Posts by monophonic

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Dating after Divorcing a JW...

by RagingBull in

any experiences/advice on dating (moving on) after a separation or divorce from a jw?.

i know that when (not if) i leave the org, my wife will probably separate then divorce me (and we have 3 small children).

i only know of horror stories when it comes to that type of scenario.

monophonic

from my experience, get out of the marriage, lawyer up to get custody of the kids, and hopefully they're old enough to see the absurdity of jws.

i disagree with people who are offended by your question, you have every right to think about this. i left the jws in 1999 and stayed a faithful, caring, supportive husband until my jw wife cheated on me in 2008 b/c i wrote a novel that became a love story based in the jws and she had been messing around with 'worldly' dudes for a while and pulled the ...oh, my husband is an apostate.... card to get out of getting in trouble for effing around on me.

i'm not sure how old you are, but my ex left when i turned 38. i thought my life as a single dude would be over and lonely.

far from it. i live in san francisco, so being in an ubran area makes getting dates A LOT easier. women are majorly attracted to men who have been in long term relationships....kids or not.

i have friends who have never been jws who have major dating success in their 40s with children.

dating now is better than it would have been in my teens/20s. most of the women i've dated are at least a decade younger than me and smart and beautiful and absolutely amazing.

it kind of helps that i'm a published author.

if you're having any problems getting dates, then look to yourself to improve who you are as a person. do yoga, exercise, indulge in your dreams and pursue them vigorously without even thinking of dating. you'll find women will come to you with the same passions you develop and intimacy is far greater than just screwing around.

though screwing around is fun, but something i've learned to just get out of my system and move on to only having intimacy with women who i've connected with on other levels.

make lots of non-jw friends, dudes and ladies....enjoy their company and how great they are...it's amazing the wonderful people i've met outside jws and after the awful divorce that my ex tried to use to sabotage my novel release and get away with cheating on me. there are awesome people on the earth, most are not jws or have any affiliation.

i'm dating someone now who grew up in the church of the nazarene. she's wonderful. we're taking things slow (not sexually, we connect more than i've ever connected sexually with anyone in my life).....i'm saying jws are not unique, there are other people out there, comrads, lovers, waiting for an excellent man or woman who has had to divorce b/c of being a jw.

the best years of my life as a single person have been after my divorce.

the novel that 'ended it all': confessions of a teenage jesus jerk.

actually, it restarted my life now that it's published. :)

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Why no coverage of the Russian ban in the media?

by highdose in

i mean not just in russia but world wide, wouldn't this be a great oppotunity to educate the public about this cult????.

hint hint people with media contacts....

monophonic

i saw cbs news coverage.

why the director of knocking continues to misinform the public on jws just amazes me. he has no clue the only reason he's treated well is b/c he's not baptized and they're hoping he stops his wicked homosexuality. as far as they're concerned, he's dead at armageddon.

it's like a jew saying being a nazi isn't that bad, look at their health care plan.

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Do You Support Freedom Of Religion?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i think most religions have their good and bad points about them.

some religions (most) teach if you're a "bad" person or a sinner who doesn't become "born again", that you're going to burn in hellfire forever and ever!

some religions teach intolerance toward "infidels" or "apostates".

monophonic

i don't support tax exemption of religions....they're some of the biggest money makers in the world.

and, jws are the largest offenders of brooklyn heights, owning property, not paying taxes AND not supporting the neighborhood by doing all things in house, from dry cleaning to eating, etc.

sure, believe what you want, but in the end all religion is business.

now i'm going to start a church and we're going to worship polluted rivers.

