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  Wedding question

  by lostinthought in

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  can a witness get in trouble for attending an inactive family members wedding?

  just wondering because i am getting married this summer and my mom tried to blackmail me by saying she and other family members would attend but only if i returned to the meeting.

  i told her i am not going back to the meetings.

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  wizardca

  First, congrats. So for my wedding experience....

  I was baptized, faded and haven't done anything in over 10 years. My grandfather is a well known JW in the area, elder andformer Presiding Overseer (for 20+ years), etc. He decided that it wouldn't be appropriate for them to attend my marriage to a non-JW since I had been baptized. One of my sisters used the same excuse. My other sister attended, also a JW but on the fence depending on her mood. It is a conscience matter but you know how the WT says that and then infers you know what you are supposed to do. Could they lose privileges? Depends on the elder body and if everyone knows them to be a JW, etc. I wasn't married in a church but it ended up being a religious ceremony since they decided last min to not attend.
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  "how did we do?" service meeting part

  by nowwhat? in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the elder was just giddy with excitement!

  20,000 hours put in!

  14,000 tracts and brochures!

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  wizardca

  happily my door was skipped along with everyone else around me. :D
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  Any members here from Cornwall, UK?

  by quellycatface in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  completely understand if you don't want to reveal yourself.

  pm if you want to.. i was in a congregation in cornwall for 4 1/2 years, you see.. .

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  wizardca

  Alas, I'm in the USA. Although, my family immigrated to the USA from Cornwall. But that was in the late 1800s / early 1900s. Want to do some family ancestry research for me there? :D
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  Watchtower admonitions against unofficial pro-JW websites

  by Londo111 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  a friend of mine asked, "do you recall a watchtower or km that said the jw's are not suppose to read, or post information in defense of the watchtower on their own personal website or anyone elses website?".

  of course, there is the july 15, 2011 watchtower: what is involved in avoiding false teachers?

  we do not receive them into our homes or greet them.

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  wizardca

  When did watchtower change their tune on the internet? When it was new they were 100% against it. Now theyve embraced it and push people there
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  Do You Think Many Engaged JW Couples Fooled Around B4 Marriage?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  when i was an elder, i had a few couples approach me to confess that they either played around or went all the way.. i suspect there were many more that did not admit to it, though..

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  wizardca

  My sister "fooled around" both felt guilty, got married,divorced a few years later. Seemingly not untypical.
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  So I got engaged...

  by frogonmytoe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ...to my boyfriend, we're going to have one of those weddings ('gay' weddings to the straights).. although my jw family know i'm gay, and not going to meetings, only one of my sisters has sussed the situation.

  but i think after 3 years it's about time i told them.

  especially if sometime in the future i'll turn up with a (gay) wedding ring.

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  wizardca

  Congrats!

  Turtle....just bc one is gay doesnt necessarily equate to sodomy. Now if you will excuse me, my wifes bum is looking quite inviting. Lol
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  My first cigar

  by LivingTheDream in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my first cigar.

  not soon after i faded, i was on a company shindig and they were providing hand rolled cigars to everybody there.

  i watched in amazement as this dominican guy rolled them in front of my eyes with great care and skill.

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  wizardca

  Was out for quite awhile tried cigarettes...was ok. But then I want to try a cigar. Found I enjoyed the slow smoke and the calming affect it has on me. The cheap cigars....good for the wallet but have found them crappy on taste. Worth spending a bit on the better ones. I like the Romeo and Juliet Monte Cristo. Ooh and add some scotch on the rocks with the cigar. Don't indulge often, but have found it to be a nice treat on occasion.
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  hmm...not sure what to do...

  by wizardca in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  the wife and i found out today she is preggo!

  we aren't going to share the blessed news with family until the end of the first trimester later this year...if we can hold out and keep it a secret until then.

  but i don't know what to do with my jw fam.

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  wizardca

  The wife and I found out today she is preggo! We aren't going to share the blessed news with family until the end of the first trimester later this year...if we can hold out and keep it a secret until then. But I don't know what to do with my JW fam.

  Brief recap on me: Born-in JW. Faded away 15 years ago. Grandparents and my sisters are in. Got married 2 years ago to non-JW. I DA'd for my own sanity, but family doesn't know. Grandparents and 1 sister did not attend wedding (not held at church) because I got baptized and was marrying on non-JW. 1 sister went to wedding. Had other family (non-JWs) attend wedding. And a celebration it was! So since then, grandmother has sent wedding anniversary card with a little gift inside. Have seen grandparents once since wedding; very akward. Have seen sister who didn't attend wedding a couple times, was strained to say the least.

  So we are preggo now and I don't know what to do. I know there will be a baby shower or three held by wife's family (they have a large close family; opposite of mine). I know I should be the better person and probably should invite grandmother and sister to the shower. But really...they couldn't go to my wedding but I know they'd go to this. Is it fair to my wife to invite them? We don't really want anything to do with my sister. They will never be allowed to leech JW teachings or be left alone with child. But at same time, I feel the familial obligation to invite. I know n-non-JW cousins got knocked up and grandma all excited about great-grandchildren. I don't really want to deny her that.

  What are ya'll thoughts? Maybe it's too early to be thinking this out but my mind is running crazy with the happy news and stupid JW thoughts of do we invite pop-in. Sigh. Sorry for the ramble.
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  Dropping itty bitty bits of Truth About The Truth to other Witnesses!

  by OneDayillBeFree in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this'll probably get me disfellowshipped eventually but it's been hella fun!.

  so lately every time an opportunity arrises while speaking to other jdubs at the meetings or assemblies or even just overhearing their conversations about new light or new publications, service, anything really i drop little things that pass unoticed by most but make some stop and think for a minute.. for example, after one sunday meeting, a brother came up to me with about 5 other jdubbies to poke fun at me saying, "i thought you said you never sat at the front?!

  huh?

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  wizardca

  A fun one....Jesus was an apostate. - Think about it.
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  What is your experience when you stop turning in time?

  by gingerbread in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  for the past year or so, i've been turning in just one or two hours of service time.

  it has been mentioned to me from an elder "friend" that i'm never seen at any meetings for field service.

  i get his implication.

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  wizardca

  No phone calls. No unexpected or expected visits. No emails. No questions. :)