I told a very good friend of mine several months ago, that I had questions for a long time, and that I had started disagreeing with some JW teachings. She told me I should go and talk to the elders.
And this is a person who lost all her "close" friends due to being d'fd. At the time of this happening, she was told by the elders that she had grieved the holy spirit by her actions. Now that she's re-instated, none of her "close" friends want anything to do with her and whenever she would come into town, she always contacted me...and we would go eat lunch. She would tell me at those times that she felt like she was still on the outside, she couldn't pray because of what the elders told her about what she had done to the holy spirit, and she didn't know how Jehovah felt towards her, but that she would go to the meetings whenever she could and just go thru the motions of being a JW. I knew what grieving the holy spirit was and told her she hadn't done that--and also found an article about what it meant to grieve the h.s. She felt so uplifted by the article and so the next time we met, and I told her about my disagreements with the society, abd why. And her answer was what I mentioned above.
So now I wonder if I should consider her a good friend still if she has those feelings. I do hope I said some things that maybe she will consider and think about. She was supposed to move to another state, and I haven't heard from her as to whether she did or not. And I'm not going to contact her either. Other than her, I never had any close witness friends. My mom, who became a witness in 1941 died last year, so I don't have to worry about her. I have no brothers and sisters, and my husband is a witness but not spiritually-minded at all. He hasn't been to meetings in months due to work. Not that I equate spirituality with meetings, but I've never seen him just open the Bible to read it; he doesn't pray and we never talk about spiritual things. In fact, we hardly talk at all about things that matter. My children are not baptized nor attend meetings. Their ages are 25 and 19 respectively--so I'm just going to leave it at that.