Was out for quite awhile tried cigarettes...was ok. But then I want to try a cigar. Found I enjoyed the slow smoke and the calming affect it has on me. The cheap cigars....good for the wallet but have found them crappy on taste. Worth spending a bit on the better ones. I like the Romeo and Juliet Monte Cristo. Ooh and add some scotch on the rocks with the cigar. Don't indulge often, but have found it to be a nice treat on occasion.
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My first cigar
by LivingTheDream inmy first cigar.
not soon after i faded, i was on a company shindig and they were providing hand rolled cigars to everybody there.
i watched in amazement as this dominican guy rolled them in front of my eyes with great care and skill.
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hmm...not sure what to do...
by wizardca inthe wife and i found out today she is preggo!
we aren't going to share the blessed news with family until the end of the first trimester later this year...if we can hold out and keep it a secret until then.
but i don't know what to do with my jw fam.
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wizardca
The wife and I found out today she is preggo! We aren't going to share the blessed news with family until the end of the first trimester later this year...if we can hold out and keep it a secret until then. But I don't know what to do with my JW fam.
Brief recap on me: Born-in JW. Faded away 15 years ago. Grandparents and my sisters are in. Got married 2 years ago to non-JW. I DA'd for my own sanity, but family doesn't know. Grandparents and 1 sister did not attend wedding (not held at church) because I got baptized and was marrying on non-JW. 1 sister went to wedding. Had other family (non-JWs) attend wedding. And a celebration it was! So since then, grandmother has sent wedding anniversary card with a little gift inside. Have seen grandparents once since wedding; very akward. Have seen sister who didn't attend wedding a couple times, was strained to say the least.
So we are preggo now and I don't know what to do. I know there will be a baby shower or three held by wife's family (they have a large close family; opposite of mine). I know I should be the better person and probably should invite grandmother and sister to the shower. But really...they couldn't go to my wedding but I know they'd go to this. Is it fair to my wife to invite them? We don't really want anything to do with my sister. They will never be allowed to leech JW teachings or be left alone with child. But at same time, I feel the familial obligation to invite. I know n-non-JW cousins got knocked up and grandma all excited about great-grandchildren. I don't really want to deny her that.
What are ya'll thoughts? Maybe it's too early to be thinking this out but my mind is running crazy with the happy news and stupid JW thoughts of do we invite pop-in. Sigh. Sorry for the ramble.
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Dropping itty bitty bits of Truth About The Truth to other Witnesses!
by OneDayillBeFree inthis'll probably get me disfellowshipped eventually but it's been hella fun!.
so lately every time an opportunity arrises while speaking to other jdubs at the meetings or assemblies or even just overhearing their conversations about new light or new publications, service, anything really i drop little things that pass unoticed by most but make some stop and think for a minute.. for example, after one sunday meeting, a brother came up to me with about 5 other jdubbies to poke fun at me saying, "i thought you said you never sat at the front?!
huh?
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wizardca
A fun one....Jesus was an apostate. - Think about it.
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What is your experience when you stop turning in time?
by gingerbread infor the past year or so, i've been turning in just one or two hours of service time.
it has been mentioned to me from an elder "friend" that i'm never seen at any meetings for field service.
i get his implication.
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wizardca
No phone calls. No unexpected or expected visits. No emails. No questions. :)
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MIL letter to my wife
by AggieNostic inbackground: my wife and i are inactive, we stopped attending in 2005. raised as jws, were pioneers, i was elder etc... .
our kids are in college, also inactive but are baptised.
my wife went back to college, getting her degree this month at age 48!
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wizardca
The letter really doesn't surprise me. I'm a 3rd generation born-in that faded and eventually years later DA'd for my own sanity but never told the family. Got married to a non-JW at a secular location with the reception at a secular location. My sister didn't attend the wedding or reception and nor did grandparents. Their reasoning was that I was baptized to the WT a JW and was marrying a non-JW so they couldn't attend. But we really should socialize together. WTF!? Funny how my mother married my non-JW father and the grandparents attended that wedding. It is a sad thing that some JW's pride themselves in following the WT line when they deem it must be followed but can look the other way at other things (a call to say "I remember when you were born XX number of years ago" but this isn't a happy birthday call!). I find it amazing that they will support and give every indication of they will attend and support you but at the last minute, New Light TM appears and it changes. I wouldn't be surprised if New Light TM says not to go to the graduation. Sadly.
