Wives be in subjection to your husbands.
Boy, do too many people interpret THAT statment the wrong way! First of all, being in subjection to someone doesn't mean that they must beat the shit out of you. At work, I'm in subjection to my boss, but if he hit me, I'd kick his ass into next week! For someone to truly be in subjection to you, they first have to respect you. Without respect, there is no headship. If you aren't a person worthy of respect, nobody would ever subject themselves to you, nor should they. A man who beats or otherwise abuses his wife isn't worthy of respect and should not hold a position of headship at home, and definitely in the congregation.
Now, let's look at the other side of the coin: if you are a Jehovah's Witness, you probably have a good understanding of what is to be expected in the marriage relationship as taught by the WBTS. The husband is to be the head of the family and the wife it to be in subjection to the husband. This relationship may work for some, if not most, of married couples. But, if you are the type of man who can't get his shit together and be effective in the role as described, why on earth would you ever consider getting married? Likewise, if you are a woman who just can't see herself in the role of wife as defined by the "Organization", why in the hell would you ever consider getting married? I think too many JWs make that mistake. They think that just because they happen to set foot in a Kingdom Hall several times a week that means that they have mastered the fine art of marriage by osmosis. It just doesn't work that way. There are many different types of personalities out there, and one size doesn't fit all. Most JWs are in such a hurry to get married to the first person they can get their hands on because there just aren't that many choices to pick from in the JW world. As a result, women get married to men who think that their special position as husband means that they can treat their wives like punching bags. Also, many JW men get married to women who absolutely run roughshod all over their husbands because they know they can, because divorce isn't an option for JWs who desire to remain in good standing with the congregation.
The best advice is to first examine yourself and find out what type of person YOU are and then based on that knowledge find out what type of person you're compatible with and what type of relationship you'd like to be in. Usually, if somebody is in a big hurry to get married, there's usually a good reason why. Usually, that reason is that they want to sink their hooks into you before enough time goes by for you to discover what a nutjob they are. By the time you discover what a nutjob they are, it's too late because you're already married.
