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  A Brother Died At Bethel

  by MrFreeze in

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  i got a text from my mom when i got into work today saying that a brother i've known for a while had died.

  he was a bethelite and they found him dead in his room.

  he was the same age as me.

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  I think the "policy" of whether or not a memorial for a death by suicide is a regional thing. I have lived in several different areas of Canada and each congregation was different.

  Moncton in the 80's a brother committed suicide and I was told to not even say his name, it was considered so shameful. Calgary in the 90's, the talk at the funeral (in a kingdom hall) was all about throwing our burdens upon Jehovah ( gag me).

  This is much the same about the memorial every Nissan 14. The congregation in Fredericton was very old school. My mother wouldn't let us listen to music or watch tv that day. The next year we moved to Halifax and I remember my mother being horrified when we were invited back to another family's house for coffee and tea.

  Nothing changes the fact that a young man is dead. Makes you want to reach out and hug your loved ones.

  Bobbi
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  Non-competes at work

  by cognac in

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  so, my work wants me to sign one.

  except, i'm now looking for another job because they significantly dropped my commission.

  i believe they can fire me if i refuse to sign so i have to stall.

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  Double check the law, I think in canada Non Competes aren't actually legally enforcible. Doesn't stop companies from making you sign them. Read over the wording very carefully and good luck with the job hunt.

  Bobbi
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  If is saw this at my kingdom hall I would return - What would you need to see to return

  by usualusername in

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  2. friends

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ib_qz6qv7ou.

  what would you need to see to return?.

  discuss........ .

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  Considering I can't even look at my bible without my chest tightening and my blood pressure soaring, nothing will get me back into any religion.

  Bobbi

  (I might still have a few issues to work thru )
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  I gotta RANT for a minute( MIL blues)

  by thecrushed in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  it's only been a month or so sense i fully awoke to the fact that my whole family for 3 generations has been fully entrenched in a cult.

  i went threw terrible drug addiction like withdraws, panic attacks, suicidal thoughts etc etc etc.

  for about a week i could barely sleep and then another all i wanted to do is sleep.

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  GET THE BOOK "TOXIC PARENTS"!!! Your wife needs it and you will learn ways to cope! Reading that book got me out faster than anything else.

  Feel free to rant and rave on here, it takes the edge off for dealing in real life with the monster in law.

  Bobbi
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  Anybody donate blood and send in the "You're Welcome Watchtower" card yet?

  by Shawn10538 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just curious if anyoner has.. you can download the ajwrb brochure from ajwrb.org, and send in the page that is pre-addressed to the watchtower society, and basically says that you have donated blood and that the blood you donated will likely be transfused int a jw saving their lives.

  it then suggests a "thank you" might be in order from ther watchtower since your own life blood was sacrificed so that jws could be saved.. i think this is a powerful action.

  i hope the wt gets lots of these cards, and i can't wait until someone posts the "thank you for the thought" (cuz we all know that's how they are going to word it right?

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  I donated blood for the first time last week! Turns out I am O+ which is the next most universal blood type after O-. Lots of wonderful information on the Canadian Blood Services website http://www.blood.ca/ .

  I posted my experience last week under the title "One more thing of my bucket list", it was very emotional for me.

  I encourage everyone to donate, what really got me was how many people you are helping even with one donation.

  Bobbi
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  guilt tripping isn't working!

  by thecrushed in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i had a ms come into my work today to encourage me to come back to the meetings.

  he asked me how i was doing and i smiled real big and told him i was doing wonderful!!!

  he was completely confused because i think i was supposed to be feeling bad and guilty for not going out in service and feeling like the wrath of jehovah was upon me.

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  HEEHHE well played Sir!

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  Were you surpised how little the "world" new about JW's after you left?

  by donny in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have been out of the jw organization for some time now and have been fairly active in discussing my adventures in watchtower with those who are interested.

  what really surprised me in the first few years after leaving was how little the "world" knew about jw's.

  we were taught that we have been warning the unwashed for 100+ years and they resist the message because satan keeps them from grasping this "good news".. in the many discussions i have had with these folks since leaving, it is amazing how little or no understanding about jw's beyond the blood issue and holidays they have.

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  One thing I have noticed since leaving the borg, is the average non JW is quite aware of how odd the witnesses are and deliberately avoid becoming entangled. They see the cult behaviors and instinctively run the other way. I have heard the witnesses described as "that crazy cult" and "the church that doesn't do christmas". What ever the impression given, it is turning people away.

  No one likes the kid who thinks they are smarter than everyone else. No one likes the co worker that tells you your religious beliefs are incorrect. No one likes the neighbour who refuses to participate in community events because they are no part of the world. No one likes the tyrant who teaches his followers to hate everyone who is not like them.

  The witnesses will fade away all on their own, we don't have to do anything, althought I do love educating all those lovely worldly people.

  Bobbi
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  Woman sent to prison for wearing a skirt that was too short

  by usualusername in

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  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vjktprgos3g.

  i agree with the judgement....

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  I was called for jury duty earlier this year and part of the instructions given to the potential jury pool was about our dress and conduct. I can imagine if people who are there doing their duty as citizens are expected to have a certain level of propriety then those who are there because of their "alleged" bad acts should be held to the same level.

  I think the woman in the shorts was hoping that by trying to "embarrass" the judge, she would get out of being punished or find a way to make money off the situation.

  I am sure she also feels that the cememtary she was driving thru when she did the hit and run on the tombstone was picking on her as well. Also she must be positive that the drug charges are just because the police are jealous of her "cute" outfit.

  As a previous boss of mine used to say "Suck it up Buttercup" and deal with the consequences of your actions.

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  quebec/ontario

  by agent zero in

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  anybody here from montreal, ottawa, or sherbrooke?.

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  Toronto area
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  "Dropping In" at the local coffee shop on Saturday mornings

  by Cinciguy74 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have to admit, i have made it a bit of a habit in the last few weeks to find myself in the local starbucks right about the time that i know the service groups will be stopping for a "quick" break, which usually goes on for about 30 minutes.. as i am not da or df, i make a note to say good morning to them and show them how nice and relaxed i am sitting, slowly enjoying my coffee.

  i even make a point to invite them to sit down with me, knowing that it will eat up a bit more of their time.

  never a "theocratic" discussion, only about local happenings usually, talking about workouts (i am normally in gym clothes since i was either at the gym or going to the gym after coffee), or just discussing plans for the weekend.

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  5 years out and I still turn into a frothing at the mouth apostate when I see them at the local coffee shop. I avoid the coffee shop around the corner when they might be there because I am afraid of what might come out of my mouth and the bad mood it puts me in for the rest of the day.

  Yes I know I shouldn't let them make me feel bad, I know I should take advantage of the situation to show them how great life is outside the borg, I am just not there yet.

  LOL just ask Para (husband) how irritated I get just seeing them! Not a happy woman.

  Bobbi