HERE'S MY ADVICE
WAIT. JUST WAIT . TELL YOUR WIFE YOUR INTENTIONS BUT AT THE SAME TIME YOU NEED TO STAY ALONE BECAUSE YOU NEED TO FIGURE OUT IF YOU REALLY TRULY WANT TO PUT YOURSELF BACK IN THE SITUATION YOU FOUND YOURSELF IN BEFORE. SO GOING TO MEETINGS AND GETTING REINSTATED, MOVING BACK IN WITH YOUR FAMILY WITHIN SAY 1 YR WILL SUGAR COAT SOME OF YOUR PAIN BUT IS IT WHAT YOU WANT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? YOU HAVE ALREADY TASTED WHAT ITS LIKE TO BE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN AND NOT HAVE YOUR FAMILY WITH YOU. ARE U PREPARED TO NEVER EVER LET THIS HAPPEN AGAIN BECAUSE YOUR FLESH AND BLOOD CHILDREN WILL BE PAINED AGAIN AND UR WIFE AS WELL ..SO JUST WAIT AND TAKE AS MUCH TIME AS YOU NEED ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU'RE SURE SHE WOULD AGREE TO RECONCILE. ONCE YOU FEEL YOU HAVE WAITED LONG ENOUGH AND YOU ARE CRYING INSIDE FOR YOUR FAMILY MORE THAN YOU ARE CRYING FOR ANYTHING ELSE THAN THE DECISION SHOULD BE EASY. NEVER EVER FEEL THAT YOUR FUTURE FADING IS A MOCKERY OF YOUR MARRIAGE OR BEING FRAUDLULENT TOWARDS ANYONE. YOU RE IN CHARGE AS LONG AS U HAVE UR FAMILIES LOVE WHATEVER MEANS NECESSARY(FADING) GETTING REINSTATED MEANS ATTENDING EVERY MEETING ARE U PREPARED? GIVE IT LOTS OF THOUGHT.