I read it over again, and even though I have been friends with Para for 15 years I learned some stuff. I have learned to live with some of his "quirks" but now I sort of kind of maybe understand him a bit better.
Bobbi
Posts by Bobbi
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10The Nerd Handbook for Non-Nerds
by Paralipomenon inhttp://www.randsinrepose.com/archives/2007/11/11/the_nerd_handbook.html.
the nerd handbook.
a nerd needs a project because a nerd builds stuff.
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Bobbi
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Tell Me About Your Jehovah's Witness Mother...If You had One!
by new boy inso since no one picked up the ball, after my thread on "your jw father".....here we go.... my mother (bless her heart) was born in kansas in 1926....her mother died in 1934, when my mother was 8 years old.
she died trying to give yourself an abortion with a coat hanger.
it was the "great depression".....she was 34 years old 4 kids and a 5th on the way...my grandfather would blow through town just long enough to "knock her up" and leave....no money....no hope.
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Bobbi
My Mother....
Born middle child to a bank teller and store clerk. Older brother is a sociopath who once tied her to the clothsline and left her there for hours. Younger brother lived in successful older brothers shadow.
Grandmother was absent, too busy playing cards and golfing.
Grandfather thought women were stupid and never expected her to achieve.
Mom was raised in a well to do family, with lots of cousins and was given lots of advantages but not much parenting.
She met my dad at community college where she was partying mostly. She made money modeling and my dad was an overweight hairy draft dodger from Madawaska. Took him months of bringing her a coffee and danish every morning for her to finally go out with him.
They got married, I was born 9 months later. Mom wasn't used to not having money (Dad is basically from poor white trash) and had never changed a diaper before I was born. Dad worked during the day, mom read books, Dad come home at 5pm and mom went to work at night. 22 months later my sister was born. Mom still had trouble with spending and resented Dad for not making enough.
In 79 when I was 4, she was contacted in the door to door ministry. She studied a long time. I think she liked the attention. Her parents never visited, her inlaws idea of helping was to steal me for a month after my sister was born with out telling her and refusing to bring me back. She never really trusted them again. I wonder why!
In 1980 ( think) Mom was baptised at a circuit assembly and my little sister blurted out that night at dinner that "Mommy went swimming". That is the earliest memory I have of my Dad yelling at Mom for hours. He refused to let my sister and I go to meetings or service but in '82 relented I think cause he was tired of babysitting all the time. Still didn't let us go in service. Mom put alot of pressure on me to follow the witnesses and stand up to my dad about the holidays. After Christmas "83 I told my dad I didn't want to do christmas at his parents anymore. Poor Daddy, I was very young but i know now how hurt he was. Mom was always mean to him, resented him having other friends and other hobbies.
Mom was unstable. She would throw these wonderful kids parties. Bake up a storm, spend hours making hats and blowing up balloons. All the kids in teh congregation loved her. But at home she was "dark". I never knew what would set her off. I grew up looking over my shoulder wondering what kind of mood mom was in. She loved my little sister and they had a lot in common.
In 1987, Dad got promoted and we had to move. She got cervical cancer and was working full time. By this time Dad was at least friendly with the brothers but my friends were never allowed to come to my house cause Dad was an unbeliever. Mom is very 'house-proud". She loved to share her house with her friends but it always started problems in the congregation. Sister Dirt Poor would start saying Mom was materialistic and vain.
In 1989 she had the first of two car accidents followed by a hysterectomy. She was so hopped up on pain meds She would forget she had kids. I think my dad had an affair around then or at least she thought he did. She worked so hard to make us seem like the perfect family but our home life was horrid.
A close friend recently told me that she bragged the reason I was so well behaved was that she used humiliation to keep me under control. Didn't take much to break my will back then either. My sister started acting out that year.
In 1994 She became very sick with Shingles. Worst case the doctors had ever seen. My sister had left home ( she was 15) Dad was working away from home and was only home Friday night to sunday night most weeks. I took care of her. This is when we thought she might have Multiple Sclerosis. Dad started studying about this time. I think he took the path of least resistance.
She was officially diagnosed with MS in 1997 but didn't want to tell anyone cause she didn't want them to pity her. All her energy was spent to get to the meetings and service. She had nothing left for anyone else. When she kept passing out at the kingdom hall I had to lie to cover the real reason.
