i just heard about "new light" that elders need to get people reinstated as quickly as possible so they don't become downtrodden (oh boy, wtbts terminology).
that's all fine and dandy, of course getting elders off their power trip is like telling a homosexual biker not to wear chaps.
and, they've done so much damage over the years, to people just like you and i who weren't being sinister, but sincere, and they continue to have bugs up their asses.
i say keep trying, you've put in the hard time, keep your head up, get that reinstatement so the shunning in your family can end...even though resentment will probably be there until the end of the world, and if you choose, learn from how you're being treated and fade out quickly.
see the red flags waving and take note.
i wish you the best whatever decision works for you.
they're treating you like you went on a killing spree...adultery is rough, but we all make mistakes and time heals and we all get on with our lives.