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  Breaking News: Big Trouble with the Watchtower

  by Bethelite Elder in

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  a couple of weeks ago, an ex-bethelite(10 years) by the name of mel smith was disfellowshipped.

  i understand that he still lives in ny are and has a mortgage company.

  evidently, he was hurt while serving at the farm and watchtower did some horrible things to him.

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  aligot,

  Sending a certified letter to inform someone of a JC meeting with hopes of tripping them up later...totally believable.
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  New Light: Don't hold hands during prayers

  by RR in

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  from the watchtower november 15 study edition.. 19 when we are being represented in public prayer, we need to display reverential "fear of god.

  " (1 pet 2:17) there may be a proper time and place for some actions that would be inappropriate at a christian meeting.

  (eccl 3:1) for instance, suppose someone sought to have all in a group link arms or hold hands during prayer.

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  When I did attend meetings I always thought it was a little hokey to hold hands and\or hug during prayer. I have offended many of sisters that have grabbed my hand at the start of the prayer by politely snatching my hand away along with a "I don't do that".
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  My Aunt Tells My Mom NOT To Read A Book About A JW In Concentration Camp Because...

  by minimus in

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  the witness evidently made money on his book and if it was an "approved" book, the society would be providing it free of charge.. i don't know who wrote the book but it's circulating around.

  an elder's wife said she'd let my mother borrow the book if she wanted to.

  when my mother yold her sister, my aunt strongly cautioned her as to the impropriety of it all.

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  Blondie, that list was quite interesting.

  Ha...a JW wrote a simplified version of the bible . Some of the JW books really seem like a big no-no to me in the JW world. Certainly not anything a "real" JW would read. And the ones for the kids about the meeting and the other about paradise...ha...I wonder who would buy those books. I'm sure most JWs would think they are written by apostates.
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  COs and Green Handshakes

  by cognac in

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  this really happened?

  cos really take the money and don't say, "put it in the contribution box?

  " did you put it in there hand or in a card that they opened later?.

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  I saw green handshakes all the time. It was expected. Folks used to remind others to bring cash on sunday. Brothers typically gave green handshakes and sisters gave greeting cards with gift cards\certificates to the wife. There were rumors that COs asked to be assigned to our circuit because it was such a "loving" circuit.

  I was told earlier this year that there was a new directive that the COs and their wives were no longer to accept monetary donations for themselves and are supposed to put them in the contribution box.
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  Have you ever heard of a situation where a speaker had to leave the platform/stage?

  by StoneWall in

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  and if so how was it handled?.

  was it because of illness?.

  or extreme case of nature calling?

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  The WT study conductor would comment week after week the need for preparation. It was common for no one or the same few folks to raise their hands to comment. It was also common for no one to show up for their assignments, and the school overseer would simply review the info with the congo. Well, during one WT lesson on a very easy question no one raised their hands. The conductor, then attempted to simplify the question...still no hands.

  At that point the conductor threw his hands in the air and shouted "What the f*** is wrong with you people?" then walked off the stage saying something about he didn't need the aggravation, walked to his seat grab his bag and told his wife "Let's go". Another elder then took the stage and ended the meeting.

  The conductor was deleted. The congs in the circuit had a local needs talk about lightening the load of the elders by preparing for meetings, volunteering for parts, blah, blah, blah.
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  I had a make-over!!!

  by Lady Lee in

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  it was time for a new look.

  so i have been playing around with some ideas.

  when i was in winnipeg i had a hairdresser that was great.

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  Love the new look! You look more youthful and brighter with your new cut.

  BTW...Everyone needs a make-over every few years!
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  Do you play the lottery?

  by asilentone in

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  if you do, would you let me choose the numbers for you, if we win, we can split the money.

  deal?

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  Last week when buying gas, I considered buying a lottery ticket just because I could and supposedly the proceeds goes to public education. Anyway, in every area I've been in even buying a raffle ticket for a good cause was a no-no and considered gambling. Even free raffles are off limits in some area because its all based on luck.
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  Do nice people who leave the truth have more friends?

  by wouldacouldashoulda in

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  hi posters.

  something has really been bothering me a lot lately.

  in a nutshell i faded about 4 years ago.

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  WCS,

  The saying "You have to be a friend to have a friend" is totally true. In the JW world, your social world is created for you. You really don't have to cultivate your friendships because everyone is your "friend". Once you leave the dubs, you have to work at friendships, they're not automatic.

  Also, whether you are a JW or not, it helps to be nice
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  Im new....posting hesitantly :)

  by wantstoleave in

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  hi everyone...i have a confession to make, i actually joined 5mths ago, but never came back to the site.

  ive had doubt for a few years now.. my parents came into the truth when i was a toddler.

  no other family members are witnesses.

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  I married at 24......and with my new husband, we only went to a handful of meetings in 4yrs and went witnessing twice. It was during this time I started to really doubt I think.

  So...you were no longer a witness (you were technically because you were baptized but they should have stop counting you after 6 months of inactivity so actually...) and had the perfect opportunity to fade.

  Anyway, sounds like the indoctrination you got during your teenage years when your family were slackers and you were zealous is starting to kick-in now that life has thrown you a curveball. Basically you are trying to find something to hold on to, someplace safe and the only "stable routine" you know is going to the meetings. I would recommend you take some time and find WantsToLeave.

  Its easy to take the familiar road even when we're not happy because it doesn't require much work. But when you do the work, face your fears, confront the hard questions head on...its not easy but you walk away knowing that you've done the work and made an informed choice.

  Whether you decide to stay or leave, its YOUR choice. Don't do it out of default or because your sister cries. Remember, your sister does NOT have to live YOUR life.

  Wishing you nothing but happiness,

  Shop
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  My sister died in a head on collision last night

  by Bumble Bee in

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  i still can't believe it.

  she was here for the bbq, we had an awesome time, laughing, her telling stories from our childhoods.

  i gave her a hug and told her i loved her before she left.

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  Bumble Bee, my deepest sympathies are with you.