Thanks for the thoughts, my temper is what I am working on before we have the get together. My dads sister is putting it on and she is disfellowshipped. So it would only be close relatives that would even show up. I have to just put on a smile and walk away if someone uses it to try to "reach" me. My mother was still in the cult when she passed back in 2000 and I really had to bite my tongue when they used her funeral at a hall as a recruiting tool.
Fortunately dad left the cult years before mom died so its not a big problem, but I have a couple of close relatives who are very brain washed. I guess I should look at it as not a time nor place "Community Center" to do my usual speech like when they come to the door knocking. I will work on my Zen mental sand garden if anyone says anything. Thanks for the thoughts.