While I don't hold them accountable for all of the harm my family suffered, I can say that they certainly contributed a great deal to it. As I still have a fair relationship with some of my JWs relatives, I have held back a great deal on my activism against them. I just hope that I'll live long enough to take actions once these relatives pass away.
I know, this is not a heroic stand, however, my relationship with my relatives is still more important than speeking up for the moment.