocziz8&feature=youtu.be.
i have enjoyed this site long enough, that i thought it was time to start giving back.
it's been a reflective few days as i tried to quantify the passage of time.
how time flies.... i turn 55 this year- and life is amazing!it was last year i reached out to one of my siblings via email to see if i could visit my mom beforeshe passes as she is over 90 now and the response i got was that it was too painful for herto see me until "i do the right thing"it was 5 years ago that i was able to finally become whole from all the anger and pain and normalize my life.it was 33 years ago that i was df'd.
i have enjoyed this site long enough, that i thought it was time to start giving back.
it's been a reflective few days as i tried to quantify the passage of time.
how time flies.... i turn 55 this year- and life is amazing!it was last year i reached out to one of my siblings via email to see if i could visit my mom beforeshe passes as she is over 90 now and the response i got was that it was too painful for herto see me until "i do the right thing"it was 5 years ago that i was able to finally become whole from all the anger and pain and normalize my life.it was 33 years ago that i was df'd.
All,
I have enjoyed this site long enough, that I thought it was time to start giving back. It's been a reflective few days as I tried to quantify the passage of time. How time flies...
I turn 55 this year- and life is Amazing!
It was last year I reached out to one of my siblings via email to see if I could visit my mom before
she passes as she is over 90 now and the response I got was that it was too painful for her
to see me until "I do the right thing"
It was 5 years ago that I was able to finally become whole from all the anger and pain and normalize my life.
It was 33 years ago that i was DF'd. Funny thing the only people who remember that fact is my family
it was 15 years ago I last saw my siblings at the funeral of my unbelieving dad. before that I at least
had somewhat of a relationship with my mother, who went into hard core shunning after that.
How quickly it was disregarded everything I did to take care of them both while dad was alive
because I had the financial means to do so.
It was 12 years ago I got a phone call from a strange number that was from my niece trying to find her uncle.
her uncle that was a name unspoken because he was DF'd and she was looking for something to hang on
to as she tried to escape. We had a good conversation, I told her some things about her mother, my
sister that she didn't know and told her the two things that I used everyday to keep me going:
Don't ever give up - if you do they win
Living better is the best revenge
Last I heard she did not make it out.
So what happened in all the years in between? Life happened. Good days, bad days, divorce, marriage more then once
Focused on my career without college, raised a child, danced at his wedding, enjoyed the birth of the first grandchild
and all along the way embraced the holidays and made them my own. Created our own family traditions to
embrace the things that were important to us. Through all of that I always had an edge when it came to
religion and my family that kept me from being whole. But I was determined to succeed.
Then I met someone who helped me bridge the gap between religion and faith, understanding that
because of being raised as a JW I would never be whole without coming to grips with it all.
I can now embrace going to and being part of a church and how it fills my personal need for faith
and how that made me whole and ready to take on the next adventures in my life. So remember when things
get tough:
Don't ever give up - if you do they win
Living better is the best revenge
Myway
i am just curious, and not judging.
if you are a christian and you know that december 25th is not jesus' birthday, and may have pagan roots, then why celebrate it?
i was raised a dub as most of you know, and have learned the ttatt so i know how wrong they are about a lot.
Who cares if it's not the correct time of year, or the right date?? It gives you something to look forward to that makes you pause and think of good things. To enjoy time with friends and family, a great excuse to reach out and touch people you know or do something for people you don't know out of real kindness. Light the lights, wrap the gifts, watch Hallmark channel on cable, and for a moment believe in all the wonder that christmas is and should be.
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3dogs..., I would say you are spot on with your response. Having been through the home study and the 30 hrs of training, life long JW's don't have enough life experiences to deal with the issues that the kids in the system have. The already have enough emotional baggage with them and putting them with a JW family would only multiply the issues.
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I doubt it, they are too used to having the borg think for them. Thinking on your own is hard stuff! Even with my siblings, I throw them a bone every once in a while and send an email or call, trying to get them to open up, but it is the same zombie response. "Don't you know what your doing with your life" YES I DO! Living large in the here and now. They have no idea how to respond.
And to think I really don't care if they accept me or not, I just want them to show me the same respect they would show strangers on the street. But they can't because they know there is no chance for conversion. What a waste.
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Thanks to everyone who has responded! It has really made my day! it's hard to believe that it has been so long. Even people convicted of crimes, can get time off for good behavior and are accepted back. Not so with the JW's. Looking back at how my father was treated, being a non believer, I think the rest of the siblings felt the only value he brought was financial. Wen I think about the few conversations I have had over the years with my brother, and he would say oh we still love you and wish you were here. I would say love who? The person you knew all those years ago doesn't even exist anymore. The I would get well this is what the bible tells us to do.
I have a niece that tried to leave, she called me a number years ago, actually found me on the internet, an uncle she never really knew only heard about. She was trying to get out, but financially couldn't make it and her family enticed her back becaus the only way they would help her was if she came back to being a JW. I am sorry for that, and I am ashamed of her parents, but it is a system munipulates the weak.
So don't be weak. Stand up for yourself in the best way for you.
Myway
