by AK - Jeff 34 Replies latest jw friends
I did. I am not proud of that, for I know the pain I caused someone as I look back.
I turned in 4 people for 'gross sins' over my tenure as a Jw. I wish I could take it back now. Were these people guilty of 'sin' as defined by the WTS? Yes! But what right did I have to become the 'accuser of my Brother'? And to turn him into the elders who routinely expelled all 4 of these people as 'evildoers'.
I look back with such regret that I had become such a self-righteous son-of-a-bitch.
And you?
Jeff
I know of 3 that committed such things, but I never turned them in.
I never believed in that part of WT doctrine, the confession to elders.
Yes, I reported an elder (service overseer) and a MS for their drinking habits. They were drinking in their vehicles while driving, getting drunk in bars, including strip bars. They were drinking in parking lots behind plazas, parks, and in the street during a non-alcohol "get together" at a sister's house. My report had credibility with the elders because I named myself as a participant. I did it deliberately, and don't regret it at all. I did it because I had been persecuted my the elder body for so many years for stupid things like having a moustache, bright ties, and tinted prescription glasses. It was time for a little payback, and at that point I really didn't care if I got df'd or not. Unfortunately, a JC never took place, probably because the service overseer was also the PO's son. But he and the MS sure got a good reaming out.
W
I did not, but I was in a situation where I saw something that was not quite right .....and the person I was with reported it.
Looking back now, its hilarious, and I really don't give a rats batooty who shags who.
The people lied their way out of it, the sister was Upstanding afterall, and the guy was just a biblestudy(married though, I might add)
The sister that did the turning in got all bent out of shape cuz nothing was done.
Anyway, it taught me something, a person can lie their way out of anything, AND if people truely believed in helping one another, there would be no reason to lie, you could put your cards on the table and sort it all out.
purps
No. I got turned into an elder twice. My dad was the elder, once for smoking and the other I wont talk about.
Yes, I turned in several people over to elders in my many years in the cult.
I regret turning each and every one of them in except for one.
MYSELF. I am glad I confessed my "Sin", I wish I had done it earlier.
Struth, Jeff! You know minimus is the one who's supposed to ask them questions!
God No!! I never bought into that whole thing, besides ALL the kids my age were living double lives. I did get called into a JC one time though because something alledgedly happened at my party. They pulled me in right in front of my best friend and her mom and asked if I had seen her smoking. I said no, because I hadn't. They asked me if she had opportunity to smoke or buy cigarettes without my knowledge. "Well brothers, we did walk down to the gas station for candy and soda, she was one of the last ones out but I never saw any cigarettes." I was crying at this point. Someone else had turned her in and I guess they were trying to find a second witness. Her mother realized what was going on and nipped it right there. I was soooo thankful.
AK Jeff you've reminded me of an awful situation that developed -
My husband and I were both new in the 'truth' and newly married - we were asked to encourage a sis who had 4 small children and, what we didn't know at the time, she was also emotionally vulnerable.
During the course of our helping her she confided that one of the elders was deeply in love with her and she with him. It was all based on meaningful looks that he had supposedly given her.
Well being such an earnest couple we warned the poor elder. He almost went to pieces and told us that his wife was very very jealous and ithat f she got wind of what this sis was saying his life wouldn't be worth living. Honestly - he was so upset that he went straight over to the poor sis and basically told her what he'd been told and said that she was delusional and that his attention to her was simply because she was a a member of his group.
The poor sis confided what had happened to me and my husband, only she blamed a single parent sister for telling the elder. She was ready to go over there and have it out with the single parent sister.
We quickly told her that we were the culprits and we were very sorry. There was dead silence and she ordered us to leave.
The awful outcome was that she had a nervous breakdown (poor thing had already had 2 breakdowns in the past so she was very vulnerable) and ended up in mental hospital.
I can't believe we did that - its really upsetting for me to think about it now. Thanks for letting me tell you about it. weren't we self righteous.
bernadette
I never turned anybody in. I thought from the beginning that the need to 'confess your sins' to the Elders was complete foolishness and never supported it.