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Were you afraid to go to a bar?

by rebel8 in

someone who shall remain nameless (*cough*snowbird*cough) mentioned she has never been to a bar.. this shocks me.. i was remembering how terrified i was of going to a bar when i was exiting the mother ship.

i was looking for the lightning bolts to get me.

and it was a big nothing really.

monophonic

fortunately i live(d) in a big city and went to concerts and shows all the time at bars when i was a teen and beyond while still in the jws. elders on my ass whenever they found out....now all the so-called 'cool' jws try and go to shows.

since they've shunned me, and i'm in the music business...and they went to a show i was at, a band i introduced them to, i laid down the law that since they're shunning me they can't attend any band i turned them onto and to go back to their madonna concerts. :)

my only experience was when i turned 21 and went to a 21 and over show in the city, the bartenders and bouncers were really nice....quite a comparison to the all ages, thug bouncer shows.

then whenever i hit a bar in the 'burbs, the atmosphere was pathetic and red neck.

don't get me wrong, the first step in some bars in my 'hood yield, who the eff are you?, looks, but when they find out, the friendly world opens up.

bars outside of big cities, i've heard there's a stigma about them. i guess i should get out to the 'burbs more often.

oh, i took a bunch of jws from the kh i was in (and an MS at the time) to a dance night at a bar...they had a local needs talk the next week....i didn't take jws again.

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LATEST BIG RUMOR: WTS calls a moratorium on ALL KH construction in US & Canada

by sir82 in

jw
friends

based on an informal conversation this past weekend.... an elder with "connections" to the local rbc stated that he heard that the society was instituting a moratorium on all kingdom hall construction in the us and canada.

any projects for which funding has already been arranged will continue, but as of now, no new kh construction loans are being approved by the society.. there are enough projects in the pipeline that rbcs will still be busy for the next year or 2, but after that....who knows?.

my thoughts:.

monophonic

re: wtbts ownership of kingdom halls....i thought their name was kept off so they don't have to list it as an asset themselves, but they have some loophole where if the kingdom hall was dissolved, they are the owner....do the loans give them the land purchase and not the actual building?

someone will cash this out one day, and it'll be big....and i see lots of suicides, etc. if/when this happens.

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Comparison to ex-Mormons

by rebel8 in

i've been learning about ex-mormons recently and was astounded at the similarities, right down to using tm.. here's a free pdf i worked up that compares the similarities..

monophonic

i just read an article....my memory sucks, it was either in the atlantic, time or something similar.

they mentioned that 25% of active mormons don't believe in the faith, but can't get out b/c it will hurt them socially and financially if they're excommunicated. they're called jack mormons. i look forward to reading your article.

cheers,

tony

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i am going to a meeting next week!

by oompa in

jw
friends

monophonic

do a poo on the floor of the bathroom so one of the up and coming rock star attendents who crave to be an elder one day has to clean it up. :)

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How do the elders know if you are truly repentent?

by jetery in

the reason why i ask is because whenever u are df and u are trying to get reinstated they are always tellling u that u have to produce fruits befitting repentenace like attending the meetings,etc.

they always make it seem that since they are gods spirit-directed org.

that he will know whether or not if a person is repentent.

monophonic

wow, really?

do they say that the holy spirit moves the elders to make the df and JC decisions, or is that gone too?

when did that happen?

so, for me to keep up, they can't say "____ has been disfellowshipped" or refer to someone being df'ed, they're "_____no longer a jw", and other members voluntarily shun them, but if they were caught not shunning them they'd be in line to 'not be a jw' and be shunned themselves.

they can't say 'society' anymore, correct?

what other ~~wordplay~~ new light has happened in the how to say things so we don't get sued department?

thanks for the info on the HS.

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How do the elders know if you are truly repentent?

by jetery in

the reason why i ask is because whenever u are df and u are trying to get reinstated they are always tellling u that u have to produce fruits befitting repentenace like attending the meetings,etc.

they always make it seem that since they are gods spirit-directed org.

that he will know whether or not if a person is repentent.

monophonic

it's all BS and politics. what'll get you df'ed and dealt with harshly in one congregation will get you reproved and a light touch in another.

they feel they're appointed by god's holy spirit. and god's holy spirit also told the governing body to allow the killings to continue in malawi even though there was nothing wrong. and god's holy spirit said education was bad. then it was good. then it was bad again.

god's holy spirit just told me it's almost midnight and i should grab a drink from the bar around the corner.

god's holy spirit rawks!

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Article on Mental Health and witnesses

by chikikie in

all i can say is wow!!

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http://www.seanet.com/~raines/mental.html.

monophonic

is this for a school paper or thesis?