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Posts by flower
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19The Celts in tears and does not know why
by Celtic inwill a more trusted friend meet me in chat in a bit for a conversation?.
i'm so sorry, i don't like burdening any of you down with my inner soul sadness.
i don't even know why i'm crying, tisn't allowed when your'e 6'5" plus, but tonight i am.
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Life Sucks
by Xena in.
no prospects for the future except getting old and dying...most likely alone.. all seems kind of pointless sometimes, doesn't it?
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flower
no advice....just an understanding hug. (((xena)))
i know how you feel hon....sometimes i feel the same way. but as long as the feeling doesnt last you'll be ok.
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Can you believe this?
by staceman ineven i am pretty shocked at this one... .
my daughter who is 20 years old and df'd for about 2 years now is attending meetings again.
but yesterday she tells me that she didn't feel like going to the meeting and that her mom probably wouldn't even know that she wasn't there.
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flower
i've never heard of such a thing. how ignorant. i was df'd and sat with or near my family without any problem. df'd people could sit wherever they wanted in our hall as far as I know. Some congregations take things so far its ridiculous.
As far as your daughter...I agree she will have to come to the conclusion on her own if she is old enough but there is nothing wrong with helping her out by giving her the facts and resources to make the right choice. Its your duty as a parent. Like you would tell her when she is mixed up with the wrong crowd at school or you would tell her how dangerous drugs can be. Its just another thing we parents have to protect our kids from, its our job to make sure they are safe and they cant be left to decide such things for themselves. Lack of experience and common sense will have them making the wrong decision every time.
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Many people do not show affection- why is this?
by gumby inwe all know people who will not show affection to those they love or care deeply about.
why cannot a father who loves his daughter deeply...........ever hug her and tell her how much he loves her?.
why cannot some spouses tell their mate they love them?.
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flower
No Six, but I'm greatly looking forward to the occasion!
flower, of the A&H class
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The JW Effect ? Lack of life planning
by Gopher inas jw?s we were taught that the day of jehovah was always near.
we were to keep it close in mind.
those using the world were not to ?use it to the full?.
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flower
yea my life is totally behind schedule thanks to the jw's. i graduated with practically every report card i ever got saying 'M___ does not work up to her potential". Of course I didnt, why bother? I was a straight C student because I just didnt have any motivation to do well. Armageddon was coming soon I had more important things to worry about. I took college prep courses just to shut up all the counselors who were hounding me about what I was gonna do after school.
By the time graduation came around I had not even given a second thought to what I was going to do with myself. I was literally waiting every day for the big A. How sick is that?
I finally got a retail job a year after graduation so I could afford the freedom of having a car of my own. It wasnt till I started fading from the JW's that I realized how absolutely stupid I had been. I've found it nearly impossible to get back to school and do the things my heart tells me I should be doing but I do think one day I am destined to make a major contribution to the world. I can hope anyway. :)
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Many people do not show affection- why is this?
by gumby inwe all know people who will not show affection to those they love or care deeply about.
why cannot a father who loves his daughter deeply...........ever hug her and tell her how much he loves her?.
why cannot some spouses tell their mate they love them?.
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flower
affection and horniness are two different things elsewhere
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Has this happened to you?
by ball. ini just went round the corner for a breakfast in the local cafe, and as i was about to go in, there was a jw, one of my best mates, just coming out.
i just stood there and looked at him in amazement, as i haven't seen him in 10 years and he had changed a lot.
i guess i have too.
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flower
My decision to move 300 miles from my hometown was partially made based on the fact that I ran into family and jw's everywhere I went. It was a small town and at the time I was uncomfortable by the situation. After two years of working on myself though I dont think it would be a problem. I would treat them just like any other old friend of mine and if they spoke to me or not I could care less. I wouldnt be looking to humiliate them by taking the initiative to speak first but I certainly would do it to make them think of how horrible their cult requires them to act.
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Many people do not show affection- why is this?
by gumby inwe all know people who will not show affection to those they love or care deeply about.
why cannot a father who loves his daughter deeply...........ever hug her and tell her how much he loves her?.
why cannot some spouses tell their mate they love them?.
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flower
Gumby, yea that sounds familiar. Me padre was of the that class. Total asshole at home but everyones favorite elder..approachable, not arrogant, non judgemental, yada yada yada. But I think with some people its not fear of anything except losing power. Power hungry control freaks are incapable of love..nothing matters but being the boss.
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Many people do not show affection- why is this?
by gumby inwe all know people who will not show affection to those they love or care deeply about.
why cannot a father who loves his daughter deeply...........ever hug her and tell her how much he loves her?.
why cannot some spouses tell their mate they love them?.
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flower
For me, that is a little too simplistic.........
There is WAY too much damage that has been done to me....
I am so scared....ALL the time.........
ANY decision is too hard because the JW "speak" is always in my head.......
You sound like a lot of people including myself did before we were able to break out of the mental bondage. Just leaving the JW's physically means NOTHING if one is not able to break free mentally. I know EX jw's (my aunts included) who have been out 20 years and counting and yet if I bring up one negative thought about the religion I am ostrasized and accused. They still believe it and they think they have chosen suicide (by armageddon) over being a JW. That is no way to live and its so far from the truth. That is the result of powerful brainwashing and mental bondage. The 'jw speak' you hear in your head is the same thing. None of its true but you have to conclude that for yourself. Then you'll be able to stop living in fear. Knowledge is power. Power is freedom. Ask yourself some questions about why the organization is 'gods only religion'. You'll soon see that it isnt. Then everything they say you'll take as it should be taken and not as the word of god. flower
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Many people do not show affection- why is this?
by gumby inwe all know people who will not show affection to those they love or care deeply about.
why cannot a father who loves his daughter deeply...........ever hug her and tell her how much he loves her?.
why cannot some spouses tell their mate they love them?.
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flower
I think many people feel vunerable by acknowledging they love someone. As if they give up control everytime they say those words or show how they feel. I think many, especially men, feel weak even expressing it to their own kids. Its wierd. I cant imagine not telling my kid every day how much I love him.
I dont think it has as much to do with how you grew up as some think. I didnt hear loving words 'ever' but telling my kiddo how much fun I have with him and how much I love him doesnt feel at all unnatural. Or perhaps like Xena said I know how important it is to a kids esteem to have parental love and support so it comes natural.