Posts by memario

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I'm new here

by mind my own in

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friends

i'm so glad to be a member, i have been reading this site for a while now and finally joined.

i just love reading all your comments, how enlightening!

this site has been a source of great comfort for me in the past few months.

memario

Welcome mmo

As a newbie myself this site has a lot to offer, stick around and enjoy the ride! lol

mem

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I'm in love with a jehovas witness (plz reply to [email protected])

by Devorak in

to all out there that read this forum, " i'm not a jehovas witness!".

but i am in love with someone.

i understand because i have read much information on the internet regarding these kinds of relationships.

I'm in love with a jehovas witness (plz reply to [email protected])

by Devorak in

to all out there that read this forum, " i'm not a jehovas witness!".

but i am in love with someone.

i understand because i have read much information on the internet regarding these kinds of relationships.

memario

For a marriage to work, it takes continual readjusting and forgiving and maturity. I hope you both take time to develop your friendship before marrying.ready emotionally for the hard job ahead.

juni - You nailed it.ready EMOTIONALLY!! That was my problem, and it took me 39 years to realize it!

mem

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I came to a disturbing realization today

by Stealth453 in

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friends

this morning, someone mistakenly text my cell phone asking that i send them some money.

the text was addressed to "paul".

my wife read the text, and jokingly asked me if i was "pretending to be paul".. i answered her, "paul?

memario

stealth - I pretended for 39 yrs. now I know what play I'm in. The play of life? oh yes and now I'm the director!!

mem

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I hugged my dad tonight...

by memario in

..... for the first time i can remember doing.

i posted in "my story" that my dad had never hugged me.

when i really thought about it i decided it was time to do something about that.. we went for supper at my parents tonight.

memario

Did he stiffen up?

choosing life - Like a board with a little pat on the back. lol

I'll work on him.

thanks

mem

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The Way To Love

by JamesThomas in

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friends

one of my favorite little books is: the way to love: the last meditations of anthony de mello.. following is from the chapter: be awake.

it may be too direct, ruthlessly honest and straight-forward for many; we are not normally exposed to such hard-hitting guidance.

yet some of you it will touch in a significant way; enough to purchase this rare little gem that you may gleem from its pages much wisdom.. .

memario

Just ordered it today as I just finished The One by Kathy Freston, an easy read yet powerful.It changed my life!

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I hugged my dad tonight...

by memario in

..... for the first time i can remember doing.

i posted in "my story" that my dad had never hugged me.

when i really thought about it i decided it was time to do something about that.. we went for supper at my parents tonight.

memario

Where her feelings real, or was she following orders????

changeling - Good question???? I know in my HEART, this is what I'm suppose to do, TO FEEL AGAIN!! And it feels great!

As for your mom, will time tell if it is genuine? Who knows. I hope so. We need to hear that approval from the ones that matter the most, our parents.

Thanks.

mem

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I hugged my dad tonight...

by memario in

..... for the first time i can remember doing.

i posted in "my story" that my dad had never hugged me.

when i really thought about it i decided it was time to do something about that.. we went for supper at my parents tonight.

memario

This is one of the most beautiful posts I have read here. Thanks for sharing such a special moment with us. We are all smiling as we read this....well at least I am !!

still_in74 - Thanks man, you brought a tear to my eye, and a smile on my face.

mem

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I hugged my dad tonight...

by memario in

..... for the first time i can remember doing.

i posted in "my story" that my dad had never hugged me.

when i really thought about it i decided it was time to do something about that.. we went for supper at my parents tonight.

I hugged my dad tonight...

by memario in

..... for the first time i can remember doing.

i posted in "my story" that my dad had never hugged me.

when i really thought about it i decided it was time to do something about that.. we went for supper at my parents tonight.

memario

..... for the first time I can remember doing. I posted in "My Story" that my dad had never hugged me. When I really thought about it I decided it was time to do something about that.

We went for supper at my parents tonight. I saw alot of my dad in me before I "woke up". Now I know where I get my passive aggressiveness from, and I had to choke back tears. It was an emotional evening. I had to hold back all the feelings that were going through me, it just wasn't the right time to let them all out. Tonite brought me back to my childhood memories and feelings. Feelings of never being good enough, them never being proud of me or my accomplishments. I felt fear too, fear that one day, when they really realize how I feel about "the truth" that they won't talk to me again, even though our relationship is f$&ked up!

I have so much I want and need to tell them, it's just where and how do I start? It's hard to express feelings to them, they just don't seem to understand what "feelings" are.

So, back to the hug - my father usually only offers a handshake. Tonite I decided to just give him a hug instead. It wasn't a warm hug, but it was a start, it was all he was capable of right now. Each time I go and visit now, I'm going to hug him, maybe I can break through the "wall of ice", melt his heart abit with each hug.

Parents - go and hug your kids right now!

mem