Dad got baptised in 1995 but was still away from home a lot. He enjoyed going to meetings in all the different cities and make lots of good friends. Then he would have to come home to Mom who was getting worse and worse, My sister who was knocked up and living with us and me, the eternal screw up.
Now Mom is not well. Dad is aging way to fast. My sister has straightened out her life.
Mom says that the reason she has no friends is that she attracts users. No one stays her friend cause she drives them away by being overly critical and sanctimonious. She pioneered last year. However she didn't have the strength to be my mother or my sons grand mother. She says being in my life is too stressful and there fore doesn't want any contact with me. She doesn't even pretend to love any of us except my oldest nephew who is too young to piss her off yet.
I don't know that my mother would have been happier if the sisters had never called on our door. I think she would have always been difficult but maybe my sister and I would have had other family to lean on instead of mom driving them all away.
I worry my dad is going to drop dead I will have to take care of my mother. I am terrified of her and hate the control she still holds over me.
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The Nerd Handbook for Non-Nerds
by Paralipomenon inhttp://www.randsinrepose.com/archives/2007/11/11/the_nerd_handbook.html.
the nerd handbook.
a nerd needs a project because a nerd builds stuff.
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Bobbi
I love my Uber Geek.
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Help! I have a Xmas tree in my house!
by momzcrazy ini am sitting here looking at my very first christmas tree set up in the foyer.
a very good friend gave us a prelit 6 ft tree.
my husband brought it home last night and i just couldn't stand it anymore!.
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Bobbi
What a beautiful picture!!!
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OUCH!! i had to turn it off.
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A Party For The Elders
by Mrs. Witness inat the risk of outing myself and my hubby, i just had to run this by everyone to see if it was just me.... last night i attended a function that the women of hubby's hell put together to honor their boe.
there was much food and they put the guys up on a stage and played "name that elder" and then interviewed each one.
the mc of the event gave deep commentary regarding his feelings of each of the elders.. i thought the elders weren't special...that they were just regular joes with more responsibility...certainly not guys that should be lauded for doing what they have been given the "priviledge" of doing.... am i wrong?.
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Bobbi
Isn't honoring a person over God, Idolatry?
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Coldcreek Swimmers father just died...please include him in your prayers.
by Lady Liberty inour fellow poster, and long time family friend, cold creek swimmer called my wife and i today to let us know that he had lost his father in death yesterday.
our thoughts and prayers go out to you dear friend.
i pray that the god we love so much may give your family strength to get through the next few days.
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Bobbi
(((((((CCW))))))))))))
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Another name to add to the list of things I've been called.
by TheSilence inat work tonight someone came in with a t-shirt that read in large, bold print on the back of his shirt, "muslims suck!
" as the manager on duty i had the enjoyable task of approaching this very reasonable (tongue in cheek) fellow and explaining to him that our policy did not allow for such t-shirts and he would, therefore, have to either turn it inside out so it couldn't be read or he would be asked to leave.
his reply, "you're a f***ing muslim loving b***h!".
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Bobbi
A neighbour called me a "Fat A$$ B*tch" and a "blood clot". It was really strange, cause I am sure her butt is way bigger than mine.
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Can anyone tell me why this "test" works...this is SO SPOOKY!
by FreedomFrog inok, can anyone tell me why this works?
this is so freakin' cool.
do the test as it is instructed...don't cheat.
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Bobbi
A red hammer.
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How Did You Personally Deal With Disfellowshipped Ones?
by minimus in.....whether they were family or not??
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Bobbi
I was never comfortable with the shunning of DF'd ones. I always made a point of making eye contact and smiling if I saw one of the forsaken ones. I never avoided shops where they worked either. I guess that sounds really arrogant now, knowing what I know, but at the time it was the best I could do.
I always hated how people would hold a grudge against someone who was DF and reinstated, or just reproved. Years later I would hear "Oh you shouldn't get involved with that person cause they were publicly reproved 5 years ago".
A few weeks ago I saw a woman who was DF's several months ago. I really like this woman and was sorry to hear she was having a hard time. I tried to get the kids out of the van as fast as I could so I could go talk to her, but of course, I was too slow. NEXT TIME!!!!
Bobbi