I assume the parents are older, set in their beliefs and ways. Attacking what they've followed and had ingrained in their minds for decades really won't solve anything. If anything it may drive a wedge deeper and reinforce their attacking points. JWs do emotional blackmail well (experienced countless times). A non-response or a a simple "love is unconditional for you, siblings, children and friends transcends religious beliefs. The familial bond should be unbreakable and there for all". But alas, wasn't there a recent WT article that the WT bond is more important than the familial one? I try not to keep up too much on which way WT thoughts blow this week vs last week. But I digress. Exemplify love through actions, they speak louder than words.
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POLL: How long did you remain a JW from point of baptism to leaving the KH
by Terry ini was baptised --1963. left in 1978. fifteen years.
pre-baptism, another 5 years.
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born-in
baptized: 16
faded: 18
da'd: 33
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What were your favorite assembly foods?
by NoRegrets inso i'm young enough to not remember having hot prepared meals at assemblies, but heard all about it from my parents and the like.
but what i do remember were all of the cold sandwiches and institutional snacks and soda.
remember the food tickets we started to use?
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wizardca
Too young to remember the hot food. Do remember the food at the Cow Palace and at the Fremont Assembly Hall. I loved those yellow rectangle coupons for food. Never got to prep food in Fremont just sweep and mop the floors. I did once at the Cow Palace get to help out in food prep by breaking down cardboard boxes. It was boring but was something to do when I got there at 7am. ugh.
I loved the burritos and chicken sandwiches, first things to go. The hoggies and roast beef sandwiches, the puddings were one of the best choice. Ah, memories of the still frozen tin foil covered OJ containers. I seem to recall Fremont had the self serve ice cream with the choice of strawberry or chocolate toppings. Forgot about that!
I was so bummed when they did away with the food service. Brown bag lunches and heaven-forbid if you wanted to go into Fremont for forage for food or the McD's down the street in SF because you will lose time associating with your brothers and sisters! LOL My last DC I went to...bailed for a good lunch in the City and never came back.
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birthdays and baby showers
by wizardca inmy dad is turning a milestone number this month and decided he needed to celebrate a bit so the wife and i are putting together a birthday party for him.
two of my siblings are jws and 1 is not; nor is dad.
invited everyone to the celebration and of course got the "we don't celebrate birthdays" rsvp.
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wizardca
My dad is turning a milestone number this month and decided he needed to celebrate a bit so the wife and I are putting together a birthday party for him. Two of my siblings are JWs and 1 is not; nor is dad. Invited everyone to the celebration and of course got the "we don't celebrate birthdays" RSVP. Which got me thinking. I do know JWs celebrate births of new babies, ie. baby showers. Aren't baby showers just a different name for having a birthday party/celebrating the birth of a child? Is it just me or is that a bit hypocritical? How is a baby shower any different than a birthday party? If we had called it celebrating 75 years of dad's life vs 75th birthday party they would have attended? LOL
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Quick question, did you feel lonely at the meetings even though you were part of the action?
by Theocratic Sedition injust curious, something i've noticed only lately.
i'm in the mix within the congregation, stay late after the meeting is over, converse with quite a few people afterwards, make plans for saturday and sometimes sunday service and yet i feel so awfully alone walking to my car afterwards.
i feel lonely when i'm talking and laughing with people after the meeting.
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wizardca
For me, always felt alone. My father wasn't a JW but the majority of my family was. Always felt like I was judged or punished for that. Was never part of the cool kids club and pretty much was left feeling alone while at the KH, the rare gathering I was invited to, etc. Funny enough, it was after I left and started meeting people in the "world" is when that feeling of being alone went away. Was accepted with open arms and made to feel part of their family and with that alone feeling leaving.
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The quickening has begun
by trujw inok is it just me or does there seem to be a surge of new brothers and sisters on this site?
do tell where are you from?
i am from northern california anyone from around here?
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wizardca
SF Bay Area