Speed,
You raise some good questions. I don’t have any Watchtower references however I can speak from my own experience. Some years ago my wife while pregnant experienced complications and we lost our daughter. Her name if she were alive today would be ‘Sara’.
The loving elders came by to cheer my wife and I up and as part of their little visit they corrected our ‘misinformed view’ and assured us “if the baby did not take it first breath, it will not be resurrected”. Apparently that’s the organizational view but I think you would have a hard time supporting such an idea in scripture. `
That was many years ago but I still regret to this day that I didn’t do then the one thing that would have made me feel better then and even now. I should have kicked the shit out of the loving elders. Bastards!
Freeman