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  Challenge to board:I know the one problem with JW's & Christians in one word.Do You?

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  Hmmmmm.....
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  I have a touchy situation...could use some advice

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  i just got an e-mail from my 80 year old mother asking my wife and i to join her for the memorial this year.

  i really don't want to go, but i am also trying to maintain some degree of a relationship with her.

  she is breaking the "rules" by not shunning me, but i don't know how she will react if i reject her invitation.

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  Thanks again for all of your comments...I really appreciate your thoughtful (and sometimes very funny) comments and input. I am still mulling this one over, but I am leaning toward thanking her for her invitation and pass. I say this for a number of reasons...I have been DF'ed for 15 years, so this is not new to her. She has pretty much ignored the "rule" of cutting me off, so I am hoping this wouldn't make her start following the "rules" after 15 years. Last, but not least, I think she is playing the master manipulation game in throwing this one out there this year. I am still torn, but I really don't like the idea of being guilted into going and being treated like I don't exist the whole time I am there.

  Again, thanks to all of you for the great advice!

  P.S. - My wife suggested that she would go if my Mom would go to church with her on Easter...fat chance of that invitation being accepted!!
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  Why do some of you JW's stay in the organization?

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  i have read that up to 67% of all jw's leave the religion when they come of age.

  so i wish i could know why the others stay.

  in your opinion, what keeps them in?

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  I am having a bit of trouble following you Ex...what religion are you describing that believes those things but do not tell about Jehovah? If you are an ex-JW, why do you defend the WTS?...are you trying to go back? I would love to understand your situation...
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  I have a touchy situation...could use some advice

  by tenyearsafter in

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  i just got an e-mail from my 80 year old mother asking my wife and i to join her for the memorial this year.

  i really don't want to go, but i am also trying to maintain some degree of a relationship with her.

  she is breaking the "rules" by not shunning me, but i don't know how she will react if i reject her invitation.

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  I am still thinking about it...

  Aude...Those gutters do look a little dirty!
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  I have a touchy situation...could use some advice

  by tenyearsafter in

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  i just got an e-mail from my 80 year old mother asking my wife and i to join her for the memorial this year.

  i really don't want to go, but i am also trying to maintain some degree of a relationship with her.

  she is breaking the "rules" by not shunning me, but i don't know how she will react if i reject her invitation.

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  tenyearsafter

  Fortunately my cats are hairless...no hairballs but a bit of an oily residue!
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  I have a touchy situation...could use some advice

  by tenyearsafter in

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  i just got an e-mail from my 80 year old mother asking my wife and i to join her for the memorial this year.

  i really don't want to go, but i am also trying to maintain some degree of a relationship with her.

  she is breaking the "rules" by not shunning me, but i don't know how she will react if i reject her invitation.

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  Thanks everybody...I appreciate the insights. I will talk to my wife and see what makes sense.

  ...though I like the monkey's idea about licking the cat clean and getting drunk! LOL
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  I have a touchy situation...could use some advice

  by tenyearsafter in

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  i just got an e-mail from my 80 year old mother asking my wife and i to join her for the memorial this year.

  i really don't want to go, but i am also trying to maintain some degree of a relationship with her.

  she is breaking the "rules" by not shunning me, but i don't know how she will react if i reject her invitation.

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  I just got an e-mail from my 80 year old mother asking my wife and I to join her for the Memorial this year. I really don't want to go, but I am also trying to maintain some degree of a relationship with her. She is breaking the "rules" by not shunning me, but I don't know how she will react if I reject her invitation. She is not in great health, so I would rather not cause a split with her at this late stage of the game. My wife has never been a JW and dislikes the Memorial (she likens it to sitting through a tax seminar), but she would go just to keep the peace.

  My question is, should I do what "keeps the peace" with my Mom or do I draw the line and risk a split in our relationship?
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  New book: "Confessions of a Teenage Jesus Jerk"

  by Gopher in

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  a new novel written by an ex-jw received a mainly positive review in today's minneapolis newspaper.

  the author posted on this board about 2 months ago under the username "mutinyinheaven" , but hasn't posted since.. the book is available through amazon.com.. http://www.startribune.com/entertainment/books/88705662.html?elr=karksuuuodey3lgdio7aiu.

  reviews: "confessions of a teenage jesus jerk"last update: march 21, 2010 - 2:04 pm.

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  I am reading it now...through the first few chapters and it is a good read. It certainly scores a bulls-eye in describing what it was like growing up a JW. I could particularly relate to the discomfort of running into school friends while out door to door and the snarky questions about being a JW from "worldly" kids. I am looking forward to getting back to reading more...
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  Best Music Concert you Attended - Favorite Live Musicians ?

  by flipper in

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  since spring weather is upon us - thought those of us that enjoy live music may have fun with this one !.

  my favorite live musicians i have seen are follows :.

  and which show or group was your favorite ?

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  Jeff T - We must be the same age as I did all of those classic rock shows myself...and CSN&Y were great...I sam them in LA and they took a few songs to warm up, but then they smoked it!

  More recently, The Eagles "Hell Freezes Over" has to be the best...and believe it or not, two years ago, the Tom Jones show...that man put on an unbelievable live show!
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  Can You Get DFd for Working for the Department of Defense?

  by daniel-p in

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  so, as some of you may be aware, i got a job offer with an agency under the u.s. department of defense.

  the other day i told a member of my family, and they nearly went apeshit.. my question: what reprecussions could this reasonably have?

  does the wts speak of this in any of their publications?

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  Romans 13:1

  1 Let every soul be in subjection to the superior authorities, for there is no authority except by God; the existing authorities stand placed in their relative positions by God. 2 Therefore he who opposes the authority has taken a stand against the arrangement of God; those who have taken a stand against it will receive judgment to themselves.

  Daniel...you might ask your friend how your employment with the "superior authorities" is in conflict with the above scripture?...