Well, we talked that evening and as it turned out, she was basically just "seeking attention". She's been depressed about gaining some weight recently, and wants more 'quality' time with me and also some time with her friends and family too, as she's been spending all her time at my place. Basically she got so down about her weight, that she didn't want to be around people she just wanted to hide out and do nothing. So we agreed to stay together and work on all of it. She spent the night Friday, and left on Saturday, and won't be back until Wed, and then this weekend she leaves for Minnesota with a couple of her friends for a wedding.
The cook out on Saturday with her family also went on without a hitch, everybody loved my smoked boston butt, and of course my 16 hr. baked beans went over huge.
I think part of it, is that I'm such a busy guy, its hard for me to give anyone "lots of my time", I choose to play in a busy, blues band, and also work 50 hours a week, plus be on call for my job, and then have a myriad of friends that are always demanding my presence too. Its not a "bad life", and I'm used to the craziness of it all, but many of the ladies I've brought into it, just can't deal with it, and can't cope. One day, I'll slow down, but right now, I'd like to get all the running and music playing out of my system so eventually I can "settle down", and have a family, and have no regrets.
Right now, I'd sure rather have her in my life than out of it, and she feels the same, and she apologized profusely for breaking up with me, and how she did it, and said how lucky she is to have me, etc.
So that's better, but the grandpa thing is still the same. He is already starting to lose motor skills, and soon will lose his ability to speak, read and think. Its really awful. He was never a smart man, but was always very kind, loving, and a good husband and father, and a really great grandpa. I will miss him a lot. Actually I already do, since I'm DF'd, and he won't speak. I will send a card, I've decided.